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Pamela thread 3 - Bile Duct Cancer, off to London!

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WilsonMilson · 05/07/2023 22:51

Just starting a new thread.

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WilsonMilson · 07/07/2023 09:11

Made it to 46! Well, that’s something.

Pretty crap night. Sweats and feeling awful, pain not too bad thankfully but just feel so ill, more than when I got here, I know I couldn’t make that trip now.

Oxygen levels low, really tachycardic and low BP. Which isn’t unusual but was a bit worse than it has been. On bags and bags of fluid still and I’ve puffed up a lot - don’t know if it’s that.

In the last day, I’ve developed really painful ascites in my abdomen and now look honestly like I’m about to give birth to a fluid baby. Making it almost impossible to eat more than soup. Those are going to be drained during the op.

Surgeon came last night and told us more - was a bit upsetting actually as I hadn’t really understood the limitations of what they can do here, it’s not a simple stent and go. They are putting in drains only today to see if it helps - no guarantees as they can’t go through main biliary tree as that’s apparently just not going to work as tributary branches are blocked, so they are doing a subsidiary one at the back of my liver which is still a bit functional. So it’s not going to clear ALL the jaundice and may not work at all. But I have zero other options. If the drains do work, then they will stent on Monday - which he said is an easy thing after the drains, won’t be as big an op. So, it’s all on whether these drains work over the weekend. If they don’t - what do I do? I just don’t know. I’m not fit enough to go back home. Do we fly in mum and Jacob just to see me go?! Sorry, I don’t want to be so negative but I’m in a lot of anxiety this morning, a lot of sweats and zero energy and extreme tiredness. Feeling at my lowest point so far.

On to more positive things - your pics are fantastic. The prayer that is being said for me in someone’s church is just beautiful, your animals are adorable - Teddy especially is a doll. Thank you for those, they keep me going in the more desperate moments.

I’ll see if Kerr can take my phone and update you later - he’s not really familiar with how mumsnet works, but I’m sure he’ll manage.

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watermeloncougar · 07/07/2023 09:16

@WilsonMilson this must be so so tough on you and yours, but you have done brilliantly to get to London and grab this opportunity. I hope after a difficult night, today brings positivity and hope.

MeeThree · 07/07/2023 09:17

Happy Birthday! Fingers crossed for success in surgery.

On the plan, maybe it's good to have one now with Kerr so you know what to expect as I imagine you'll be feeling quite tired and out of it after the surgery (the anaesthetic itself will knock you out for a bit, even without the other things).

Thatbloodyhedge · 07/07/2023 09:19

Pamela, Happy Birthday xx
Sending all my love, hope and light to you
Alex xxx

Wishimaywishimight · 07/07/2023 09:19

Happy Birthday Pamela although I know it's not at all how you would wish to spend the day.

Wishing you lots of love and strength for whatever today brings. Praying hard that the drains are successful and that you can have the stent on Monday.

Lots of love from Dublin.

Captainhook3 · 07/07/2023 09:19

Happy Birthday Pamela, and so sorry you are feeling so awful.
It sounds like the medical team have your back.
Please God everything will go to plan today.
We are with you every step of the way.
xxx

Jusmakingit · 07/07/2023 09:21

🥳 happy birthday beautiful 🥳

EdieLedwell · 07/07/2023 09:22

Happy Birthday Pamela, my admiration for you knows no bounds. You have the strength of a thousand men. All my prayers are being sent your way today ❤️❤️

Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 07/07/2023 09:26

Happy Birthday Pamela, and may your present be the drains starting to work well by the end of today!

I'm sorry that you feel so low today. You've just been hit with so much bad news recently. I hope this will be the day that turns around. My advice would be to ask Jacob and your Mum if they want to come this weekend/tonight, after telling them honestly what the situation is. This gives them the opportunity to say goodbye should the situation not improve in the way we all hope and pray it will xx

PhoenixIsFlying · 07/07/2023 09:28

Pamela am hoping today can go as well as it can and the drains work for you. Sending all my love 💓 ❤️

User27107066 · 07/07/2023 09:28

Happy Birthday Pamela. You are in my thoughts and prayers constantly. Sending my best wishes for today. Your bravery and fortitude amazes me. xxxxxx🥰

Izzy24 · 07/07/2023 09:29

Happy Birthday Pamela 🎉
And many happy returns 🎈💕🥳

RedDoughnut · 07/07/2023 09:30

Happy Birthday dear Pamela.

Keeping you in my thoughts today.

TheresBoozeInTheBlender · 07/07/2023 09:32

Happy birthday and good luck to you Pamela xx

Yes, get your mum and Jacob over. They'll be wanting to see you x

9years · 07/07/2023 09:32

💐best wishes to you and your loved ones

Fluffyaroundtheedges · 07/07/2023 09:37

Lurker here but wanted to wish you a happy birthday and all the best for today. I only found your thread by accident last Friday and have been following since, can’t believe how you’ve been treated. I’ll be thinking of you today.

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Sweetashunni · 07/07/2023 09:39

Happy Birthday Pamela! Hope it is one full of love, hope, and the beginnings of an effective treatment. 🎈 💐

Toothiepegg · 07/07/2023 09:41

With love x

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RelaxedPigeon · 07/07/2023 09:41

Happy Birthday Pamela.

Thinking of you today for your operation and hope it all goes well. I hope the drains do their job and then you can have the stent on Monday and start to feel a big improvement.

🎂

Skinnermarink · 07/07/2023 09:42

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Missingmyusername · 07/07/2023 09:43

I imagine the trip itself has taken a huge toll both mentally and physically. Cross bridges as you come to them, I always spiral about what will go wrong, what may happen and we have no control over so many things, it’s not worth using that energy up that could be better spent else where. Think good, positive thoughts, eat what you are able, drink, rest.

nornironlady · 07/07/2023 09:45

Happy Birthday Pamela. You deserve a lifetime of them. I'm so touched by your story and have shared with my friends and family. I will light a candle for you today in Belfast City Centre that things go well over the weekend allowing you to have your OP. You are in my thoughts as someone close in age and family circumstances. I'm admire your strength and bravery in sharing your story.

PhoenixIsFlying · 07/07/2023 09:47

Every morning Arnold brings my mum a gift. This mornings gift is for you , darling Pamela. Happy Birthday. I hope later you will be feeling some relief from the surgery ❤️

Pamela thread 3 - Bile Duct Cancer, off to London!
Pamela thread 3 - Bile Duct Cancer, off to London!
Janey3090 · 07/07/2023 09:49

Happy birthday Pamela! Wishing you all the best for today xx

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