Jan/Feb locals chat

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How exciting to be starting thread

Yay, thanks Sfx, am already looking forward to banana bread, mmmm!

In Sweden they had Noise Police (everything is so formally governed over there) but what a great idea, they used to go and put a stop the noise polluters, no messing.

it is a bit much without help.

dd seems to be keen on going out today after 2 days indoors, but I want to try and feed her first, a daily challenge, she was eating so much better before this cough.

dh is taking dd to visit friends on Saturday so I have time for me, booked hairdresser but can't think what else to do

pc - sorry to hear about divorce but as my saying goes, when life is at its darkest, the best is yet to come and I know it will for you. If you and df want it for Easter, then it's yours - I'll email you cost (highly discounted of course!!).

Foxie - I'll pop it in the post to you, along with the measuring spoon/instructions - no problems.

End of May looks fine with me - I'll email you cost (discounted again!!)

Kew - that's a brilliant idea - the week of the 16th August sounds great. If I can get rough numbers, I can sort our the caravans - know plenty of people there. If your Mum would rather have a Chalet, I can sort that out (although they're not as nice as the caravans). ShinnyHappyPeople stayed at our van with her wheelchair bound ds and found it no problem with access. Rye is a bit hilly (especially when you get lost first time visiting as I did) but there are other parts of Kent (New Romney with its steam Railway) that are very flat.

I'm off to start a new thread...will come back with it soon.

thanks MrsR, it does feel like it can't get any darker but then i've said that before!

van sounds great.

sfx, haven't had my hair cut for about a year now i think!

Paddle I am so sorry I completey ignored your comment about the divorce! You must feel really miserable today. I don't know what to say really apart from echo QC's comment about getting control of your life back and this is probably the darkest time as you are stuck in the process atm. You will have many lovely times ahead when you get to the point you are free and able to enjoy them again without the shadow of this hanging over you.

I hope we can all do a Carry on Caravan type thing week beginning 16 August it would be so much fun.

QC - IKWYM - one of the worst things is feeling guilty 'cos I am so knackered and feel I cannot take time off work, so I get stressed and unpleasant with everyone. I got invited to a job interview this week and they asked about my sick leave - I've taken 14 days in past two years - far too much IMHO. plus some dependency leave as well.

I feel like a crap employee and also a crap Mum - trying to balance two things and failing both really. Poor DS2 is having such a hard time.

Foxie - you're not a crap mum or crap employee. Kids get ill, sorry to hear cub still v.porly but hopefully doc is right and he's over the worst of it. More hugs to you

Hugs to you too PC, divorce can be horrible but at least it will allow you start afresh and hopefully move onto more happier times

Mrs R - DH finally booked his holiday dates last week with work but we have nothing planned. This has given me an idea...any chance the caravan is free w/c 10 Mar?!

Would like to go to Latitude also but didn't buy tickets since we can't really plan that far ahead, will see how it goes...
Glad mini-sfx has perked up, a little outing might improve her appetite

I do know how you feel foxie - just how I felt the past few weeks though this week has been much better. 14 dyas over two years isn;t that bad. We tend to intervene if people hit our paid level of 12 days sickness per year.

MrsR - my mum won't have a problem with a caravan (if you think they are nicer) - we spent many happy hours in one when I was growing up, it's more sharing her space she would have a problem with (otherwise I'd invite Paddle to join us) - she is very shy.

again, thanks everyone. maybe it will feel like a fresh start soon but right now it just feels like the end of something i wanted so much.

without wishing to be melodramatic but i just can't see past the end and the failure right now.

foxie, it's so hard isn't it? when dd was ill for nearly a month before xmas i felt like a crap mummy and a crapper employee. really really hope you get a good sleep tonight and ds2 improves too.

of foxie my guess is guilty is ever present as we try to meet expectation whichever way you go.

regarding sickness on the previous job I would intervene if there were over 10days over any 12m period and more than 4 periods of illness over the same time frame.
I seem to remember it varied wildly. I used to be more on top of people with sick days around weekends/ days off

paddle i promise you will feel happy agin - it just feels a long way off atm

sfx/qc - i know but 14 days still looks bad to a potential new employer

anyhow this new job is in manchester so probably won't proceed as would need to go up there twice for interviews (mega bucks job though, which is why it is tempting)

paddle you are not being melodramatic it is a loss and it takes time to grieve

again, not a gin

It might be sfx - I'm not sure when the site reopens but it's definitely around the first week or so. The only problem is none of the facilities will be open but it doesn't matter as I tend to stay in the cosy caravan or go for nice walks over the fields, looking at the new born lambs or into Rye. Once I know I'll, email you.

still, gin might help on occasion

mrsR it was SJ who asked although we were thinking of doing something over Easter as it is around our wedding anniversary.

Manchester you say? would you commute?

Hi all.

Foxie - sorry to hear DS2 still v poorly. Hope he makes v quick recovery. I have already taken 7 days off (paid leave) this year due to influenza (and it's only February!). When DS was about 13 mo, I only worked a handful of days in a month due to his illnesses. There's nothing you can do when LOs are ill. You'll just hope your boss/employer is understanding.

Paddle - sorry to hear about the divorce. Hugs to you.

Hope everyone is well.[waves]

hi all, hugs to paddle & foxie

MrsR, we may also be interested in the caravan idea!! I'll have to have a chat with dh tonight and see what he thinks to the idea but we'd definitely be going out of school holiday time.

Hope everyone else is ok

SFX - commute?

Just looked on propertyfinder - we could get a nice big rambling period house there...

Trouble is I can't be arsed travelling up there twice to get interviewed for a job I may not get anyway

foxie, you only feel like that because you're so tired after ds being ill.

my motto is say yes to everything until you absolutely have to make a final decision.

manchester is really nice and the train up is quite relaxing. suggest you schedule each interview for 1st thing in the morning. travel up the day before and stay overnight and pamper yourself.

if you're worried about the bf, dd was only fed on demand when i was there after i went back to work and she coped just fine.

sounds like a great opportunity to me. my company operates out of manchester so technically i could re-locate (at own expense) except i think i want to leave by end of this year anyway.

oh more takers for my caravan ros - dh told me last year that we needed to rent it out and I can tell him I've done it with no work whatsoever.

Manchester foxie? I was there a few weeks ago for work - let me know if you do go and I can wrangle a couple of nights away at the Manchester office. Or I could even get a transfer and we could both relocate No, TBH, don't think I could ever live anywhere north of Birmingham - I do love the South (although the peeps are nice in the North).

hi everyone
bit up against it (ooooh-er), so apologies if miss out out on anything..

foxie, really hope ds1 is getting better. so, so hard when they're ill, juggling everything.
know exactly what you mean about trying to balance work/kids and feeling like you're faling spectacularly at both.
but nobody, IMHO, never gets it 'right" all the time.
something alway suffers and you constantly have to make choices, sacrifices and deal with changing priorities.

manchester???!!!

ds1 is currently concerned about all the 'me-time' (work) i'm having

paddle, so sorry you're about the divorce. you're grieving for the end of your marriage and grieving for how life was meant to be. give yourself time.

got a bit of a hangover headache this morning as went out for drinks "in town" last night after a job, got carried away being like a normal person in a bar and paying the price today. i am such an amateur these days.
toodlepip

ever gets it right, even

Foxie did you know you are on youtube bfing?

oh I spotted that, too. foxie, you are famous!

boobs out on youtube? link please

have been amused and appalled following the threads on the GMTV bf scandal piece

I feel too foreign out of London but I think if it is a good opportunity the process of applying can be interesting in itself.

dd not keen on much walking today but at least we popped out for a bit

Well 5 pairs of wet trousers today. My machine will blow up at this rate. Does anyone honestly thinkhe simply isn't ready? Isn't 3years and 2 months really time? I am at my wits end with how we should go forward wit this.

Hope everyone and the litlles who are ill are on the mend.

A trip to RYe would be lovely, but unfortunatley the week proposed is the week we are off to France.

MrsR - I'll have to make a decision about whether to go to the interview ...or not bother LOL.....

CoV - what do you mean, on YouTube??? How do I find it

Did someone film me on their moby or soemthing? [genuinely a bit freaked out emoticon]!