August Chat

[mellow2]

New thread for August.

sfx,
We'll come to pools on the park if you're still going. Weather looks variable today.

good morning all

mellow not sure what I will do yet am still trying to sort myself out this morning.

at some point I will be more relaxed about dd being in another room

but it is sort of sunny with showers forecast so will try and go out at some point.

I did enrol in a short course starting next month, only till Jan I think but adding credits to what I eventually want to do

good morning everyone
would love to come out and play today, sfx, but got to keep my head down for the next few days and get some serious work done.

builders aren't back until thurs so at least be a bit quieter. am finding it very difficult to leave dh in charge while i'm up in the loft, tho. he's perfectly capable (more so than me on some counts) but they just do things differently, don't they? and are stricter/slacker on different things than you.

or maybe my inner control freak is just struggling to get out

might be around at the end of the week, tho
have a good day everyone

steppie I know what you mean about the different ways, here it is worst around food, I don't care as long as she has enough variety whenever she eats and dh thinks she should sit and have her meal with no alternatives.

but then again he started this whole pudding thing which, in my view, creates more problems as she expects sweet stuff at every meal
can you tell it is a sore point?

anyway must get on, clouding over, rubbish summer weather hey

sfx - DSs expect pudding at every meal too, courtesy of nursery, but they would accept just a biscuit at home. (I rather like that myself too ...) I also expect DSs to sit and finish their meals (and even snacks) which they do without much trouble. Mainly because I WILL NOT clear up all over the house after them. On and under the table is manageable, even for Ds1. It also means eating out is quite a relaxed thing, which is a serious advantage as far as I am concerned!

yes I see your point and she is generally fine eating out.
but somehow I find that if he is away we just sit and eat but if daddy is around she asks for stories and they do elaborate games at this point I just switch off and let him get on with it, although I can see it seems to stress him.

I think we will have to agree on a plan at some point

I don't "allow" games when eating - we tend to have a toy or two on the table as company (usually fire engines these days) but no playing till food is finished. We have "conversations" (mainly DS2 pretending to be a cat these days seeing he's terrified of cats. Aversion therapy, perhaps.) DH agrees with me on this. On others, like DS1 being rude to people etc, I tell him what my "policies" are (and implicitly expects him to do the same!)

that is funny how family dynamics work.

I think it was a comment dh made yesterday which I found odd and reminiscent of the nuns when I was little

very strange guess it was a strange day

what did he say?

I don't expect ds to finish his meal but I won't let him get down until he's at least tried everything on his plate. Dh agrees with me on this point so makes it much easier. And yes, no playing at the table either!

dd has to try everything too and the games are just stories or negotiations which I would rather did not happen but hey

what dh said was something along the lines of, 'some families have to be very careful and what is on the table is all there is and the eat because they are hungry'
I expect this is money anxieties coming up which is understandable but I do not want food to be an issue. I am only now resolving some of my issues with it.

but I am finding dinner stressful I think dh takes it upon himself to do his bit of parenting at that time and creates an odd atmosphere, I don't think he is aware of it and I am not sure how to bring it up without him taking it like a criticism
but I suppose I have to because it really bugs me

Hello all

Back from our trip up to Leeds to see my friends and visit BIL. Trip was great and DS loved it, they all played with him loads and we even made it to York Railway museum which was a big hit.

Back home to chores etc now

Hope everyone well, will try and catch up on thread tonight when DH gone out. Going for a snooze now

hi SJ glad all went wel especially for the little trainspotter

today not going very well as I would rather be in a locked dark quiet room for a while
dd has been all cheerful and chilled bless her.

I suppose best not stress too much about it write it off and start again tomorrow

although I still feel like ritual sacrifice, perhaps dh will do

sfx, you have my sympathies, I'm feeling pretty much the same today! Like minisfx, ds is in a good mood, alternating between watching Cars (bad mummy alert) and playing but keeping himself entertained.

sorry sj, glad the trip went well. I'm off to my parents with ds for the weekend in Sept so think I will suggest the railway museum for a trip out. Remember going myself years and years ago!

oh thanks Ros I think it is this stupid ttc business, decided to wait until I felt ready but it just makes me a little crazy. hate all this overwhelming emotions thing, to my mind the worst part of ttc/ pregnancy

hope you feel better soon

Developing headache here too but having quite a nice time playing lego ...

It helps too to have shepherd's pie from yesterday in the fridge for tea.

not quite headache but possible head might explode

this can only get worst really still have to cook but feel like just walking out the minute dh walks in and go clear my head, of course it might be impractical at whatever time he comes in

Spent the last 5 minutes watching my bread baking in the oven. How much more brain-dead can you get!?

don't be too hard on yourself, sfx.
as you say, tomorrow's a fresh day
ikwym, sometimes dh comes in from work, takes one look at my face and tells me to go and have a lie-down with one of my (many) mags..

hope you feel better tomorrow, too, ros...hormones have a lot to answer for

sing..you've made me want shepherd's pie now!

my guilt trip this week is being holed away working and virtually ignoring my lot. as i was whinging explaining to dh would be all right if i was travelling into an office..out of sight/earshot, out of....

anyhow, making good progress

the man unblocking our drains (nice) - first problem building work has revealed - has been here since 1pm

Sfx - Sorry to hear you're feeling down.

Steppie - I feel exactly the same way when I'm working. You'll make it up to dc once you finish your work.

SJ - Glad you had a good trip.

I did some emergency shopping at Waitrose and found out the cost of 6 eggs had gone up 50p!! That's almost 10p an egg.

That will be the last time I buy eggs from Waitrose. We're trying to cut down on the grocery bill but it's proving quite a struggle.

Ros - hope you're feeling better.

food prices indeed rising and apparently paks of stuff started shrinking but keeping the previous prices

I think I need a place to buy good meat/poultry / fish lower than supermarket prices I think Quokka knew some place in Chiswick I think

must go out tomorrow no matter what preferably run followed by pool

steppie good luck with drains it is a bit like plumbing when the man shakes his head your heart sinks
am so cheerful today