Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 25)

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Kicking this off.

Hi BeautnotMag, 3rd date sounding promising and can see you are keeping your options open.

I was like that with Rubiks when I liked carrot more . Do you prefer any of the others?

yes, but i have to say, i think i would still be as hesitant if he asked to meet me. although can't be sure as he hasn't.

i was hesitant but the excitement kind of outweighed it which it didn't with rubiks

i don't feel excited. am i strange?

booyhoo, maybe try chatting on the phone instead of meeting up? I get much more from a phone conversation than email personally. You'll maybe hear in his/their voice(s) whether there's something attractive

You can always use the 'it was nice talking to you but have realised am not ready for this and don't want to mess you about' get out clause

Evening all

This thread is moving so fast I can hardly keep up.

Flame - good round up and ouch on the piercing.

ASBM - pmsl at . Touche.

For those that don't know, ASBM loves a little tease lol.

Beaut - please don't let exh make you feel this way. You need to give yourself a stern talking to. DG sounds keen, that's long term talk for December.

Hanni - welcome, as with others, I would say jeans are perfectly acceptable for a coffee date.

Boo - if he doesn't excite you, move on to the next, don't feel you have to entertain or meet him.

Aurora - good for you! Glad things are going well.

Hi to SCL, Lilac, Eve, Lou, Kdk, Sponge, and everyone and welcome Hanni

Thanks for sympathy on tooth, just hope abs kick in fast.

Booyhoo Is this your first time internet dating?I found that i was dubious about replying to any emails at first I just liked the attention after a lack of it for some years now.But just go for it.I had nerves more than excitement with both of the dates i went on but it's also fun too.

Thank you Monty i will do.

DG now wants to take the boys out for the day at the weekend.Is it too soon do you think?Gosh i can't believe how i felt earlier.This man seems too perfect must be a flaw somwhere.

yes, first time, beautician.

i really do want to meet someone, and i don't think that it is just this man that doesn't excite me. i think maybe i am not ready for this yet. i still don't feel single and available to date other men. as much as i would like to move on.

It would be too soon for me

Argh. I am all restless and twitchy.

This house is suddenly feeling very empty.

i think i just want to meet someone to prove to myself i am over EXP but i know i am not.

Flame that's what i think too.

Booyhoo How long since you split with exp?I left it a good two and a half years before i even thought about dating again when i split up from exp but it wasnt because i wanted him back it's because of the shell of me he left behind and it has taken me a long time to recover.

he left in august, i joined match pretty much the same week. it's not long enough at all is it?

i think i was worried about me never getting over him and ending up in the same situation that led to us getting back together after a 3 year split. when we separated years ago i hated him, we didn't speak for the 3 years but it was well known amongst my friends and i that i still wasn't over him. when he got in touch it seemed the logical thing to do if you are still in love with someone to get back together. i don't want to be like this forever. i need to be over him.

Booyhoo It does seem pretty quick perhaps you need time to heal but I don't think you can put a time limit on it as everyone is different.I had a lot of issues to work through.What is that old saying 'to get over one man you need to get under another'or something like that

Maybe try at least one date see how you feel.You can always plan for a friend to call you halfway through the night as a get out if you feel uncomfortable.

Hi All,

Just checking in, this thread moves really fast!!!

MILY, sounds good with RAF Flowers!!! Agree it can be a bit scary if they are v keen. Have arranged to see doc next week when I am in London and he offered me a bed at his place for the night! So I said 'not yet thanks' and he backtracked fast obviously feeling a bit embarassed. At least I know where he is coming from....

Beaut, i wouldnt introduce anyone to the kids until I was really sure it was long term. The last thing I want is a sucession of men meeting my kids, not at all good.

Flame, still think carrot might be the one for you, its just going to be a long term thing!

Hi to everyone else. Am off to bed in a minute. Have been on the phone for hours today trying to sort out mums meds to keep her pain free and it is wearing me down - Her GP is useless, the hospital dont care, everything is a struggle. god I hate the NHS at times!!!

thank you beautician, i think you are right. it will do no harm to meet this man and if i am not ready then i will know. not sure about getting under him though

Elasta Hugs to you.Disgusting that it has taken you most of the day to sort your mums meds are they sorted now?

I usually have a six month rule with men as i think by then you pretty much know and also don't want to leave it too long in case the children don't take to them.

A decent rebound bloke is needed imo.

How you find one of them I have no idea! I'm still in love with XH (split on and off since April), he is still one of my closest friends. He says he doesn't love me though so me sitting round waiting for him to change his mind is just madness. So i joined POF. met nice guy, got on well. Figured hey, a laugh, rebound distraction... Then we worked too bloody well and i am now all messed up as we click so well but there is no spark. So current status... love XH. Half fallen for Carrot but we are both missing that thing. And i am sat here feeling like i am missing one of them but in total honesty I haven't a f*ckin clue which one!!!!

Boo - take things at your own speed.

MILY - I'm rather impressed by the flowers

Elasta - you must be drained, hope you get a rest.

Beaut - glad you're feeling better. Do.not.let.exh.do.this.to.you.

argh for the meds elasta :(

oh no flame, well i don't envy you that scenario.

Hey Elasta . Sorry to hear it's such a slog getting what your mum needs, but glad Doc is looking positive

I am in bed knackered after the day starting with the huge adrenaline shock of waking up an hour late. Just had call from RAF....would I do him the honour of being his guest at a formal dinner at the Mess on the 22nd........ [Confused]

Part of me is tickled - used to attend those when XH was in the army and they can be a laugh.....but part of me thinks blardy hell
He also offered me a bed for the night

Ohh MILY, thats a serious message!!

He wants to parade you in front of his mates and colleagues so he obviously thinks you are the girl for him. You might want to squeeze a couple of dates in before to see how you feel about him as he is definately keen

Sorry, typing on blackberry really slowly as laptop died

Beaut, go with the flow, what the others said is spot on esp re xh mind games

Flame, ooch ouch piercing, am such a wuss. You can show us on 12th Nov

Hi everyone else

Do we need to start a search party thread for Nina??