Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 27)

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part 27? good god

have previously got om very well and seen each other quite a bit. i'm not sure if he's worried about bills or not, he doesn't really say how he feels, it's like a closed book or is that a man thing lol

thanks xx

Aurora. . . . Stoppit!

That is me talking sense to you :)

3 months is very very early days. STOP IT.

He will have something completely unrelated going on in his head :)

you are over thinking it all aurora

you have probably thought he was behaving coldly towards you because you were making him late, and he was probably thinking you were feeling nervous about the evening, hence the quiet trip

whereas as women we would say how lovely someone looked when all done up, men are more laid back with their wording, so maybe it was his way of giving approval

wrt feeling a bit left out, i would imagine that it didnt even occur to him, and he assumed you would just slot right in and just get on with it

dont take it to heart, and maybe (dont stone me) he could have a small point about you might be looking for things to push him away because you are nervous at how well it has been going?

its not uncommon to behave like that if i am right, so chin up woman!

elasta, sorry to hear about your mum, i dont say much about your situation but i do feel for you having been through it myself

you did absolutely the right thing by cancelling, and if he doesnt genuinely understand and hold that against you, then he can go sit with the other nobbers, quite frankly

i knew i could rely on you ladies to put me straight lol thanks i do appreciate it

elasta - i agree with what lou said about cancelling ((((())))

I wouldn't be comfortable with a guy proposing to me within less than three months of meeting then making me feel uncomfortable at his works do.

Sorry if I am out of order Aurora but I think you need to take a breather.

Maybe it's just me as I know a few of our fil have met men who have been full on and are now very happy.

Hi All, Thanks for your thoughts and messages. Mum is really weak, cant get out of bed, it has taken two of us to get her up to the loo, on a commode and back into bed a couple of times in the night. She slept most of yesterday with me or one of my brothrs holding her hand, expect today will be about the same. Am staying tonight and tomorrow as boys ar with their dad, then I need to be home mon night to pick them up.

Its a difficult one to kow what to do next. I could bring the kids down here as they finished school on Friday but they are desperately fed up with shuttling back and forwards and just want a few days at home.

Just taking each day at a time.

Am not going to worry about radioman. He will either stay in touch or he wont

Elasta - sending you hugs and support. Wish i could help but think you are doing the right thing. Re your boys, try and explain to them why you want to spend time with your mum - I'm sure they'll understand

And to make my life even happier than it already is (two sick kids, had to cancel evening out last night and dd just had the most spectacular nosebleed I've ever seen ... was amazed at the amount of blood that came out of such a small nose!) - I have just had some random eejit on OKC who fancies himself as a erotic masseur/escort offering his services - TonyFreex - for anyone who fancies a laugh. Anyone think of a suitably cutting reply?

Elasta I can remember when my mum was very ill and DD was 5, it being a really difficult time. My Dsis had much more time to be there for mum which was good because they became much closer towards the end of her life whereas, mum did invest quite a bit more time and energy with me when she was well, probably because I was on my own.

Thinking of you Elasta xxx

Aurora - I can remember two occasions when XH made me feel like I looked amazing. I know that he thought it many more times, but actually saying it was rare.

I want to be sane please. My mum rang me this morning worried I had killed myself as I hadn't been answering texts (was asleep). What does it say about my mental state if my mum leaps to suicide decision instead of sleep!? :(

Stalking pretty man at motorbike shop. Mate knows him (vaguely) it turns out and is going to get him chatting etc :)

Flame, I hate it when someone close isn't responding and my mind works overtime. Perhaps your mum just worries a lot. Hope you are coping OK.

Aurora hope thing are going OK for you now.

Everyone has gone very quiet on here. Most pposters are on the sofa now. I've got 5 days of work ahead of me, Friday is the office do so 4 days really. Wish me luck, must remember not to drink too much don't want to be looking for a new job.

eve, I've been a bit quiet but I'm lurking most nights! Last week was mad, I promise to post properly soon and tell you all about the latest man

flying place marking visit from me..will try and post in more detail tomorrow. Off to put up my Xmas decs now and try to get into Xmas spirit.....

Hey all

Elasta, (((((((((((()))))))))))) and what they all said re Radioman

Flame, more (((((((()))))))) and lol at stalking motorbike man

Aurora I feel for you, can you chat it through with him? IMHO if he got to the stage of proposing he should be able to chat through how you felt that evening

MZ, definitely what the others said about TheatreMan

Lou, can't wait to see you on the telly

Soooooo. TLM sick as anything Thursday night, all night and couldn't stand up Friday morning. Which would have been a 'normal' day off sick for him but it was collection day for him for his DD1 from boarding school so I took the day off and drove to Cheltenham with my DD2 to collect his DD1......felt a bit funny driving up tot the school but she was really happy to see me so that stopped it feeling too awkward. And not sure what else we could have done.

My DDs went to XH's Saturday afternoon through to yesterday eve so TLM and I had a really lovely time with his DD - she is a sweetie and loves the rough and tumble of wider family life but I think glad to have a break from my 2 and time with her dad

Went stalking fancy dress man today. He is the lovely mate's colleague but she tells me he is too young at 20.

Right - have at long sorted date with S&M Man - meeting for lunch on Wednesday, have got Theatreman on Friday and MrBetterbeworthitafterwaitingfiveyears on Monday .... and have set my heart on a nice Frenchman who lives only down the road - when can I fit him in?

I've not heard from Earl since Thursday for no apparent reason and was meant to be seeing him this week some time.

I have no other interest apart from one freaky looking bloke on POF

May go annoy FDB (fancy dress bloke) again tomorrow as I actually have an excuse. He is very friendly, but I suspect he is like that with everyone. Motorbike stalking won't be til at least late week.

I don't even have much in the way of dwarf company lined up this week afaik due to family commitments and something about a table (it was a very long story with far more details than I needed).

Ooh found the biker on FB :o

(Obv not adding him or anything... that would make me completely nuts :o)

Sorry I haven't posted in ages but have had one of those weeks where everything turns to shite and was deliberately staying away from the computer.

lou - what can I say, you will make a great diva!

aurora - agree you are overthinking it a bit. Much sympathies as I have been know to do this myself!

flame - hope you are beginning to feel better. I find I often get the whizzy mind thing too and it can be exhausting. I hope you are managing to find a balance.

Mzd - theatre man sounds very nice, and if he is offering then take him up on it.

elasta - so sorry to hear about your mum, agree with others you have done the right thing cancelling.

To everyone who is having money worries...I'll join you on the skinty threadbare sofa

Oh while I remember.

Don't know if anyone recalls that bloke I went on a date with and was disappointed cos it didn't work out etc.

Anyway I accidentally texted him (genuine mistake, not some accidentally on purpose thing. I got a text back asking 'what does this mean??!!'. As I was replying with an apology I got a stroppy text accusing me of playing mind games and why didn't I just say if I wasn't interested. As I was slightly pissed off by this I replied in the affirmative (ie Ok, I'm not interested..wouldn't have been so blunt but I was pissed off anyway).

Then I got a response back saying 'It doesn't hurt to be polite, does it'.

I bit back the response I really wanted to send, which would have been, lets say, not very polite at all and simply ignored as I did NOT want to engage.

So much for letting someone down gently eh? Ho hum.

Janos, that will teach you to keep your phone contacts updated! Easy for me to say, since I wiped mine completely last week but if a guy's not current then he's history and he has no business lurking in my address book.

Sentimental, me? Definitely not!

I very rarely delete numbers. Don't know why. Might do it before the new year could be theraputic.

Still waiting to hear about this new man Lilac.

lilac - what can I say, lesson learnt! He has now been deleted.