Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 25)

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Kicking this off.

Hi BeautnotMag, 3rd date sounding promising and can see you are keeping your options open.

Hi All, Back at home just catching up on work e mails!

I am on MSF - GSM is better, the trouble with MSF is that there are no dates on profiles and i suspect some of them are really old. Also i think there are a lot more people on GSM than MSF, particularly up north. that said both sailor and doc are from MSF.

I have put myself on the times site as I was bored with GSM. Have had quite a lot of interest from it. Mostly older men, but then I am 46! (44 on the times site, am doing an experiment)

He lives four roads away! Complete chance. I was only a little further than that before but now I've moved it's just silly. :o

Ohh I dream of meeting a man who lives four roads away - although round here that means he is a farmer - not sure what I think about that!

just browsing on MSF, am encouraged (a propos the 4 streets away coversation) to see several people from my immediate area, which I am starting to think would be better

now I need a friend to write my profile

elasta, lol at farmers. There is a poster around here (think on Chat a lot) called getorfmoilaand which makes me smile every time

any scope for meeting through the local riding fraternity?

Hi Elasta - glad to know you are back home. How is your mother?

Re GSM, much as I want to be impressed with it, I find it a waste of time sadly but think that is a lot to do with being in London. Most of the men I like the look of on there seem to want women under 40 and without kids - those that do seem interested are, shall we say, chronologically challenged! Have never really tried MSF but had a look on the Times site and found only a few blokes in my age range and locality but maybe better pickings up your way?

I think unfortunately that is true of most blokes on dating sites. Most men are looking for younger women. Even those with children like the idea of a younger unencumbered women who they can date whilst some poor single mum (i.e. us) brings up their kids

Mum is not doing too bad kdk. Have just been chatting to her on the phone, she is in good spirits and will be seeing her for the weekend

Flame gosh only four roads away.DG is a 15 minute drive away which isnt too bad.Except i don't drive am taking my lessons so he has driven to me each time.

I can't wait to see DG tomorrow night.Little nervous though as he is coming over when the boys are in bed.Luckily my two never get up during the night so i should be ok.

Another one that agrees the vast majority of the men out there want a younger women.Most of my messages on the dating sites have been from men 40 plus.However, i find when doing a search on the sites for men within my age group that there does seem to be a shortage of thirty something guys.I think that its probably because in most are settled down.

Oh i dunno i did ok with the younger men lol

Lou hahaha forgot about that.That is true also i tend to get one extreme to the other either much older or much younger.The younger men i got messaged by were all too immature for me.DG is 7 months younger than me though

I get quite a few messages/interest from younger men but sadly not my thing - at least not anymore - think xh put me off - he was 10 years younger so feel a bit been there/done that. I'm open to 37+ but draw the upper line at 55 but always think it's a bit artificial as IRL I've found men in their 60s attractive (as long as they've looked after themselves and are otherwise attractive/intelligent etc) and in the same way, have found blokes attractive and then found they're only 30!

Just find online the lines are so sort of drawn if that makes sense ... most of the blokes I find attractive (and I search between 37 - 55) often specify 25 (as if!) to late 30s - and without kids. The guys who seem to find me attractive are either way too old, way too young .... or way too thick/unattractive or odd.

Have looked at MSF but wonder if it's worth it if it's just going to be more of the same ...

I've never been involved with anyone younger than me...however WM is 2.5 years my junior :)

following on from some of the Ex twattery mentioned earlier, thought I should share some of my own - Ex text me earlier and told me I should sell the house and give him some money and 'stop thinking only of myself' I should add I have made him a (very reasonable) offer to buy him out, however it now seems whatever I offer he will resent me living here. Have told him to take me to court, but as he can't afford a solicitor there is not much chance of that happening in the foreseeable! am now ignoring his texts - he is too stupid to get into an argument with.

I always draw a mental line at 40 - 55.

Sailor was 48 - he also lied about his age, said he was 46 on his profile!! Traveller was 50, but one of the fittest men I have ever met

Well my date for tomorrow is a year younger than me. He has just sent me a txt saying how much he is looking forward to meeting me. Still cant imagine why he wants to come all this way for lunch

Dp is almost 5yrs younger. My last serious relationship prior to that was just over 11 yrs younger

Mily - yes, I meant about the dosh. Why should you?? Or is that just me?

It's looking like November for meet up when kdk comes back from jollies?

Kdk - where are you going, anywhere nice? Me and dp are looking for something in a couple of weeks for a week.

Oh sponge i despair of these men we chose to be fathers of our children!

most of the ones i spoke to were about 32. One 28 but he was random banter. with the exception of one guy when i was 16 who was 9 years older, each of mine have been 3 years older. Carrot is the first one who looks the right age though rather than still being id'd for booze.

Think if I was just after a quick shag I'd probably be less averse to a toyboy - but because of my domestic set-up bringing a guy home for a legover just isn't possible - and they tend to have less than ideal domestic set-ups themselves ie living with parents/flatmates etc and don't have money for hotels ....

Can see at this rate I"m going to have to wait til the kids leave home - only another 12 years to go! Mind you at that point I'll be, oh my giddy aunt, fifty-bleeding-eight and hopefully completely gone off the idea anyway! Not for a minute suggesting 58 is too old for sex but assuming that if I'm still not getting any by then, I'll have forgotten what it's all about anyway.

kdk - rofl at your post

Monty, I have settled on something that I can live with. I ummed and ahhed about the whole thing but v sane conversation with sol today and he pointed out that I have a good deal on the house (I agree) and the shares (not so sure) as neither is anything like 50:50. And so I have decided to let it go. I may be living on beans on toast for a while but so be it, I just want to get it done.

Think I am going to give MSF a go

Drinks in Nov, I am up for that. Have to say a Thursday easier than a Friday, but if a Friday I can make it so

i didnt date toyboys just for a shag or to get my leg over at home thanks!

kdk, I find MSF full of men my/our age who want women way under 40 (ie childless but fertile), I didn't stay on there long as it was clearly futile. Kiwi tosser aside, I would still recommend Lovestruck for those in London.

Would love to meet up with you all, any Thursday or Friday ok with me.

Lilac, is lovestruck London/SE/Home Counties or London London IYSWIM?

Lou, just saw your post on the 'online dating is crap' thread - good try, I attempted to lure here yesterday and got put in my place ...if they come over on your invitation I shall sulk....

I don't care what age so long as mature adult, for which age is not always a correlation IME....

Not sure why this thread is seen as hard, i think its v friendly,lots of new posters recently too.