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Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 25)

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Remotew · 23/09/2010 21:37

Kicking this off.

Hi BeautnotMag, 3rd date sounding promising and can see you are keeping your options open.

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Remotew · 03/10/2010 23:11

Mily lol, if you were meaning my boobs should clear up a point that they aren't fabulous anymore, just in case we meet.

Monty I am learning to analyise more nowadays, my carefree days are over with a bit O.

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Remotew · 03/10/2010 23:12

big not bit.

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mummyilubyou · 03/10/2010 23:12

by the way, look at Eve's OP to this thread and see how far BNM has come Smile

Monty Sad re tooth, glad you had a good night

am off to bed

not nervous at all about tomorrow eve..........

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Remotew · 03/10/2010 23:12

Mily X post.

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Flamesparrow · 03/10/2010 23:13

I'm ok :) Annoyingly it has made me notice that I still have butterflies when I see XH :( Sat here in tears, but not over the man who just left. I think that says a lot.

He is very restrained. He said that he considered just going with it as it is so easy, and he really wants to see my boobs :o I told him that I am easy, and with alcohol that probably wouldn't be out of the question anyway Wink

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Remotew · 03/10/2010 23:13

Good luck with RAF and report back.

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Remotew · 03/10/2010 23:15

Flame he might want to see them but whether you show him is a different matter. Keep him wanting. Grin

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Flamesparrow · 03/10/2010 23:24

Bloody man. He was a good distraction. I don't want to be sat here broken about XH again. It is bad enough that I still dream about him all the time, with Carrot being nice and confusing it gave me something else to think about when I was awake.

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Remotew · 03/10/2010 23:32

Flame, I know how you feel. When I broke up with my H a very long time ago I met someone and he completely bowled me over. My faith was returned until he realised how raw the wound was still then felt guilty and backed off. Enough to send a girl mental.

25 years on and I've just about recovered, not least because 7 times a night lover died around 10 years ago Shock

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Flamesparrow · 03/10/2010 23:36

I could sit here and list XH's bad points for hours, and then he walks in the room and it all melts away. We've gone back to this friendship that we had in the beginning and as much as I love that I still have that with him and I refuse to give it up, it just aches that the rest isn't there for him and I don't know where it went.

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Remotew · 03/10/2010 23:42

Good and important to keep that for the DC's. Have to go to beddy byes now. So night FS and anyone else still up.

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Flamesparrow · 04/10/2010 00:18

I should go too.

Grr @ life. Without the fireworks i could have fallen for him properly. He's right. Settling would be wrong however easy. Do you get more than one chance at easy AND fireworks though?

Flamesparrow · 04/10/2010 08:55

morning. Sorry for thread hogging last night. I needed to get it all out.

Love that i still started the day with a morning text from Carrot. :)

lou33 · 04/10/2010 09:20

How are things this morning flame?

Nice hat mily, you should give it a school run airing, or else it could be some time for any wedding here lol

Am chuffed he would tho, not that i needed the reassurance

Am smiling lots tho :)

Flamesparrow · 04/10/2010 09:44

I knew I meant to reply to something! I would be chuffed too Lou!

I am good. Frizbe telling me we should try sex just in case Wink.

Need to get my head straight from XH. My method of throwing myself into someone else apparently only works as a plaster

mummyilubyou · 04/10/2010 14:46

oh god, the pressure builds - I am going to the the buggest anit-climax in history this evening.....more texts, several emails, culminating in this:

I hope you continually make me smile as much as you have in the last few days...and that's not smiling at you...it's just because of you

Now my reaction to that really depends on who is saying it....is it me or is that a bit much from a bloke who hasn't actually met me yet???

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Remotew · 04/10/2010 14:49

Bit OTT as you haven't met yet. Just be a bit cautious.

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Flamesparrow · 04/10/2010 15:15

Hmm thinking it would be ok but saying it is a bit much... i remember discussing with carrot that he had me smiling more than in ages, but not in that sort of way iyswim

Flamesparrow · 04/10/2010 15:26

Gah! So ManA started talking to me again.

I have made it very clear that I don't want to do a "relationship".

Um.

Signing up again was a stupid idea. Blush I seem to attract some lovely guys though.

Have come to the deal with Carrot that we are attacking anyone who hurts the other one :o I appear to have ended up with a boy best mate scenario Hmm. Tis nice though, I get company and someone to snuggle into during films and x factor. Now just to find someone for the sex...

Flamesparrow · 04/10/2010 15:29

(by making it clear I mean I have explained that the most I am looking for is fun dates etc... not that I have announced my lack of sex life Blush)

Flamesparrow · 04/10/2010 15:43

ARGH!

Someone tell me what to do! I went to take down my profile again, and I have a message from a man in a pirate hat! I love pirate hats. Most of his pics are fancy dress ones, and I am a sucker for people willing to do fancy dress Blush.

I am meant to be being sensible and getting my head sorted.

But this could be fun...

hatesponge · 04/10/2010 16:05

lol at man in pirate hat :)

flame, enjoy the fact you have lots of interest from men even if its not quite the sort of interest you want!

mily - enjoy tonight, look forward to hearing a full update tomorrow :) agree with eve's advice re being a bit cautious, he does seem a little full on from his emails, however he may just be trying (a little too hard) to show he's keen! think sometimes people come across quite badly in writing, but much better in person Grin

no update here. Need to progress things with WM. Think I need to do something before the party rather than waiting til then - if it all goes wrong party will still be ok as about a hundred people going, so safety in numbers! - am just not sure how to approach it/him Grin. Best friend has suggested inviting him over to mine, but prob is we live over an hour's drive apart (not far in mileage terms but other side of London so long in travel time!) so not like he can just pop round.....so need a plan. Or to give up as am starting to bore myself with all this...god knows how fed up with me the rest of you must be!

elastamum · 04/10/2010 16:07

Hi All,

Just catching up. Oh MILY, cant wait to see what happens!!

Am supposed to be calling doc later, not sure what to say really, the flirty txts hav dropped off, just as well really as they were going a long way for a first date. Blush Will see if we can find a second date

Flamesparrow · 04/10/2010 16:12

Just send him a text saying "Fancy a drink at x on y"!!!

I am looking forward to MILY update :o

Did you know a fear of hats is cocklaphobia? I seem to go completely off on a tangent on these messages. I think it is probably a good thing as men see exactly what they are getting into with me Wink

Doc phone call will probably just naturally roll - I always find that the calls when I am not sure what to say just sort of evolve organically.

hatesponge · 04/10/2010 16:44

lol flame! I could just ask couldn't I?! Only problem is where - could ask him to meet me after work in Croydon (which is sort of in the middle of where we both live) apart from the fact he's previously told me he wouldn't set foot here after dark Grin

off to think of a(nother)convenient spot between our respective homes............

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