Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 26)

[BlackFLAMECandle]

Oooh brand new thread!

Lol Lou :o

He's got a problem somewhere that's for sure!

I don't think so. Dunno. He seems just genuinely too scared to take the leap. Meh. Have pointed out he'll waste his life like that and i WILL meet someone else.

He's gone for more wine atm

tell him to get a backbone and some condoms while he's out

Sorry, that was rude - but he's starting to get on my nerves now so god knows how you're putting up with it!

Lmao!!! I have those...

Okay - so just a spine to get then!

friends..... benefits....

we had similar issues to MILY (was it MILY?) due to wine consumption.

Take 2 is planned though.

Hangover bad.

Thankfully it is nursery morning so i can lose kids and crawl into bed.

flame, at least you tried! Woo hoo!

Ohh Flame! Well done you! Sure it will work out once you get the wine balance right

Sticking with tea from now on

Maybe just a glass to get you in the mood. Mind you, my last encounter that went way too far, I was stony cold sober and it didnt stop me behaving like a lust struck teenager

I think now the whole morals and crap is over, the mood thing won't be an issue.

Yay Flame , we don't need to hunt carrot out and pin him down for you

Had a lovely time saturday, v lovely RL friends came for the afternoon and insisted on kicking me out for a few hrs child-free with RAF, so we went shopping and he bought me the most beautiful jade green, draped (sort of Greek/classical) evening dress for the mess dinner. He insisted on buying it as is his silly work that has the rules around dress length
Spent the eve with him and the dds and it felt like we'd been together 10 years.
Yesterday dd1 said 'I think Mark should be your boyfriend'......so that's alright then
Then long tearful (happy) chat with my mum last night about where I am in my life and what all this with RAF might mean.....

Feel this morning like the rest of my life is so full of potential happiness, I could burst

Better go and do some work now......

Aww that is so lovely!

just catching up with you all..sounds like lots of good news on the thread.

Looks like I am the lone voice of failure. I finally text WM to ask him for a drink, I said I thought he might need cheering up re surgery he's been told he might need. He replied and said he's not having it.

So I guess thats my answer . Story of my life :(

Sponge
Maybe leave him to his own devices for a few days and let absemce make the heart grow fonder? Start looking elsewhere and he may realise what he is missing

((((((()))))))

Hang on Sponge, I'm assuming he said he wasn't having surgery not that he wasn't having a drink - and by implication - anything to do with you ...

And even if that were true, it is very much his loss and not at all yours.

OH sorry sponge, thats a real shame!! But at least you know that its probably not going to happen. Having spent months last yr mooning around after someone who turned out not to be interested, I know it is much better to know where you stand, at least you can move on.

MILY How lovely for you, really good to hear it is working out

Nooo sponge! :(

I don't know. Spoke to one of my friends who doesn't think its a definite no - her view is that he may not have realised it was a date, and because he isn't having the op, simply said so. He did send me several texts after that. However she may just be being kind :)

Will see him at a party in 2 weeks anyway. Won't text him in the meantime, will leave ball in his court. Is not like I will meet anyone else in the meantime (and as he never goes out nor will he!)

I refer you to me message above - he's a man for f's sake - they respond to the explicit message -ie are you having the operation - not the implicit eg do you want to go for a drink with me? Mind you I think he is a particularly obtuse specimen and that you are going to have to make it blatantly obvious that your intentions are not strictly honourable!

I'm with kdk

ok, guess I should jump on him at the party then, so as to make it absolutely clear how I feel

agree he is obtuse and also quite unlike other blokes I know (which is part of the attraction). He's the first man I've met who admits he thinks he will never have a gf, will be single forever, never get married etc (normally my lines!)