Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 24)

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Hello!

what do we think about 40 yr old who has put age range 22-38?....I only just qualify and already feel over the hill

you will soon break through the embarassment threshold lol
good for you though, you certainly put your mind to stuff! nn

I tend to take age range with a pinch of salt (maybe because I am 43)

nn ninah, enjoy the weekend

am really breaking free now, messaged him anyway

slight frustration that my pc (work) doesn't allow chat......

thank god mn is ok though, can you imagine?

can you get internet dating RSI??

I am actually starting to enjoy this

god, i will be mortified if none of the buggers responds

and so to bed

afternoon

kids are back :(

we had a good evening though

glad you had a good time lou

Weather has disrupted our plans today. We went to the cricket nets this afternoon but it poured down.

Back at home feeling a bit bored. They are coming to clear the drains tomorrow so at least I will be able to go out the bag for a crafty ciggie. Need to seriously think about giving up soon.

We also seem to have a wasps nest in our front porch. Which I think I will have to pay to have removed.

V short of cash too so not able to do much. Thinking of loggin all the additional expenditure to show exh to prove my point.

Any news from anyone else?

the weather is rubbish isnt it?

we are now counting down until tomorrow afternoon when we get eddie, our new puppy

the kids are all excited, and the woman who we are getting it from just called to make sure everything was still going to plan

oh and can we all wish janos a happy birthday please?!!

also, dp got told he looked like nick knowles again lol

hey folks generally

Lou, glad you had a good evening

SCL, know ehat you mean about rain stops play, it really has been hard to maintain the cheerfulness in our nexk of the woods and no sign of any mummyilubyous from my dds today.

In fact, feel pants

DD2 is at v tricky stage with potty training. FGS can't believe I let it wind me up, but it does. Add into that her v strong mischievous streak/downright utter naughtiness and I have been doing an excellent fishwife impression today

did loads on laundry (yes, I know, why, in the rain and all but needs must) came out streaked in mud........wtf.........turns out twunty xh did a load of kits from outdoor fitness classes yesterday and put it on a programme with no rinse cycle so guess what, my machine full of mud/grime ARGGHHHH
Right up there with the time he washed his muddy workboots in the kitchen sink and blocked it, then left..........

DD2 to bed in disgrace with no dummy or stories, DD1 coughing and temperatury, plough through housework, ironing etc then finally sit down with glass of wine to see that none of the people I messaged last night on SWK and GSM have responded, though most have read messages and looked ay me.........so feel about two inches tall and could just cry and cry

I didn't sign up for this

sorry to be misery guts..........

wtf is your ex doing using your washing machine for his stuff?!!

have you told him not to do it again without asking?

bloody cheek

wrt your dc's and all your chores, dont be so hard on yourself, it's ok not to be supermum, nothing awful will happen if you dont do the ironing, for example :)

and as for the men who havent replied but looked, bear in mind that it is the weekend, and they may well have just had a quick look before heading out, and plan to reply in the week

do not let it get you down, and dont give up yet!

mummy you have to grow a thick skin for online dating - don't think I had one at the start but I have managed to grow one.

As Lou says they are probably doing something over the weekend.

And I don't iron anything. (slattern emoticon)

We had sausage, beans and mash again tonight and I couldn't face eating it although dcs loved it.

I have just forced myself to do all the washing up but sometimes I do leave the odd thing to soak overnight.

exbf has texted twice today but I was asleep (had a nap at about 5pm) so missed them. Not necessarily a bad thing that I don't appear glued to my phone methinks.

Mily - christ, wtf??? how dare he?? I think you need to give him some hard and fast fo boundaries.

Lou - did dc's get on ok at exh's? All ok?

SCL - yep, weather is pants, I hate looking out and it's daaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrkkkkkkkk!

I went for a nap because dses were fighting like lion cub for most of the time and I decided to leave them to it!

SCL - good for you, don't blame you. They can wear you down when they're in that fever. You all fed and watered and all ready to put your feet up for a relaxing evening hopefully.

they said they had a good time, but they came with tales of spending the entire time watching film after film, some of them way too old for them imo

and their toothbrushes dont seem to have been used, and ds2 came back filthy in the same clothes he went in, which had food all down them and he apparently slept in too

i get the feeling he left them to it while he did his own thing tbh

he looked rotten too

oh and dd2 came back telling me how much money he had made on ebay this week by selling stuff, which got me riled as he certainly doesnt send any this way

but i have tried to remain calm about it

Lou - I think there are similarities here between our xh's.

Xh and ds were travelling back from paternal gm's today, I eventually got thru on mobile about 4pm they'd just left (4hr drive). I'm out shopping at the time, dropped into Al's (for a nosey) dropped shopping at mine and met Al for a beer, xh arrives in pub shortly after, oh, says he, I've just dropped ds home, oh says I well obv I'm not there and he doesn't have a key, oh says he after a pause, what shall we do about ds, oh says I, don't know, you're in charge of him, find him. ASSHOLE. So I came home, no ds so far and xh no doubt still ensconsed in pub. WTF??? Grr and Grrrrr.

When xh arrived I was sitting talking to a couple of people in the beer garden and xh assumes the rights to join the company and I could see the bloke rolling eyes lol. I left, immediately.

thank god you are all here is all I can say

I feel so crap

I think because we aren't divorced yet I am so confused about the boundaries at this house. I am so wound up about what the divorce might entail that I am walking on eggshells trying to keep XH reasonable so that I don't end up with a hideous, expensive fight on my hands.

we don't talk, he comes to see the dds, barely makes eye contact, only gets in touch to tell me about work commitments

eg text today about not being here on 10th Sept "you will require alternative childcare", which costs me £110 in nanny wages, which I don't grudge because she is fab and the girls love her but it is not in the budget and I just really bloody resent the abdication of responsibility . When he was in central america for a month recently I ended up with £500+ in additional childcare costs.

sorry, I don't really know what I am going on about here. I guess the thing is that I want to get on with divorcing to move on from all the crap and pain, but I am tiptoeing around for fear of what the divorce will bring

and I thought, sod it, get out there and go on a few dates and none of the cute ones got back to me

so the advice re thick skin is spot on, ditto the point about it being a weekend

and I will try not to fell like a fat troll with a moustache

and the superwoman thing (am so far from that is actually funny) I think am trying to be in control of as many (pointless..) things as poss in order to compensate for bolting horse sensation of relationship

15 years since I last snogged anyone who wasn't XH. If one of these blokes online contacts me I shall probably die of fright

sorry Monty OMG re XH just leaving DS

and Lou more of same

in fact GAH these men

milu surely he should be contributing to additional childcare costs if you both work and he is out of the country?

mily your situation sounds a total nightmare and the sooner it is cut and dried the better, must be horrible having to tiptoe around ex in your own home
as for superwoman I think you must be, your job and young dc is well away enough to cope with
I did clean the house for once today (mainly as we are going away) found cobwebs I truly never noticed before although by their size they are nice and mature
oh and don't expect too much from the online stuff. It's mainly fun, if you get a nice date it's a bonus. I've told this story before but will repeat to make you feel better - I was chatting to this bloke, seemed really keen, until I sent him my picture and he was Oh no, you're not what i'm looking for
I didn't fancy him either, he was a Chino wearing christian, and of course i didn't know him at the time but i found myself weirly rebuffed
don't take it personally!
We have lightening and torrential rain here. Think of me in a tent on Monday night (worse still, putting it up single handed Monday lunchtime ...)
there is note on the website they have special tractors to tow you out of the mud afterwards
has Eddie arrived yet Lou?

oh yes and meant to say i am aghast at your ex monty? wtf was he thinking?!