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Where have all the fit, interesting and available men gone (part 24)

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Remotew · 12/08/2010 20:45

Hello!

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mummyilubyou · 27/08/2010 15:36

and I want a snog Grin

ninah · 27/08/2010 17:19

good god Angry at your ex's mily and sponge
congratulations at being proactive with gm mily, been speaking to a rl friend in our situation and she says she takes a really upfront attitude, honest and straightforward
she has had a few dates, no one she fancies sadly but she's 'out there'
am thinking of friend requesting HM
shall i just fr or 'fancy a drink?'
asbm? you are the ice queen of dating and I need to stay cooool

ninah · 27/08/2010 17:19

ooh, and the BED finally went!

mummyilubyou · 27/08/2010 17:33

hurray re the bed

'fancy a drink' definitely the way forward

forgot to mention that may make you laugh - made quite an entrance to the bar last night - combination of silly high heels and wet wooden steps = MILY carshes into the room in a heep, cue comedy GASP from 300 people in the bar all stopping talking and turning to look at me Blush

broke the heel on my fave LKB's and have a great bruise on my bum...

well, they won't forget me will they??!!

ninah · 27/08/2010 17:47

dramatic!
am more of a wellies person these days
in fact I can't remember last time I was in a proper bar

ninah · 27/08/2010 17:48

can't remember as in I wasn't there, not just can't remember lol

Janos · 27/08/2010 18:08

LOL mily - what an entrance. Way to go!

ninah - me too.

What a prat your ex sounds. Mine used to make similar comments. The key is 'detach, detach, detach'.

Ask yourself, does his opinion of me really matter - the answer is of course a resounding no!

Easier said than done of course but certainly achievable!

You know, one thing that has really helped me after the shock of last night is realising what lovely friends I have - and how kind people can be generally. So in a way it's actually been a good thing...

:)

lou33 · 27/08/2010 18:26

hi everyone

i would like to say i have read back and caught up but i am too shattered/pissed off/drained by today

spent hours at a&e with that pathetic specimen i married, cos of his drinking it turned out

he seems to find it all amusing and that everyone is wrong and overreacting , including drs

they told him to quit drinking, i said to do it for the kids and his reply was to say that he wasnt ready to and drinking was his only pleasure

lets not mention how he was saying how hard it was to make ends meet, whilst also saying he got 600 quid for some work he did recently, and how he so needed another holiday to thailand Angry

and when i asked when any of this money would ever come our way he refused to answer, saying only that "things will come good one day my dear"

fucking bastard wankstain

i di at one point actually tell him to stop speaking to me cos i was v close to punching him in the face

he is probably at home now drinking and has thrown away the details they gave him to make an appt for an alcohol support clinic they want him to attend

and in the mean time i am stressed and fucked off

Janos · 27/08/2010 18:33

I think fucking bastard wankstain is too kind of you, lou.

What an absolute waste of fucking space that man is.

lou33 · 27/08/2010 18:52

i have other gems from him today, like when i said i was embarrassed to admit he was the father of my kids, and he told me i should feel lucky that he gave me kids like that, and his "seed" is much sought after Hmm

Biscuit x 1000

oh and he kept calling me babe and baby tot he point i hissed at him in front of the doc that i was NOT his baby

Janos · 27/08/2010 19:10

You will need to visit the peak freans factory for all the biscuits you are going to need, lou.

How did you manage not to punch him btw?

I would have found it hard not to, in same circs. And I am lovely, as you know.

aseriouslyblondemoment · 27/08/2010 20:00

omfgAngry
i really hope that the dcs aren't aware of this lou

ninah · 27/08/2010 20:32

why was he actually in a&e? accident through drinking/alc poisioning? how v horrible
asbm good i need you to tell me to sit on my hands lol

aseriouslyblondemoment · 27/08/2010 20:56

hey ninah that's the job of our lovely juicy lolGrin
hope you're ok lady if you're looking in lol!

lou33 · 27/08/2010 21:06

They are aware, mainly because ds1asked me to get hold of him last night as he wanted to see him today. So i senta text last night to which he calls me too drunk to speak . The kids heard metell him not to call me in that state, even tho he said he was not drunk. I hung up. Then today he sounds the same and complaining about his arm. So i have to tell ds he cant see him today. They know he drinks and worked it out. So of course they start worrying about him and for their sakes i end up driving over to gethim checked out.

He is disgusting. I was ashamed to be with him. For more than one reason, but one of them being the fact he excused his lack of contact with the kids by saying it was ok they had a new dad now. . . .

aseriouslyblondemoment · 27/08/2010 21:17

of fgs sakeAngrySad
what more can you be expected to do?
ok he's your kids dad but he's an adult and even tho once your h no longer your responsibility
but he's taking the piss
i know that you're doing the right thing by the kids and because you're a decent person, and yes you were once married to him but i'm
really cross reading this....GRRRRR on your behalf and v upset for the childrenSad

lou33 · 27/08/2010 21:20

I know. Its horrendous. I bet he went home and had a drink too. I cant bear him

lou33 · 27/08/2010 21:25

Luckily dp is fantastic enough to not be phased by that. In fact he even said luckily enough he cared about mykids so filling that gap was not a hardship for him. But he shouldnt have to iyswim

aseriouslyblondemoment · 27/08/2010 21:53

yes it's great that he does
but he shouldn't have to fill the gaping hole that is their dad,tho i don't doubt that he would, and ,wonderfully too
it should be ok for kids to love their dad and also have love for their sd or near sd
it's a minefield isn't it?

Flamesparrow · 27/08/2010 21:56

Sorry been away most of the week on and off and a completely out of date with the thread.

I'm back to me

Had texts from Carrot (hobbit's new name - realised he is Corporal Carrot) every day :) Realised we can't meet up again until Saturday next week :( Both pissed off about it I think. Was whinging that my mate had to cancel on me last night, and he asked if that was a hint for him to visit instead :) Had I not been in a foul mood I probably would have said yes.

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Remotew · 27/08/2010 22:07

Just bumping, remember me? lol

Nothing going on here, work and DD's stuff taken over.

Might have a blind date with someone I met online but have never met in person over a year and a half ago. He has plugged away with emails and texts now and again. He is returning home in Sept, lives in a winter sun resort, and wants to meet me, told him I want to see a photo as it's been so long. Also visions of a winter holiday flashes through my mind so might be worth a meet.

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aseriouslyblondemoment · 27/08/2010 22:29

hello eveSmile
was just thinking about you the other day,was thinking that you were off on your jollies hence being quiet a bit like me who often lurks lol
how has dd done in her exams?
and spill more about the blokey lol

elastamum · 27/08/2010 23:38

Hi All, Well done to mily - the up front approach is far the best IMO.

Not a good day here. Au pair has decided to go off for the weekend with her BF and so I have had to tell sailor I cant see him on sat. Am annoyed with her as she said she would baby sit for me then said she wouldnt, so I have messed him around.

He sounded a bit dissapointed and so am I. But I have offered to cook him dinner next sat instead. Lets see if he sticks around. I think the realisation that I have 2 kids and live a long way away is starting to bite.

Sods law, I have finally got a date with a man who seems keen but cant get out to meet him Sad

ninah · 28/08/2010 07:51

elasta in a way it's a good test of a bloke's durability
a man who is put off by essential commitments is not the man for you
you need someone steadfast not someone flaky
having busy lives and dc actually helps us weed out men who would be no good long term
anyway I am hoping the sailor will come through for you, my money says he will Smile

elastamum · 28/08/2010 09:22

Thanks Ninah, will have to wait and see.

Unfortunately he lives quite a long way away, works away during the week and is only around Fri-Sun so the cards are'nt really stacked in our favour.

He did comment that he knew I had the kids with me this weekend and also that they do sat school so he has obviously clocked my home situation. On the plus side he likes dogs, boys toys and fast cars so he would fit in here quite well Grin

I'm kind of hoping if he is away a lot he wont mind too much about my general lack of availablity as well!!

Sun is shining, big dog is a little better but still not able to get out, so am off to walk the younger dogs to cheer myself up

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