Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 27)

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part 27? good god

congratulations lou and mrlou xxxxx

Hi All,

Congrats Lou,

and sponge, I know how you must feel. I have had an Ok day with my boys. Have been signed off by work until next year as they think I need a break.

So I went and got some ski boots for my eldest as it is going to snow and if we get enough we are going to build a big ramp in one of the steepest fields and all do some jumps and stuff. Then we all went climbing for a couple of hours before fish and chips on the way home.

But I couldnt help thinking it would be nice not to always be doing this on my own. It would be lovely if there was someone out there who just really cared about me. I know it wont happen anytime soon and I am just a bit worn out with all my energy going on caring for everyone else.

Dreading christmas. Especially the bit after when the boys are away and I shall be on my own

Hi all,

Hugs to you, elasta.

Congrats lou and DP :)

The policeman has disappeared on me, ignored two texts last night and one this morning AND a voicemail at lunch time. So much for that one...

Did manage to have date 3 with H&S guy tonight though, and I kept my resolution and didn't go near his hotel room. The evening passed really quickly and we had a great time. We're meeting again next Thursday, will be the first time I've reached date 4 with anyone since all this started. He'll be in another Heathrow hotel and I might even go up to his room

Last day of school tomorrow and last day with the b*tch headteacher from hell, I can't wait.

morning
FFS landlord wants us out in July 2011 as he wants to renovate the house (it does need a new kitchen, bathroom and generally smartening up.

Im assuming this is legit as its a short term tenancy even though we've been here for 4 years.

And of course it may turn out OK but my plan was to stay here til mid 2012 when we would find out ds2s secondary school allocation.

There's removal costs plus having to find a deposit before you've got your own back.

Ah well off Xmas shopping now. Back later

I've got my works do starting lunch time. DD curled my hair and it looks ok for a change. The object of my attention cannot make the frivolity that goes on later. Perhaps it's for the best after last year .

Looking forward to breaking up next Wednesday for the best part of two weeks. Christmas dinner plans are questionable as my family have had problems and might not be able to make it. Fingers crossed.

Damn my bright red nail varnish is chipping already.

Lilac, why do men do that?? It really saddens me that men now generally think it is ok just not to return a womans call and she will hopefully just dissapear. I wouldnt do that to anyone. If I think something is going no where I will always let them know. Ignoring someone you have been out with a few times is just downright rude.

Think I might be getting the same from radioman. Have not heard from him since earlier this week. Now I know he is busy but not even a txt asking how things are. Lovely

nice to see you posting elasta :)

can i get a general yay or nay to my question please? which is

the kids have tried for 3 days to get hold of their father, but his phones are still off

today they got ONE card in the post between them, from him, no money or mention of gifts, or seeing them before xmas, just happy xmas ilu

now do i email him to let him know they have been trying to get hold of him, and ask when he wants to see the kids,or just do nothing and see if he makes contact?

i suspect he thinks he can avoid getting them anything by not being available, and if he doesnt see them beforehand he doesnt need to spend out

this adds up more now i think back to him discussing dd2's birthday present

he ignored any q's about xmas and just kept saying he would get her something for her birthday (which is 4 days later)

i am half tempted to get in the car and go knock his door down to get some answers, but i know it would be pointless

Wow there are some shit men out there!

Woohoo for date 3 happening lilac.

I am texting Unicorn a lot. There is certainly a lot of text based, ahem, chemistry. Not overly convinced by his photo but if this much spark is there in rl i don't think i care . Never been like this with a man in my life, especially one I've not met! It's fun. I am enjoying the sieze the day, sow oats, embrace my inner slut theory. No danger of hearts being broken which i kinda need atm.

Out with mate tomorrow night. I am really looking forward to it. It is my first night out in town properly single and my pills have kicked back in so i have confidence. Deliberately went for coffee today as i fancied flirting and the guy there is always good for that.

I think i may have too many hormones!!

Lou... yes mail him

Ohh, have just had 4 telephone conversations with university man over the evening as we were both in and out of sorting out our respective chldren. It was lovely, as we have some history, but havent met for about 20 years!! He is coming up to see me for lunch after christmas, am really looking forward to it

elasta, that sounds fun.

Yes, flame, way too many hormones! Enjoy it while it lasts :)

We had a sudden blizzard yesterday lunchtime but no so bad that we got snowed in the pub, unfortunately. The bonus was that H&S man was supposed to be flying to Newcastle at 5.30 but his flight got cancelled and he came over here and stayed the night instead! We had a lovely time and he has a lot of potential :)

No domestic flights between 10 and 5 today but he was rebooked at 7.20 this morning so he got up at 5 and left my place at 5.45. It's snowing heavily again now so I'm not sure how he'll get back tomorrow.

I'm supposed to be going to Devon tomorrow. Mum says I have to come because she's bought loads of food! I can put it off until Monday if necessary but no later than that as I have to be back on Thursday.

Wrap up warm, girls. Anyone still Christmas shopping? I have a HUGE M&S giftcard from lovely parents at school but I'm not going out to spend it in this weather. One parent gave me an enormous Harrods gift bag containing a xmas pud, a pen, a bag, a chocolate bar and a photo frame. So I took the photo frame out of the box and there's a message inside it from the directors of Harrods thanking me for all my hard work in 2010

Six inches of snow since 8am. My car is now snowed in since i dropped dd1 to work at that time. She finishes in an hour but cant get her. Dp doesnt finish til 5 today. Have called her work and told them i cant get there til about six (dp is going to come down in one of the 4 x 4's from work and get her)

ffs give me strength

exh has had his phones off for 4 days now, yet he manages to send me this

"I have sent a letter to the kids explaining my position this christmas

I would appreciate it if you do not put me down when they read this,
I realise it would be natural for you too do this, but doing that does nothing for the kids bar make them feel worse"

fucking bastard

i think he means it will only make him feel worse

i edited my reply from what i felt like like saying to something more neutral and replied with this

" they have been trying to call you for 4 days now but you have your phones off like you promised you wouldnt do again

if you posted the letter it is unlikely to get here with the snow

you should call them really to explain

its a bit of a cop out not doing it in person dont you think?"

OMG I AM READY TO EXPLODE WITH RAGE!

I should have just replied " and a yohoho to you too you fucking wanker"

do i tell the kids i have had the email and kind of pave the way or say nothing?

ffs my blood id boiling, when i think about it

ive had sleepless nights worrying about how to afford to get their presents, but even if it had been a fiver each i wouldve got them something

i think i am speechless now

Oh Lou, difficult one. I used to e mail my ex when he was a thoughtless twat and tell him what the kids thought and usually he would take it and do the right thing.

More recently I have started telling the kids if things arent great with their dad as there are some things, i.e. non payment of his part of the school fees that I simply cant hide as it has such a massive impact on our household. #

Its a difficult balance between being honest enouhg with the children and not dissing the other parent.

Enough, even!

And nothing doing with radioman.

Had a chat this morning. He is away this weekend and not back til sun night. His weekend home is a couple of hours away. I am away mon-thur for mums funeral then he is away Thur until after new year with his kids staying, whereas I am here with the kids, dogs, horses etc. He said it is difficult with him living in 2 places as he is only local during the week

Not going to happen is it??

@ lou - I'd leave it for the moment - see if they ask/comment. You know my situation - mine have sort of given up asking whether their dad has sent them anything for their birthday/xmas - though dd did ask why he couldn't come and see her and why he didn't phone anymore ...

@ elasta - maybe it's time to concentrate on yourself for the moment - it doesn't seem to be not happening because he's not interested but more because for various reasons it's not possible .... does that make sense? Maybe just wrong time/wrong place atm?

what do you lot think of this - I find it very creepy but not sure why ... (sorry , it's a bit long)

'I read through your profile and strikingly I love it, the originality and simplicity. am guessing it's either the way I read it,or It answers some of the questions am asking,or there is just something about you;it portrays an interesting "Calm and interesting read" kind of profile.But what struck me the most of your photo was your hair and cheek...I love your hair has this natural bounce,I could only imagine the way it sells after washing and drying, and your cheek got me smiling..lol...love the energy in your photo and you are pretty, I must admit,to me beauty is not what you see but what your heart and tell,and what energy you photo can transfer.Like they say,"only happy people can give happiness".You seem like the happy type.

I'm sure you get tons of emails and compliment from men on here.If I may add the first question that came across my mind, when I saw your picture was,"why would a pretty woman like you be single?"...

However,are you TRUELY single???..I am trying to wrap my head round that.Though the story is not same for all.Quick question of curiosity.
Is this how your hair is right now? I really like it very simple and nice:)

he sounds like a freak

i have decided not to mention it to them, especially after getting this from him, replying to me

" not a cop out, is the way to explain to them all at the same time, cannot do that on the phone.
phones off for my own reasons, can always be got on email "

..............

actually i have done a sort of compromise

i have not told them about the letter, but i have told them that i emailed saying they had been trying to call him for 4 days, and his reply was to say it was off for his own reasons, and to email him

am gobsmacked by his effrontery - what a gobshite! My ex comes out with the same crap and then has the effing front to tell the kids how much he loves and misses them -I have to stop myself from telling him that being a father isn't something you can turn on or off or just forget about when it suits you 'for personal reasons'.

And glad to know it's not just me re freaky guy. Something about his message just weirded me out!

How are you all bearing up in the awful weather? Hope you are all ok. It looks really bad from what I see in the news. Lots of sympathy from the frozen north.

Off to catch up with thread now

Elasta - was thinking about you and how you were doing. Glad work have signed you off for a bit, sounds like you could do with some time off.

lou - see your XH has excelled himself again with twattish behaviour. Thank god you and the kids have your lovely DP. Hope he's ok out and about in the snow. Think you have made the right decision re twatex.

Mzd - sounds like a creep
to me. Ick.

Not much happening for me on the man front and not much bothered. Wondering if Im giving off a don't fuck with me vibe! Meh.

he is a piece of work isnt he?

next he will be telling them to make an appointment to speak to him

mzd, he sounds like a foreigner who will shortly be asking for your bank details in order to give you the million pounds he needs a good home for.

lou, your ex is a twat, I agree.

Sitting here on my own wrapping pressies and watching Bridget Jones. Oh, and swapping texts with H&S man who is telling me how much he misses me :)