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kickassangel · 04/07/2009 14:46

New Thread.

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AnnieLaurie · 23/07/2009 05:29

Should hasten to add, to stop any of you getting the wrong idea about me, I am not the kind of lady who slaps them out proudly, I do try to be discreet and tend to have on those nursing 'peekaboo' vest tops, its just I tend to rely on DS2's great big bonce to cover me up...

CarmenSanDiego · 23/07/2009 06:45

I've never really understood the covering-up thing. Does it work? I saw one lady trying to feed like this in the zoo and it looked so complicated. Whenever I've tried to bung a blanket or scarf over the baby, they just yank it up and fuss!

Seattle's fairly liberal isn't it, Annie? I'm sure if you haven't noticed any grumpy faces, there's no problem.

redflipflops · 23/07/2009 08:35

Thanks for all the replies. I'll try and do it discreetly! (might be hard if hot and baby making slurp slurp noises!)

Hi CarmenSD - we'll be near Santa Barbara. Going to look at the area next week.

I'm a bit daunted about this move (I have 3 kids 5, 3 and baby) - please please tell me the kids will settle in OK! Am worried about feeling isolated not knowing anyone etc... How have others found the move?

CarmenSanDiego · 23/07/2009 10:20

Hi red!

I also have 3 kids, 8, 5 and baby. We moved here last year and they adore it here (well, baby was born here!) but the older two definitely wouldn't go back to the UK if they had any choice in things. They're doing summer day camps at the moment and having an amazing time - there's so many opportunities for kids here.

I love a lot of things in Southern California - not least the weather and the gorgeous scenery. I love being able to go for a swim every day outdoors in the sunshine. If I'm honest, I have found it a little isolating, but that's my own fault for being a bit cocooned with the new baby etc. and I just haven't made the effort. My husband has also struggled with employment, but I assume this is sorted for you if you're moving. In San Diego, there's a strong ex-pat community and this is probably true for Santa Barbara area too.

I also had some issues with my girls' school and they're moving to a new school now which should improve matters. I do find some of the attitudes a bit difficult to deal with here - there's a lot of shallowness about looks, weight and so on, but I tend to ignore and rise above where I can. I also find my sense of humour is sometimes misinterpreted so I have to think more about what I'm saying.

But there are opportunities and a lot of very interesting, very intelligent people around. On balance, I wouldn't want to move back to the UK now.

Hope this helps! If you've got any questions, I'll try and help.

kickassangel · 23/07/2009 15:58

hmm, we're in a very different area, but where we are seems to be quite left wing & liberal (for america) very pro obama & the local uni has a 'hash bash' once a year to promote cannabis smoking.

dh's work is quite social, and i've also found a kind of real life mumsnet, a very varied group of ladies who meet each week for coffee, have a 'yahoo' group (where we're currently discussing jimmy carter's views on sexism in the church, and where to take the kids when it rains) & help out at dd's school.

even so, we are still at the 'feeling new' stage a little, but people really do rally round if you need help & there's definitely a culture of 'community' - that neighbours look out for each other. as soon as i told people that dd was a bit bored & lonely in the holidays, people found other girls her age & gave me phone numbers to set up play dates.

there does seem to be more emphasis on family time & kids are expected to come along to stuff, not sent to bed with a babysitter. it's fine to drop round in the evening with your kids, let them sleep on the sofa or join in. they do tend to have tidy houses & beautiful gardens, though! i think they just work hard & play hard - i've seen less watching tv by kids here, than in the uk. as soon as the sun shines, they're all off to the lakes, or doing other stuff.

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mumoffivemeanschaos · 23/07/2009 18:04

Hi there, just popping in from spending some RL time. Glad SB and Mananny got to the UK ok, hope you are feeling better Mananny?

DH and I managed a week back home, child free aswell! DH had a meeting at his old office and surprised me with a ticket home!!!DD1 did a wondeful job looking after everyone here while I visited my parents and close friends. It was the first time we had been back since we moved to the US. Everything seemed very small!

Small world Kickass, my DH grew up in Crowborough and his Mum still lives there.

SuperBunny · 23/07/2009 22:28

Thanks for the responses! Just wondered!

Been on beach today, found 2 nurseries that I love for Dinner & he likes them both too. I big with large sheltered outside space so they can play out even when it is raining and the other smaller with better food (I think), circle time, music teacher, french teacher and is right by the beach but has a very small outside area. Not sure how to decide. Both have good Ofsted reports. The small one called me and asked what I thought so I said they opened too late each morning and therefore couldn't use them and they said they'd open earlier just for us! How does one pick a nursery?

SuperBunny · 23/07/2009 22:30

mumoffive, how lovely!

kickassangel · 23/07/2009 22:51

gosh, sb, i picked the only one in the area that dh & i could both get to easily on the way to/from work!!

what i liked about it dd's was that being fairly big, they split the diff ages up & when she got older, it was nice for her to have a larger circle of friends.

remember, though, that prob 50% of the time, they won't be going out much due to weather. how hard will you try not to laugh when they say it's too cold to go out? yeah, like it's -20C, just like chicago!!

mumof5, hi. i went to saline yesterday, to the 'baker's nook' - dd & dh have brithdays approaching, so time to get baking. funny how you can go so far & meet people from 'down the road'. one of the mums i know here is from sevenoaks, we both have fond memories of the same pubs there.

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jabberwocky · 25/07/2009 02:55

Hey everyone, I've been a bit AWOL lately.

Let's see..

so sorry about mananny's flu and dooney's health insurance crisis. I've done some temp plans that weren't too bad and some individual policies through Golden Rule and American Medical Security are pretty reasonable - at least to someone like me who has never had corporate insurance.

SB, sounds like you are getting settled in

Oh, and I hardly ever use the handbrake. Only if I'm on some sort of scary hill - but then I usually forget about it and drive several blocks iwth it still on

mananny · 26/07/2009 20:35

Bonjour

Am in France and the weather is finally nice plus I am almost healthy again! 2 weeks til I go to Amsterdam, I am a tadly bit nervous. I miss my life in America too, it's a fortnight since I left and my munchkins keep asking where I am I've spoken to them on the phone and they think I am on vacation and will be back next week, even though we've all explained over and over I won't be seeing them for a few weeks. They know I am coming for their birthday, and also I might see them in September, but they just don't understand and I feel bad that they are upset. Little Miss said "don't look after another baby I will wear diapers again and you can look after me still" They are breaking my heart. I know in time we'll all be fine but in the here and now it feels like I have left part of my heart over there.

OK, pity-fest over. Someone please pass the Nutella and a large glass of vin blanc.

dooneygirl · 27/07/2009 02:20

Mananny.

It is HOT here. Getting up to 100. I love central air. We had a water balloon fight, and popsicles today. It is supposed to be hotter than today for pretty much most of the week, so not fun.

SuperBunny · 28/07/2009 11:38

Mananny, all sounds exciting, if a little sad. Hope your twins are ok.

I have shingles

dooneygirl · 28/07/2009 17:00

Not good. I can't say I know that much about them, other than my grandpa had them and they hurt. Sending good thoughts your way.

It is 9 am, and 84 here already. Now that Sarah Palin isn't governor, who wants to join me in moving to Alaska?

SuperBunny · 28/07/2009 21:08

I'll go to Alaska. I have a couple of friends who live there. One's FB status is always stuff like, 'Baby moose eating my strawberry plants' They probably wouldn't have me though, I look hideous. Why did I have to get this on my face, of all places?

mananny · 29/07/2009 23:01

It's sod's flaming law SB. Like me getting the wretched pig flu during the first proper time off with my real-not-nanny-family in 3 years!!!!! I start my new job in less than 2 weeks (aaagh) and I am finally feeling healthy enough to actually enjoy my holiday! Typical. Grrrrrrr.

Hope you're feeling better, and that Dinner has started to settle into his new life?

kickassangel · 30/07/2009 03:10

sb, hope you're getting better. d'ya think all the stress has finally got to you?

btw, do you have any useful tips about airport parking in Chicago? We're flying from there to Salt Lake City in AUg, and there's too many to choose from!

dd has been diagnosed 'prob AHDH' but they want to see how she settles inot next school year before thinking about any meds/action, as this last year has been quite traumatic. both us & her teacher scored her high on activity & impulse ratings. aslo, she's on iron supplements & might be referred to sleep counselling. when it's holidays, she stya awake til at least 10 (sometimes 12) & up again by 7!

dh & I are feeling quite smug, we always knew she was quite 'full on' but always get compliments on her behaviour. if this is ADHD, having a 'normal' child would be easy? surely? haha.

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jabberwocky · 30/07/2009 05:03

SB are you on zovirax/acyclovir? Shingles totally sucks.

mananny, glad you are feeling better. Even with the flu things sound rather exciting - does that reflect somehow on my current lifestyle

kickass, so sorry about the possible ADHD. Have they completely ruled out senory problems? I know there was something about that before...or maybe I'm confused with someone else

SuperBunny · 30/07/2009 09:07

I'm on flocoloxacillin, aciclovir, piriton and am smothered in calamine lotion. It ain't pretty

Mananny, I hope you get to enjoy your two weeks - do you have lots of plans? I'm going on 'holiday' next week to stay with my mum. She only lives about 20 miles away but that's all we can manage

Sorry about the ADHD, Kickass. Are you relieved that you have a diagnosis now? I assume you know about the dietary things that can help. In fact, I have probably mentioned it before...

Hope everyone is ok. It rains here all the time. I never believed that when I was in the US but it's true!

dooneygirl · 01/08/2009 20:43

You sound like a walking pharmacy, SB.

SuperBunny · 02/08/2009 11:43
jabberwocky · 02/08/2009 20:59

Is it getting any better SB? There is a vaccine for shingles now. It was originally approved for patients over 65 as that is the higher risk group but then was supposed to go into clinical trials for younger patients.

dooney, will email you re: meet-up next Sunday

kickassangel · 03/08/2009 00:10

dd's sensory stuff doesn't seem to rate as highly as her impulse/activity stuff does, although we could be assessed for that. as she also has an infected cyst in her ear, which may need an op, i feel that she's getting enough medical attention atm. we're also trying to sort out eczma, possible allergies, and she has just got a couple of moles like things. honestly, normally she's so fit & healthy i can't remember taking her to the doc more than once a year, if that! suddenly, all these little things happen, oh, and she needs her final hep b jab! think i'll just reserve our space in the waiting room.

just had a lovely weekend at lake michigan. i cloudy day, but 2 sunny ones. dd got to 'surf' & we all ate too much. bliss.

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FluffyBunnyGoneBad · 03/08/2009 00:14

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dooneygirl · 03/08/2009 00:15

Yeah, we let SuperBunny in, so I guess we have to let anyone in.