Pamela thread 3 - Bile Duct Cancer, off to London!

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Just starting a new thread.

Best of luck for tomorrow, Pamela!! Happy Birthday, I hope you manage some birthday cake over the weekend 🍰 Any news on Jacob and your mum visiting soon? x

Best of luck! Rooting for you from the middle east! All good wishes and hopes for you and family.

Pamela the absolute happiest of birthday wishes and hope for tomorrow. And it is going to be the best birthday because you surgery is going to be successful.

I'm praying and thinking of you all xxx

P.s I wish I could look that amazing in a hospital bed! You are rocking it! Xx

Will be thinking about you all tomorrow. Sending every good wish to you and your family, much love xx

Still thinking of you here in Oxford and sending every possible good wish your way.

I did smile at your comment about interactions with the nurses, especially “I’m fine thank you”. I can absolutely promise you that the way you ‘behave’ in hospital with regards to activity levels, requests for pain relief (and general all round bolshiness/complaining about things if needed) makes zero difference to how ‘worthy’ they think you are of treatment. On the whole we’re quite a science-y (and sadly often quite arrogant) bunch who prefer to base decisions on bloods and scans rather than this. That said, I totally get that ‘middle class restraint’ thing about not wanting to make a fuss.

I promise I won’t mention it again after this but please ask for as much pain relief as you need to be comfortable (and if need be merrily away with the fairies, see it as an added bonus!). The drugs are there for a reason.

You’re doing brilliantly and we’re all rooting for you.

Lizzie Xxx

My DC is at school with Pamela’s son and I can vouch for her authenticity - shame on those who have queried it 😥

Big hugs, eurgh so sorry for any upset, I was one of the posters who mentioned the unmentionable😣… moving swiftly on…

Glad the hospital is taking great care of you, that things are moving fast. Great that you are eating, keeping your strength up as best you can. Hope Kerr is eating too and getting some sleep.
Sending good wishes for tomorrow, you sound like you’re in very good hands. That in itself must be a a huge relief to you and your family. Just being surrounded by a team you have faith in, that know their stuff, that you feel safe with.
I have a feeling we may need a whole new thread for the happy birthdays!

Hoping you sleep well and have a comfortable night. Love the humour in your posts, but I know there is pain. Stay strong and good luck xx

Pamela, you've done me a massive favour.

I've been lucky with my health and have taken it for granted. I've also always assumed that the NHS would "fix it" if I had a problem. I'm going to join BUPA now. You've documented such a shocking tale of the NHS that I know I need to have a "plan B".

At least you are in the best place now. I just hope the stent op. all goes well for you tomorrow.

Pamela, the reason so many people are supporting you is because your posts are so relatable. Any of us could be in your shoes and many of us have friends and family who have been through similar journeys; you are bringing to life your experience in such eloquent and articulate posts. So we are all standing with you, thinking of you and sending our strength and love.

Two years ago I lost my mum to an aggressive cancer and she was also significantly delayed being transferred from the small-island hospital to the mainland U.K. There was no urgency or understanding of the seriousness of her condition. She could’ve paid privately, but also didn’t realise it was a life or death choice. You have made the right choice going to London and you will have access to the best treatment, it was a brave decision.

This is definitely a journey rather than an event, I’m sure there will be many difficult moments, but you are giving it your best shot and I am full of admiration for you and your family.

Just want to say you and your family are.in my thoughts. I hope the surgery goes well xx

A sunset over the Mediterranean for you ❤️

This my dog pretending he's comfy. I hope you are not feeling like this!

Wishing you the very best of luck for tomorrow, you are in the best place and you have your wonderful husband Kerr by your side. I’m positive that everyone who is following your journey wishes you nothing but love and good luck. Mumsnet can be a crazy place sometimes but very good at a hand hold when it’s needed. Sending you love and light we shall all be thinking of you tomorrow 🙏❤️

Taken on my walk, thinking of you Pamela, Kerr, Jacob and your mum from Buckinghamshire xx

Thinking of you and keeping everything crossed that all goes well tomorrow. X

Thinking of you pamela - you have been in my thoughts since your first thread.

I hope you have a lovely date night with your hubby! You can do this!

everything crossed for tomorrow - you literally are superwoman,! You can and will get through this.

Hugs to your hubby too - he sounds like an absolute star of a man.

Haven’t posted yet but I’ve been following the last few days and I’m so sorry for you and your family. It’s utterly shit but you’re fighting like a warrior. I admire your bravery in both posting here, baring your soul and fighting the shitstorm that is cancer. Sending all the positivity and luck from the midlands.
Emily xxx

Sending love and hope, and all good wishes for the gentlest evening tonight so you can get as much rest as possible before the procedure.

Pamela, just sending prayers and good wishes from California. Happy Birthday too and hope you are getting some relief.

Sending you love an good wishes- I will be thinking of you tomorrow. Xx

Sending you very best wishes for tomorrow Pamela.
Hope you can see this picture of the very first flower on the new rose in my garden in Devon. She's called Agatha Christie!

Bless you Pamela.

Hoping I read your earlier post correctly (comprehension not always my strong point!) but your birthday is tomorrow? So's mine. 7/7 girls together! Has to be a good omen for you and your op. Trust your Prof B - he sounds like he knows what he's doing. I don't want to post much, as others say it all so much better, and they've been here with you on your threads longer than me (I'm a mere newcomer) but you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers, and I have everything crossed for you. And Happy Birthday, even though it's not the one you'd choose to have. I hope it's ok to say that.

Hope tomorrow goes as well as it can and happy birthday for tomorrow. This is my cat that I got during chemo on the chair I used after surgery. I am so sorry for all you and your family are going through and I hope you can defy the odds.

@Lougle Today 17:29

I agree with you so many more times than I don't. Your post was spot on. Mumsnet do their very best to be supportive. And like you I am well aware of instances where things were not as they seem. @Mumsnet were totally correct to remind all posters of limitations on this anonymous site.

Continuing to wish Pamela love and support. Just so pleased you are now in the hands of total professionals.

Hi Pamela, wishing all the best for tomorrow and a Happy Birthday too.
This is my dog Willow xxx