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Pamela thread 6 - Bile Duct Cancer, Continued

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WilsonMilson · 23/07/2023 09:26

Hi all

It’s Kerr here, I wanted to post a quick update as I’m conscious Pamela hasn’t been on for a few days and the thread seems to have reached its limit.

Pamela hasn’t been feeling so good over the last few days - on a positive note, her bloods seem to have stabilised and, all being well, she might be ok for chemo round 2 in the next couple of days. She had a blood transfusion yesterday which, we hope, will also boost her energy levels. On the downside, her jaundice has returned, the bilirubin levels are increasing significantly. The CT scan at the beginning of the week showed no new blockages and our Consultant thought that some early necrosis of the tumour after the last chemo might be contributing, but nobody really knows what’s causing it. Further discussion to take place tomorrow. Seeing the jaundice is one of the worst parts of this, it’s so clear and obvious when it’s happening yet there’s nothing we can do to alleviate it.

Just wanted to let you know the latest. Please, please keep praying for her - she’s my everything, my world, and every thought and prayer is deeply appreciated.

Kerr

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Zanatdy · 03/08/2023 15:08

So sorry for your loss. There are so many genuine and nice people here, they vastly outweigh the sad person who thought for whatever reason they wanted a bit of attention today. The opposite of someone like Pamela really. May her memory live on in your hearts always, she will always be fondly remembered on mumsnet

BeautyAndTheBruiser · 03/08/2023 15:10

gettingolderbutcooler · 03/08/2023 15:08

Why was the other thread deleted?

It was started by a troll 😡

Dinnerisburnt · 03/08/2023 15:10

I haven’t commented before, just quietly followed and prayed for Pamela, I am so sorry for the loss of your lovely Pamela. Take care 💐

SquirrelSoShiny · 03/08/2023 15:15

Kerr I am so sorry and so sad about Pamela. So sorry about your loss. Thinking about you, Jacob and your family as you grieve the loss of Pamela. Her honesty was so beautiful and moved so many people. I hope it gave her some comfort to feel such love from all over the world. Wishing you all strength in the days and weeks ahead. Such love to you all x Flowers

Oldtiredfedup · 03/08/2023 15:15

I’m so sorry to hear this. I lurked mainly, but checked in almost every day hoping to see good news for Pamela and you.

Spicedgingerbreadlatte83 · 03/08/2023 15:16

I’ve been following quietly from the beginning and I’m so so sorry- sending you lots of love ❤️ I cannot fathom what makes someone fake a thread like than - absolutely despicable.

Talulah29 · 03/08/2023 15:16

I hadn’t commented before but had followed Pamela’s posts and just want to express my deepest sympathies to you, your son and all of your family. I am so sorry to hear this news. Pamela was clearly an amazing lady and loved you all very much. Thinking of you all 💐

Wishihadanalgorithm · 03/08/2023 15:19

Kerr, I followed Pamela’s story and was so very much impressed with the determination, love and humour which she displayed throughout.

I don’t have any words to make things more bearable for you but do know that Pamela touched many of us on here. Many are facing their own difficulties and she illustrated how to face those challenges with bravery and optimism.

I am so sorry you have lost your wonderful wife.

Whatmeagain · 03/08/2023 15:19

I’m so, so sorry for your loss. Pamela was an incredibly brave woman - even though I’m sure we only saw a tiny bit of the amazing person she was. You are all in my thoughts and prayers x

Annasoror · 03/08/2023 15:20

I am so sorry, Kerr. Pamela was so proud of how wonderful you and Jake are. Praying for peace for you all xxx

I8toys · 03/08/2023 15:22

I'm so sorry that she died. Love to you and your family x

BarnabyRocks · 03/08/2023 15:22

I'm so sorry to hear the news about Pamela. I have been checking for updates every day, even on my holiday . I can imagine you and your poor son will be in shock and totally devastated to have lost her. Anyone with an ounce of decency could tell that Pamela was a genuinely kind, loving open person who deserved the best in life. I didn't know about the fake post until you mentioned it above. In all walks of life, all over the world, the overwhelming majority of people are kind, caring and honest and Pamela had thousands of people all over the world who were caring, hoping and praying for her in their own ways, willing her to get better. Don't let the thought of what that horrid person did with the fake post take up space in your brain- as soon as a thought of them appears just say 'no' aloud or to yourself and push it out of your brain, reminding yourself they are a nobody. There are thousands of people here who are sending you and your son caring thoughts. May Pamela rest in eternal peace, surrounded by comfort and loving thoughts of you, your son and her Mum xxx

TesterPotQueen · 03/08/2023 15:22

I have followed Pamela's posts from the beginning, I am a lurker and rarely post but wanted to send you and Jacob and your family my sincerest best wishes for the difficult road ahead. Pamela's spirit shone through her voice in her posts, she was so clearly a very loving and much loved woman. Thank you for updating and I am so very sorry you have lost her.

beachbum85 · 03/08/2023 15:24

Heartfelt condolences to you Kerr, Jacob, your family, and all Pamela's loved ones... I'm so, so sorry for your terrible loss and you will remain in my thoughts xx

waterlego · 03/08/2023 15:28

Dear Kerr,

I’m shocked that the other thread was started by a troll. What an extraordinarily cruel thing to do. I’m sorry you have had to deal with the upset of that on top of what you are already going through.

I am so sorry for your loss of the lovely Pamela. We saw a glimmer here of the wonderful woman she was, but you had the honour to really know her, and to be the one she chose to make a life with. I hope that beautiful memories of the love and life you shared will sustain you through the impossibly difficult weeks, months and years to come. I know that in time your grief will become a little lighter to carry, a little less raw. But your love for Pamela will never diminish. Sending my deepest condolences to you, Jacob, Pamela’s Mum and everyone who knew and loved her. I will remember Pamela’s bravery.

trebarwith1 · 03/08/2023 15:33

Oh Kerr I'm so sorry to hear you have lost your lovely wife. Thoughts with you and your family.

You know,if could find the sort of love the two of you had I would take that and a short life over a long one without it any day.
After my mum died she wanted this poem read, I hope it comforts you, as it did me.

I leave you with our memories, they are yours to keep. I have turned my face to the sun my dear, and now its time for me to sleep.

Aurea · 03/08/2023 15:37

Sending condolences, love and greatest sympathies to Kerr and Jacob.

Pamela sounded like a special woman; and given the chance, someone I would have felt proud and privileged to know.

Orangebadger · 03/08/2023 15:37

Kerr, I am so sorry to hear about Pamela, what a traumatic time you have been though. I am so heartbroken for you and Jacob. All I can do is send you lots of love, Pamela touched many lives including my own and my children. You will always remain in my thoughts xx

BarnacleB · 03/08/2023 15:37

My heart goes out to you, Jacob and all of your family and friends.

Sleep tight, lovely lady x

cheezncrackers · 03/08/2023 15:46

I'm appalled that the earlier post was fake - there are some really sick people on the internet.

Kerr, I'm so very sorry for the loss of your beloved wife and Jacob, your beloved mum. Pamela touched so many lives in the time she reached out to MN for support in her darkest hour. I hope you feel that love and support now Kerr. Wishing you strength and fortitude in bearing your loss. Fly high Pamela, now your earthly suffering is over. You were clearly a wonderful, strong, funny, loving, open and extremely eloquent woman xx

WestwardHo1 · 03/08/2023 15:47

Enormous sympathy. I'm so sorry for the loss of your Pamela. It sounds as though she was a properly lovely person. I wish you strength and peace x

Lady7978 · 03/08/2023 15:54

❤

AutisticLegoLover · 03/08/2023 15:58

Much love to you, Jacob and Pamela's mum. What an amazing lady Pamela was.

Elleviss · 03/08/2023 16:00

So very sorry for your loss...

Rest in peace amazing Pamela ❤️

nat1972 · 03/08/2023 16:04

I’m so sorry for your loss….Pamela was beautiful inside and out x

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