West London Chat Summer/Autumn

[vbus]

ooh the excitement of starting a new thread

no copper that is another combo, do you see why I like hanging out with you lot? you are all sane

to be fair this one never really wanted a child and constantly says that there is something wrong with the girl, tries to get her diagnosed with ADHD or some sort of obsessional disorder, frankly I just feel she needs boundaries and affection.
I find it stressful because I feel like I have to make nice and dd loves playing with the girl, the mother told me recently that the family is a terrible disappointment and that she often thinks that she will just leave and leave and go back to where she comes from.

some of the things that I notice is that whenever, in the normal run of play dd will come over and give me a present we hug/kiss/cuddle, her daughter start shouting that she wants the same, the stiffness an sort of uncomfortable demeanour is odd. Same for holding hands, I still get dd to hold hands crossing a big busy road (like the one between Richmond and Chiswick bridge) her daughter saw this and said, 'hold my hand please mummy'
dh finds it difficult too and has taken the unusual step of verbally admonishing and guiding the girl when the children are playing together, I used to complain/comment to him and he used to think I was exaggerating, not any more

goodness I went on a bit there, therapeutic

vbus can't help with flooring, I was hoping to get advice on that sort of advice from you, our flat needs painting and the floors of kitchen and bathroom need replacing, was also thinking of taking carpet away from hall and sitting room

We were supposed to go to Kew but weather put other mum off going, & it was ds1's last chance to play with friend before they go back to Oz so was worth it for that.

Sfx, how sad for that little girl, I guess she's picked up on the fact that she's pretty unwanted . Doesn't make it any easier for you though

vbus, what room is this for? I love having wooden floors in the hallway & living room, makes it so much easier to clean up! Tiles for kitchen & bathroom, carpet upstairs is my preferred flooring arrangement [hgrin]

Tilly - in principle I would agree but as this room will be multifunctional kitchen/dining room/chill out area it's not obvious which to go for. Wood/laminate much cosier feel to room but tiles in kitchen area much more practical Whatever we choose we'll have it throughout so I want to get it right otherwise it will be a v.expensive mistake! Might post on property thread

Sfx - that sounds really tough for girl . Has the mum been given any help/guidance? Maybe you could subtely tell her to introduce some boundaries if you know her well enough to be so personal?

I could do with nap, at least DH out tonight so I'm going to have a v. early night!

tilly I agree with that flooring set up and vbus I can see your dilemma definitely post on property threads

about the girl, once her mother asked me if I thought, that once the child should be diagnosed with some syndrome deeming her not normal, social services would take her away, I reassured that that it would not be the case and if she was having trouble with her behaviour they would likely offer some support, I was shocked when she expressed disappointment.
the girl is not mistreated at all and she is bright and cared for but not in terms of boundaries and affection, she seems to be treated as a burden most of the time, over indulged by the father in a bid to keep her quiet, it really stresses me but I would like to continue to have her over to play.
I do express my opinion and offer some degree of sympathy and advice, I tell her that all parents find it hard and that all children test us, that we all find it hard at times and that parents are hardly perfect and we all have our limits and shortcomings but at times it is really hard to deal with

hello
lovely to see some bright weather, we likely off to the pool

Weekend!

dh left me a bottle of wine, dd is saying she will stay up with me until it is my bedtime so I don't feel lonely I am sure I can cope

Difference between loneliness and peace & quietness.

Stopped by Waitrose on way home to get bottle of wine too. But kids' bath and bed first. In fact may dispense with bath.

Cello cacophony just ended. DS2 very enthusiastic. Poor neighbours.

Cello has to be my favourite instrument such a wonderful sound

Shopping delayed by over an hr I was warned but I really want to get on with evening routine without disruption and would quite like my dinner

there might be peace and quiet at some point

do you know there is a proposal for a Free school in Richmond from the Maharashi, transcendental meditation is a useful life skill it appears

apply

Trawling library catalogue for fun, exciting, adventure stories that are not scary. Silly kids scare themselves with books they themselves pick from the library.

Went to a kids Halloween disco last night, the poor woman who organised it didn't expect so many people to turn up, lots were left waiting outside. It was made bearable by a friend sneaking in [hgrin]

Quick question - ds1 took something from a charity shop yesterday, am I being too harsh in making him take the money from his money box to go back and pay for it and apologise?? He's very upset about it now but he presented it to me as something he'd found at the bottom of the toy box, which shows to me he knew it was wrong to take it!! Any thoughts?

tilly sounds like a hellish time very appropriate
regarding the charity shop issue I would make him go back apologise for it and pay out of his own money but I would not show anger or go on about it, just as treat it as a normal consequence of his actions and be warm with him. but that is just my opinion

off to visit family now dd has been up since 7 but let me sleep while she played on my iphone the girl is very good on Angry birds

Hello!

Tilly - agree with sfx. Definitely take it back and pay for with own money. Only correct.

Birthday party this afternoon.

we have a birthday party tomorrow morning
we are tired, I need dd needs bed all will be well then

sfx - science party a success. DH took DS2. There were rockets, hovercrafts, magic disappearing water etc. And DS2 came back with some slime ...

I want too.

So I bought a fridge thermometer, having variously suspected that our fridge is too cold or not cold enough. It's inside in the door where the milk is. It reads 10C. That is BAD, isn't it?

you should put the thermometer towards the back in the middle shelf, it should read between 0-5 the door will always be warmer

I used to have to register that everyday in care homes, it was a big deal with H&S

glad to hear science party rocked I expect dd to be shy at first then get stuck in, a lot depends on the skill of the entertainers, I was hoping to have an hr free for a short run but she is dead against it, party is 11-1

I love my girl but I am reaching my limits with this solo 24/7 business

Thanks sfx re: fridge thermometer. Will relocate and check before panicking.

Re party - always have to stay with both DSs. Only recently that DS1 went off on his own. And DS2 only consented to be left at woodcraft on his own after a whole term. Patience! Soon they won't even want you to appear!

Hello all!
What a busy week! I am soooooo looking forward to Monday :)

Copper, Sfx, what science party are you talking about? I think DD would like that.

Sfx, by saying that you mean that you DH works a lot? Just curious, because i am running out of patience too. I would love to go back to work, but feel like there is just no way until next September :(
Btw, is that Halloween party tomorrow is still on?

Have a great night everybody and a great glass of

Island - DS2 went to birthday party where the "entertainment" is a scientist making explosions and slimy things. They do it so you don't have to.

island hi same sort of party as copper's

about Halloween thing spoke to neighbour they will be doing all that on Monday instead so the children will get dressed up after school and go trick or treating then, same deal

finally child in bed

science party people