All those online for NZ timezone!

[buzzybee]

Hi all. Used to be a regular on MN when I lived in London but since moving back to NZ have found it harder to make the connections due to all the brits being asleep when us down under are online! So if anyone is keen to start a thread for those of us in this predicament please reply! My DD has just turned 5 and started school last week (scary). Have just found out I'm expecting number 2 - due roughly Xmas day...

FABULOUS!!!! So pleased for her.

lovely

Put my foot down today and said that I had lost all faith in that consultant and demanded to see another! Have now been rebooked with another for Wed. So it is possible to have a little power for the client in the system
Also talked to the Fetal Medicine Midwife and she has checked with the genetic testing team and they have no reason to believe the sample is contaminated based on what they've see so far. But will still have to wait out the next 2 weeks to get the final definitive results.
I truly think that woman just wants to prove a point with me - am so glad I'll never have to see her again.
Also found out that if considered serious enough they'll want me to give birth in Auckland - easy access to heart surgoens. But have to say I'm regaining my optimism that it won't be that serious - hope I'm not deluding myself!
Forgot also to mention earlier that she's now estimated to weigh 5lb which seems a pretty "healthy" weight to me for 33 weeks IYSWIM

fantastic - well done buzzy
and that seems like a v.good weight to me

Oh, well done, Buzzy! Respect. I'm so feeble when pregnant - couldn't say boo to a goose.

That all sounds positive and I agree, that's a good weight.

Hope you have a good weekend, not too stressed.

I wonder when Anna will appear! Hope you're getting some rest, Anna!

It will be such a relief not to have to deal with 'that woman' again. as you say, she seems determined to worry/stress you based on some very shaky evidence that she hasn't studied properly herself. hopefully new consultant will be sensible and sensitive. fingers crossed for you. big hug.

WIllp0st more later. Thanks Buzzy for posting for me. Birth announcement here:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/1370/418438

Anna I'm so pleased it went well. Reasonably stress free by the sounds of it and you seem really together. Fantastic! She's just gorgeous. Love the hair.

Buzzy - good luck for today. Keep us posted.

I went to see the "new" hospital consultant today and OMG the difference. I suspect there was an element of compensation going on for the way I was treated by the other consultant but he was so nice!!

We discussed risks etc in a very open way and they are still concerned there may be a bowel issue causing the high amniotic fluid but he also thinks its just as likely to be "nothing". No evidence of heart defect at today's scan yay!! So will def need to have baby in hospital so that paedeatrician can check her over as soon as she's born and could be there for up to 3 days for checks - good to be prepared for that.

Have posted a gorgeous picture of her to my profile (3D).

How special is that. What a poppet. And what a difference one person can make. Now you can just concentrate on growing that baby. Wonderful.

Buzzy, that's wonderful. I wish that ocnsultant realised how much she could affect people by what she said - sometimes i thinksome of them have a sensitivity chip missing!

Thnak you for letting everyone know my news. I didn't realise you were thinking of Amelia Rose too! I think Beatrice/Beatrix is lovely too.

I'm home and gradually recovering though the scar is a bit tender and so im trying to take things easy. I'mk getting tired v easily. I think someone (community mw?) is meant to come see me at home for 5 days but no one did today - may have to phone up hosp/my dr and ask. Just got 2 hours sleep in the afternoon which was bliss. Luckily Amelia just seems to sleep and feed. She was awake a few times last night, first night out of hosp, prob just new enviroment. My boobs feel lke they're goinjg to explode too (prob TMI!), I'm really hoping it doensnt last too long, im wandering round the house with cold flannels stuffed down my bra! DH is on a mission to find savoy cabbage at the supermarket.

Hi Anna and Shells!
I could hardly sleep last night even though I felt much more confident things were OK after going for the scan at Bowen last Friday. It was just the thought of going back to the hospital I think. Feel much more positive about the place now and greatly relieved that I don't need to fly to Auckland to have the baby! Today has also made me realise what a difference one person can make and I'm going to seriously consider writing a letter setting out my feelings - not a complaint as such but I feel it would be good to get on record what a difference a customer focused approach can make to a healthy happy pregnancy.

I remember that feeling Anna! But don't worry it doesn't last too long thankfully. I found the Avent hand pump worked well for me. Sorry can't be too helpful regarding community midwives etc as had DD in London. You could also try ringing Plunket and see what they suggest? You should definitely have someone come and visit you daily for a few days.

Isobel was nearly called Emily. Then one of the women in my NCT antenatal class called her baby Amelia and I thought that was lovely and decided that would be a name option for future babies. However baby Bea's father has a daughter called Alisha and although he's not showing any signs of interest in her at the moment that might change and I think Alisha and Amelia are a bit too close. Also it doesn't work very well with my surname which starts with an "Me". Otherwise we could well have had babies with the same name!!

Anna, I had a c section with DS1 and remember being very sore and tender but thinking I was ok, but then walking to the letterbox and not being ok at all! So make sure you've got your feet up as much as possible, esp. while DH is there. and sore, big boobs - yes! I guess your milk has come in. they will calm down i'm sure. hope you have a good night.

Had an awesome night, fed at 11.30 then she didnt wake up for next feed til 10 to 5, then went back to sleep and still asleep now! So nice to feel a bit more rested, yesterday was a bit hard. And the cabbage leaves work a treat too. Am nt even thinking of walking to letterbox yet, get tired just wlaking round house - am taking it very easy. Quite sore sitting up from lying down, because of scafr. But all well otherwise.

Glad you dont have to fly up here for hte birth Buzzy, how wouyld htat work - they would have t fly you up on a certain date I guess - can hardly send you up here in labour!

Ohhhhhh, I am feeling all gooey looking at pics of anna's and buzzy's babies!

Glad you had a good night, anna, and glad you've got a nice consultant now buzzy!

How are you getting on, shells?

This has turned into a complete pregnancy and babies thread hasn't it. i think you need to have another baby now welliemum!
i'm ok. sciatica has kicked in so not sleeping well, but generally i'm feeling pretty good about it all. doing lots of faffing around trying to sort out who is going to look after kids, depending what day it is etc. and thinking 'can i afford some new feeding bras?'. only 4 weeks to go for me (or more or less). getting quite excited to think i'll meet my baby soon.

Lovely to see you again today Shells.
Sorry to hear about the scar infection Anna - hope the antibiotics do the trick quickly and Amelia is thriving.

This weekend don't have DD so planning to get the baby's stuff a bit more sorted - put clothes away in drawers, repack my hospital bag to allow for a longer stay etc.

Also planning to go and visit friend who had baby on 30 Oct - wee Micah Cole. Seems only last week I was at her baby shower!

Anna how are you getting on? Haven't heard from you for a while.

Yeah, I don't think i'll be posting much for a while though I have been reading the threads I'm on still. The day I was being released from hospital (Monday) we received some very bad news, my mum died in a car accident last Saturday in the UK. It's obviously a horrible shock and the timing is horrendous, though it could never be good timing could it. Dh has been an amazing support. I've been told by drs not to fly back to the UK as the wound is still healing and the infection is still there, though going.

I'm just getting through each day at a time at the moment. It was a 17 year old driver who crashed into my mum and at the moment we dont' know if it was something wrong with his car or if it was driver error. There will be an inquest but it may take up to a year to happen. My mum was a very young 71 and I'm angry because I feel she had years left yet, I'm also angry that I'm not really enjoying my baby as much as I should because of this. The only comfort we have is that she was unconscious instantly and would have felt no pain, the first person on the scene was a retired nurse and she has spoken to my sister and told her my mum was in no pain - the impact was so great she lost consciousness instantly.

I've seen my GP and she's recommended a bereavement counsellor who I may go to see. I don't really feel like posting on here for a while but I will keep up as I want to know about all the babies arriving! Good luck with them. I'm just trying to concentrate on looking after myself and Amelia at the moment.

Anna, I'm so so sorry and feeling hugely for you. This is the biggest thing. Pleased that DH is there for you. Hope lots of other people are too and that Amelia is a comfort.

Anna, I don't know what to say.

Can any of us here in NZ help in any way? I wish I were closer.

Thinking of you and your family.

Thanks for the messages of support. I think some days are just going to be harder than others and it will be like that for quite a while. I look at my previous post and I still can't quite believe it has happened to me and my family.

SOmetimes I just feel how unfair it is, how full of life she was and how her four children and eight grandchildren have lost a wonderful mum/granny. Other times I feel more positive and try to think of all the good memories, how I had a great mum for 36 years and how she wouldn't have known what happened and at least she wasn't ill for years like some people. Also, I'm not really religious but my mum and dad both were and I really do feel she's with my dad again now (he died last year).

My brother is organisinbg someone to video the funeral so at least I can see it and hear what is said, to give me some "closure" (horrible American word, but there you go) which I think will help. It's hard having no one here in NZ who really knew her, who I can share memories with, but I am on the phone a lot to my sisters and brother in the UK. Sad I can't go back but I really don't think I am up to the flight at the momenbt with the C section and the infection and I know my mum would just want me to be getting better. She was so excited I had become a mum, so happy for me. At least she got to see all her kids settled down and happy, that meant a lot to her.

As I said I may not be posting much but I will keep reading to keep up with babies' arrival etc.

Anna, you have my phone number please call or text me ANY time. If you'd like to have someone to email and just vent, my address is lmeade at deloitte.co.nz

Everyone's different but for me writing things down helps and you can say absolutely anything you like to me after all!!

A counsellor sounds like a good idea and if you like I can ask around a few friends in Auckland for recommendations.

If you do like writing maybe write down some precious memories of your Mum and Dad for Amelia for when she's older?

It must be hugely difficult not to be there even though you know that now is the last time you should be travelling. But I guess you can still plan a trip for later and have your own private memorial.

When is the funeral? We will be thinking of you.

Anna: Just popping over from the antenatal threads to say I'm thinking of you - and if there's anything at all I can do from here in Scotland then please let me know.

You can contact me at work at lorna [at] spreadeaglejedburgh [dot] co [dot] uk or privately at ljnoble [at] gmail [dot] com

I'm really not sure what else to say, but have a virtual hug from me anyway.

Thanks

The funeral is next Wedensday, it will probably be the middle of the night here which is prob a good thing as I won't be sitting around dwelling on it. They're trying to make it as joyful and celebratory an occasion as possible as that's the kind of person she was.