Pamela thread 6 - Bile Duct Cancer, Continued

[WilsonMilson]

Hi all

It’s Kerr here, I wanted to post a quick update as I’m conscious Pamela hasn’t been on for a few days and the thread seems to have reached its limit.

Pamela hasn’t been feeling so good over the last few days - on a positive note, her bloods seem to have stabilised and, all being well, she might be ok for chemo round 2 in the next couple of days. She had a blood transfusion yesterday which, we hope, will also boost her energy levels. On the downside, her jaundice has returned, the bilirubin levels are increasing significantly. The CT scan at the beginning of the week showed no new blockages and our Consultant thought that some early necrosis of the tumour after the last chemo might be contributing, but nobody really knows what’s causing it. Further discussion to take place tomorrow. Seeing the jaundice is one of the worst parts of this, it’s so clear and obvious when it’s happening yet there’s nothing we can do to alleviate it.

Just wanted to let you know the latest. Please, please keep praying for her - she’s my everything, my world, and every thought and prayer is deeply appreciated.

Kerr

So very sorry. I haven't commented much but Pamela and her lovely family have been in my thoughts lots. What a beautiful, brave lady. Sending so much love to all that love her. I won't forget her posts and bravery x

I am so sorry for the loss that you have all experienced, to lose a daughter, mother and wife is very difficult. I hope that knowing that Pamela died surrounded by a loving family and with every comfort that you could afford her, helps you now. She wasn't alone. She touched so many people on her journey and is being thought of in every corner of the world. You were very brave to bring her to London and to support her in all her decisions. You gave her hope and allowed her to fight, which were gifts for a woman like her. A bereavment counsellor told me that the first year after death is your special time with your lost one. I found it to be true and felt my person was close all the time. I hope this helps you in your grief. Take care, be kind to yourselves.

Hugging my loved ones that bit closer because of her, and your, posts. I am so sorry for your loss and hope you can find some peace. X

. A bereavment counsellor told me that the first year after death is your special time with your lost one. I found it to be true and felt my person was close all the time. I hope this helps you in your grief. Take care, be kind to yourselves.

This is lovely. So sad but so true.

@daisychain42

So sorry for your loss. It's clear that Pamela made a really massive impact on so many people, here and in her everyday life. please try and ignore the cruel comments or the fact that someone created a fake thread. I hope you can remember how many distant strangers were moved by her words and cared very deeply.

I just looked at a few of the photos of dear sweet Pamela and Kerr and it's made me cry (sitting here in soft play with my children 😢)... life is so hard and unfair. She fought the most amazing fight, I'm in awe of her ❤

Pamela was clearly such a fabulous woman-that's why so many people have been following and holding you all in their thoughts and prayers throughout the updates. You must be absolutely reeling from the speed of her passing and there's nothing we can say to make it feel better right now. But I, as just one of many, many, mumsnetters, will continue to think of beautiful Pamela and your family xx

Sending my most sincere condolences. She has touched so many people x

Kerr I am sending my sincere apologies for your loss. I don't comment very much on Mumsnet, however, Pamela's story touched me so much. She was extremely eloquent with her words despite the pain she must have been in. You will always have those words and her thoughts. What a wonderful gift. She has been in a lot of people's thoughts and was a truly inspirational woman.

My sincere condolences to your family, she seemed like she was one of a kind. I hope you all find some comfort in knowing how many lives she touched, may she rest in peace.

I’m so sorry for your loss.
Pamela’s honest and open writing really touched my heart.
Sending love and strength to you and your lovely son xx

I am so very sorry. Another person here touched so much by Pamela and her writing, she was clearly just absolutely wonderful x

I’m so very sorry for your loss. I found Pamela’s posts to be very inspiring and the love she had for you all came across so strongly. Thinking of you all xxx

I’m so sorry to all Pamela’s family. What an incredible woman ❤️ rest easy Pamela. What a beautiful soul x

Am sure I quoted you over Pamela threads . You nail everything that I wanted to say Lana . Pamela is a name that I will never forget and I will always think of this lady when I hear her name 💕

I relate to this so much @Hels20
I also found myself talking about Pamela to someone in real life and became so choked up I had to stop.
I was wishing so hard that she would make it.
I won't forget you Pamela x

I’m not a regular poster and I am not sure if I ever actually commented on a Pamela thread, however they pinged up in trending one day and I have read every one and just came looking tonight as I hadn’t seen a recent update. I am so, so sorry to hear this news, absolutely heartbreaking for you all, thank you for being so open with us xx

I feel the same, watched along the way and actually spoke about Pamela’s story out loud tonight to my partner and couldn’t stop sobbing telling him. Such a beautiful person inside and out, may you rest in peace. ❤️

I'm another one who has been following right from the very start, but never posted. I always thought of Pamela, but struggled to find the words to post. She was clearly a very special person. My utmost sympathies to all who loved her. X

I know words can’t really help much at all but we got a little glimpse of the wonderful, warm fabulous person that Pamela was and I will always remember her threads on here. My thoughts are with her beloved Kerr and Jacob and her mum.

It must be so difficult to act with such dignity when faced with a terminal cancer diagnosis.The sudden nature of this case would make it so much harder. I have huge admiration for both Pamela and Kerr x

Yes, exactly how I felt, I was willing her on silently, was so very sad when I read the update x

I'm so very sorry for your loss x

I’m another one who came searching for an update today as I hadn’t seen anything in a while and I often think of Pamela. What a brave, courageous lady, even in the midst of what she was going through her character and sense of humour shone through. Kerr and Jacob I’m so sorry for your loss.

I am so very sorry to read that Pamela has passed away.

She was clearly a wonderful person who loved her family and friends fiercely.

Rest in peace, Pamela 🤍