Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 26)

[BlackFLAMECandle]

Oooh brand new thread!

Lol Lou :o

Damn, flame beat me to him

Yay for BNM! Really pleased for you.

Not much going on here, a few hours free tomorrow but nameless guy is busy and so is cyclist, who I still haven't met. Can't figure out nameless guy at all, he says the right things, looking forward to seeing you etc, but he's playing it so cool that I suspect he is chatting to and/or seeing several girls at once. Maybe he doesn't want to kiss me properly because it implies a commitment of some sort that he is unwilling to make right now.

I have hidden my profile on Lovestruck, but I think I will reveal myself on Saturday and put a 'free tonight' thing on there and see who turns up! Hopefully most of them will be over 30 this time [hhmm]

Hi again.

Ive finally spoken to him. He called monday, but i was in the bath. Then he called late last night, as i wasnt going to answer because it was late, but then text him back and said i was sorry i didnt pick up, but i had been asleep... and he called me back.
He did say sorry it was late though.

It went really well. He seems really nice and was really well spoken which surprised me a little.

ANyway. He asked me out, and we have planned something for next thur. But i waned to ask what you lot thought of two things he said.

1. • that he might look into booking a hotel room or something in case it turns into a late night ( he lives 40 mins away)

2. he did sau he could come here and help with some DIY i wanted doing.. though i presume hes joking about this? Because i wouldnt have someone here who i have never met.

But he did say he understood i have family committments, so he would fit around me, and than he was really looking forward to meeting me.

So - what do we think?

He can book as many rooms as he likes, tis up to you if you choose to use it. :)

Ignore the diy bit

sorry for abrupt... was running late

Carrot round tonight. Can't believe how much easier and less complicated this whole thing is armed with all the facts. I am clearly going to fall for him completely and end up with total heartbreak but Meh, we can pick up those pieces later.

What flame said.

I am being abrupt because i am in a bad mood, dont take it personally:)

DG is coming around tonight and then i won't see him again untill sunday.Wonder if he will still love me tonight as i'm going to be in my pjs with my healing cream all over my poor face.I am feeling really feverish today too.

sup Lou?

Beaut... i don't think he'll care :)

nothing in particular, just a couple of days feeling fed up

didnt help that i had a row with an old couple on sainsburys car park though, i am awaiting their threat to report me for dangerous driving to be followed up

actually onw thing that has been making me mad was the behaviour of exh towards the kids regarding their birthdays and xmas

dp was so upset for them when he heard what went on he has said he will find a way to get what they wanted from him instead, and called him a cunt

i cant argue with him

Aww your dp sounds so lovely.

Grr @ the couple.

Can someone tell me why the bloody butterflies are now there please? He is one of the nicest blokes I've ever known. Yeah yeah walk away... my mate has promised to pick up the pieces when my heart is broken.

Ok, so having been sworn off dating and vowing to just watch you lot get your kicks, I have found myself ridiculously attracted to a man who is renovating a cottage 2 doors up from me. He's been working on it for months now, and I hadn't seen him for a while so when he was out yesterday morning hammering away I stopped to talk to him, shameless hussy that I am. I said I hadn't seen him for a while (let him know I'd noticed) and he said he'd been working away for a couple of weeks. We then chatted for a minute or so and I asked whether he was moving in or renovating it for profit. He said he had put blood sweat and tears in so was going to be living there himself, so I asked in my usual unassuming way 'Oh, and who will be moving in with you?' ...I mean how obvious can you get? He laughed and then said 'just me, I'll be moving in alone'. Woo hoo....he's single and soooo gorgeous. Tall, dark, close cropped hair and goatee and a beautiful smile and obviously good with his hands .
He always waves and smiles when he sees me; think my dog will be going for many more walks this winter, lol, just so I have an excuse to walk past his house while he's working on it!
Oh it's so nice to have someone to ogle

:o Always good to have a crush!

BlackFLAME...isn't it just? Makes the day SO much more pleasant

Hi all

like the sound of the man in the cottage

my latest news is that I sent an email to exhs p just clarifying a few things (it was fairly tame tbh) and exh has been on the phone to say she is really angry with me for sending it and for him for not warning her.

I really wasn't expecting that reaction tbh. wasn't trying to start aggro more just put her in the picture.

Its taken me ages to feel strong enough to do this and it loooks as though it may have backfired!! Apparently she's going to send me a nasty email back!!

have to stress mine wasn't nasty at all.

I like the sound of the man in the cottage too...and you'll have the fittest dog in the village before too long!

BNM, I doubt he'll care either.

lou, hope you're feeling a bit brighter now.

flame, I think I am going to join you in the veggie/total heartbreak thing.

Remember my three dates from a few weeks ago? The rugby guy I met at his place? And we met again last Friday for a drink to celebrate my new job. I really don't think nameless guy is that interested, he is playing it so cool that I deserve better. However, I had been chatting online to rugby guy or texting every day, then on Sunday he sent me a text asking whether I thought anything would happen between us and I said no. He said he'd leave me alone then, and he did, and I really missed him...

So I saw him online last night, and I said hi, and we chatted for three hours and went over everything that has been said and how we both feel. I am so conscious now that I kept looking for him, just packaged differently. I wanted him, but ten years older and 4 inches shorter so I don't feel like I beat Alice to it with the 'drink me' potion.

Our conversation last night helped me to realise that I could wait a long time to meet someone who 'gets' me the way he does, and who wants to be with me and who tells me I'm a 'truly amazing woman' without a hint of embarrassment or ulterior motive. So what if he's not my usual type, it's not like my track record is any proof of my ability to pick the right man.

Watch this space...

hello all :)

SCL- dont worry about her. if she gets all unnecessarily aggresive over a simple email that would make me think she knows she's in the wrong. If you politely put your point of view (as I'm sure you would have) she is the one with the problem. Ignore her nasty reply - or reply politely. I always find it throws people when you don't rise to their bait!

Lilac - sometimes going for someone who isnt your usual type is the right thing to do; I speak as someone who always wanted certain things in a man, and eventually found them all in one person but despite that ultimately it didn't work out. You have to go with the flow, and trust your instincts. Even if the 'package' is not what you had in mind.

hope everyone else is well...not much to report. Haven't text WM since last week, and weirdly even though there is often a week or so between texts (and then 30 in a night ) all I want to do is text him! I am pathetic. Roll on next week's party when this all might get sorted out one way or the other, am spending far too much time thinking about him

Hi all

SCL, good for you for sending the email, unfortunately you can't control her reaction.....

BNM, sounds like DG won't care what you look like and he might even get his Dr outfit out

Lilac, yay for Rugby man, go for it, you never know

Divorce petition went to the court yesterday, thank goodness, with a following wind I may get decree absolute by the end of Feb apparently. Sol joked and said 'don't book the wedding until April at the earliest', to which I blushed like mad and muttered something vague.....he has no idea re RAF but I felt all flustered!

RAF came round for a dog walk with the girls, which they loved, then stayed for tea and then when dd1 said, can dog stay for a sleepover.....well, he did

I decided to email xh to say, I have met someone, wanted to be honest and not have you hear it 2nd or 3rd hand......he mailed back saying thanks for honesty, most improtant thing is being carefull with the girls. And then he said , if this happens to me, I will think of the children 1st

GAH, he has a gf ffs! Why won't he be honest??????

Anyway, off out for a catch up with RL best mate over a glass of wine, raf is babysitting

Tomorrow night is the mess dinner

Then Sun I am supposed to be heading to france for a few days with my mum and the dds to see an expat friend, but the rate the french strikes are going I may be pottering about at home

Hi Sponge
Has he texted you?

hi everyone. i just wanted a bit of advice. i have been chatting to a guy on FB that i 'met' on match. we haven't met in RL but were really getting on for about maybe a month or so now. he joked about taking em for a first date to mcdonalds but hasn't actually suggested any dates yet. then this last week messages have been really short, no banter, and if i send him a message he will not reply unless i then send another a few days later. (just saying hi, hows things) he then says he has been really busy. should i just let this one go? we were getting on really well loads of stuff to talk about same sense of humour and then all of a sudden it's gone cold.

Hi everyone,

Still reading just not posting much as nothing going on. Friend has just left and I'm going to have a nice quiet weekend.

It's that time of the year again so changed to my spooky name.

Hey Eve

I have a new name primed for the post-halloween period......MILYsighRAF

It sort of works if you say it a few times

mily - good news re divorce going through! and re RAF of course :)

WM hasn't text me, though it is my 'turn' technically as he sent the last text on Friday. am going to leave it to next week and if nothing from him I will have to text, as it will be too odd at the party otherwise. In the meantime wish I could stop constantly thinking about him

took me a while but love the New MILY Name :o

Sin... they are nuts.

Sponge.. i kind of thought that as an adult the obsessive thinking thing wouldn't be there but its like being 16 again!

who'd i miss?

booo i think i'd leave it to him now tbh.

lilac go for it. packaging carrot is not at all my type.