Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 27)

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part 27? good god

Ok, overdue new (potential) man update...

I'd love to call him carrot, but flame beat me to it...I have a vicious veg calendar and he's a carrot on that so it's sort of stuck in my mind! Will have to come up with something else.

Haven't met him yet, but we've been texting/emailing several times a day for over a week. Since Wednesday, we've also spoken for an hour or more each evening after the kids are in bed. He lives about 40 miles away but works in central London, is the resident parent of 2 boys and I can't wait to meet him on Saturday

As for the others...
Cyclist: can't really be bothered any more, he's never around

H&S man: lovely guy, but still unconvinced he's the one for me. He reminds me of my running buddy, with whom I've had a purely platonic friendship for over five years - I adore him, but I don't fancy him much. We have a long-standing date this Thursday, which is date 3. Since I've not managed to get past date 3 with anyone since I started this internet dating lark, I guess it could be our last!

Sorry for name stealing :o Hope your date goes well

I am pissed off with Earl. I didn't desperately want to see him again, but he contacted me after a week of nothing, suggested meeting up, and now silence again!

I reactivated my POF profile but nothin happening at all. I sent a couple of messages but have had no responses. No messages recieved. I normally get something, even if it is freaks!

lilac, hope your like him when you meet-up, good luck.

I've only had a couple of messages on POF for a while but had a look through last week and there isn't anyone within a reasonable distance that I would respond to. Might delete my profile.

Hi All, Just to say Mum passed away peacefully this morning with me and my brothers holding her hand

elasta i dont know what to say

i am so very sorry for your loss, please be kind to yourself and i am sending you much love and support at such a difficult time

my mum died in a similar situation, and looking back i still feel v grateful for being with her at the time, despite how heartbreaking it is

thinking of you xxx

Thanks Lou, she had a good weekend with everyone here to visit her, then a couple of awful nights with just me and her nurse. But she was very peaceful yesterday and last night. Both my brothers came over and we had quite good night all sitting with her until morning and chatting.

Am now making some arrangements and then will be heading home later to see my boys. The house seems really strange and very quiet without her in it.

elasta (((((()))))) much love for you here as well, and every sympathy.

I saw my mum the night she died, I wasnt with her at the end (I was only 21 and really didnt think I could cope with seeing someone die, especially as her illness had been v sudden) but was still grateful for that last bit of time with her.

Please cherish every wonderful memory you have of her. will also be thinking of you.

Elasta - I'm so sorry to hear about your mum. Thinking of you x x

Elasta, sorry to hear your news, stay strong. xx

Elasta - so sorry to hear your news but glad to hear your brothers and you were with her. Thinking of you, stay strong and be good to yourself xx

Oh Elasta :( Sending all the love in the world.

elasta, thinking of you and your family xx

Mentioning the lack of messages seems to have helped. Now talking to Unicorn. He seems to be finding me being easily distracted and talking complete gibberish appealing. :o

i feel a bit shit posting about ephemeral stuff like xmas presents given the circumstances, but i just wanted to say that bf has topped his wonderful self this evening, by turning up and handing me his debit card, telling me he got paid today so go empty his bank account to get the kids some stuff for xmas

i tried refusing but he insists, because he says he is getting paid early next time so will have more wages by xmas eve

elasta i doubt you are online reading this, but i do hope you are ok, i keep thinking of you wishing i was closer

x

Sending you much love elasta, glad you were with her, I was with my Grandmother when she died and somehow it made it easier (although I do know that it's not the same loss). (((hugs)))

Good news re xmas shopping, lou

Wow! to all the men MzD, dates are obviously like buses with you- all coming at once

Still feeling really rubbish, doctor has taken bloods to test for glandular fever and something else. Have been told to rest, but my 3year old has other ideas. She's being really good, but doesn't really get it- she keeps asking if I'm better yet and when I say "no" she sighs and says "boring", poor soul!
Never mind, if I can just get through the next week, then DD goes away for a few days with her dad and my Mum will be here by the time she comes back.

Hello to everyone else I'm off to send DS to bed so that I can go too, night night x

hi all,

thaks for your wishes everyone, have been lurking and reading

Am home now at last. Feeling a little strange and sad but broadly OK. I think this is mostly because mum and I had no unresolved issues in our relationship. We had shared how much we loved each other and I had the opportunity to thank her for being such a wonderful mum.

Have arranged the funeral for early next week as she said to me on sunday that she didnt want to be hanging around getting cold whilst we decided what to do!!!

My friends have all rallied round which is lovely. Had a long talk with radioman on the way home and will try to meet up probably after christmas as I am worn out, have a shocking cold and need a while to re group and next week will be taken up with family and funeral. He was very kind and understanding, but I'm not really in the dating frame of mind and dont really feel like blubbing to a virtual stranger.

I also have another potential date that I am going to see over the holidays when the boys are away and I am feeling better. An old flame from university that never really happened has tracked me down off the internet and we have been exchanging e mails for a couple of months now. Quite curious to see if the spark is still there after about 20 years apart.

Mum would have approved. She was an amazingly positive woman with a real zest for life. She dated an american airman in the war before she met and married my father (for 50 yrs until he died). She was always asking me if I had met anyone yet and telling me that she hoped I would find myself another man

Hey elasta, huge ((((((((((())))))))))
Much love and warm thoughts

Elasta sending sympathy and warm thoughts your way. xxxxx

Elasta Big hugs to you and your family xxxx

I haven't been on in a while as super busy with moving etc and today i had a tooth extraction so just resting.

Hi to all though.I will try to catch up soon

Elasta - I'm very sorry to hear this, my deepest sympathy and thoughts for your family. xx

Gosh today is dragging at work. Thought I'd say hi.

Nothing to report here, was meant to see Salesman last Friday night but couldn't be bothered.

Was meant see LG tonight but he cancelled, babysitting problems. Was quite pleased as couldn't be bothered either.

Not going on the dating sites anymore, had a good scan on POF and there is no-one I am remotely interested in.

Not feeling very happy atm. DD is really struggling at school and I'm worried. She reads mumsnet so if she reads this then yes your mum is worried and you need to get off this, facebook and I player and get your books out!

Elasta, you sound as though you are coping OK, probably on autopilot. xx Hope it goes well with your old friend.

Eve - sorry that your daughter is causing conern - my son although not as far on as your daughter educationally never seems to do any homework and also got a detention in English (a subject he's quite good at) for not doing some work.

When are her exams?

He has sats or similar in January (he's year 9)

Small piece of news on the fit and interesting front - there is a slight frisson (can a frisson be unspoken) between me and man on boat - can I call him boatman.

Have often clocked him but never actually thought anything of it - we prob have a mutual friend (also travels on it) and just recently have just felt a slight flicker and think it might be recipricated (can never spell that word).

Think he may have been clocking me too.

It would be easy to strike up a convo with him but not sure if I will. But quite attractive. Just a frisson.

@ sin - think it's reciprocated but know what you mean.

Had date today with s&m man - nice but no spark (not even a flicker of one ....)

Oh well, got theatreguy on Friday and Mrbetterbeworthit on Monday.

And Elasta - bit of a weird Jewish tradition but just wanted to say l'chaim - long life - to you and your family. Hope all is going well - and that it goes well with university bloke.

SCL, she had module exams in January and unless she pulls something out the bag it's not looking good. I am explaining that it's no good blaming the teaching, which isn't great, but she needs to study at home.

I'm nagging all I can and hopefully it's sinking in. At A level you need to live and breathe these exams.

Boatman, nice to have an interest.

'has' not had.

Mz, shame no spark but is there ever? Or if there is they turn out to be players. IME, I give up.