Pamela - Bile Duct Cancer (last thread pancreatic and liver)

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Hi everyone, I’ve created a new thread as I am overwhelmed to see that the last one is full. You have all filled me up with your hope and encouragement. I’m keeping going as long as I possibly can!!

You go girl, you have the strength and courage to do this! Supporting you every step of the way. 😘🙏🤞🍀🌸

You are BADASS Pamela! I'm so glad that you're going. It's a chance and you're grabbing it. YES!

We're all rooting for you and your family. Xx

Sending lots of love, hope and good wishes for the gentlest of journeys with the best possible outcome for you.

Oh, Pamela I will be thinking of you on your journey. I’m so glad to know you’ve been given this chance. I’m joining your legion of well-wishers on Mumsnet in wishing you strength and peace on the road ahead. Prayers for you and your wonderful family.

I think you are right to go. Sending prayers and hugs. You continue to inspire us all with your eloquence and strength. You may not feel strong but your words and aura coming through your posts show overwhelmingly how full of love you are for your family and the journey you are on.
We stand with you. X

I've been reading but not posting, but had to after your latest update where I punched the air saying Yes! You brave inspirational woman, I hope with every fibre of my being this works out wonderfully for you and wish you the very best.

You are incredible. You’ve got this, sending all the love in the world ❤️❤️❤️❤️

Oh Pamela, my heart breaks for you and your family. You have been dealt such a shit hand. Please go to London if you can possibly manage it. A little hope is better than no hope at all. There are so many people right here on this thread praying for you. Take us all with you in your heart tomorrow and we will collectively give you all strength. You will be in my prayers tonight and i continue to send you all the very best wishes.xx

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So glad you’re going to London. You are an utterly amazing and incredibly brave woman.

I know you may well feel uncomfortable about it, but we all so want to help. If I can contribute to a hotel/accommodation for Jacob and your mum I would be so happy to. Or take the PP up on her offer of a place to stay! If I still lived in London I’d offer my home up in a flash.

You’ve touched so many hearts.

Lots of love and luck to you, and for a safe journey tomorrow. I'll go and say a prayer for you tomorrow morning and ask my church to do the same tomorrow night at evensong.
You're being very brave - thinking of you and your family - much love to you Pamela 🌺

Pamela you are one amazing and brave lady. Well done for deciding to go. Wishing you all the very best for your trip xx

Should I just go?

Yes!!! Please go xxx

Sending love and best wishes for tomorrow Pamela. I’ll be thinking of you xx

Pamela you are so courageous and a fighter, I'm sure your family are so so proud of you!! I've been following your story and I really hope there is a positive update soon, I will be keeping you in my thoughts and checking this thread regularly. Good luck sending you strength on your journey xxx

Oh yes, I’d be so happy to contribute to that too.

So glad you have decided to go - I will be rooting for you. Wishing you as comfortable a trip as possible. My wonderful mum had cholangiocarcinoma too - getting the right care and an oncologist you trust is a game changer. I’m sorry you’ve felt let down so far. We lost her but we had 2.5 precious years from diagnosis (she was given less than 12m initially). The stent made her so much more comfortable - I hope it’s the same for you. You and your family will be in my thoughts. Lastly, at your age I don’t think any of us would have thought it was anything more serious than perimenopause etc. And for 99.9% of people it wouldn’t have been - so try not to beat yourself up. Save your energy for more deserving things ❤️

Pamela, in terms of comfort, are you able to take a sedative for the plane journey - just standard diazepam?

Pamela, I am rooting for you from Dublin. You have to go. You have such inner strength. You need just a little bit more of it to get into that bed in London. You haven't been given a chance yet. This is your chance, if you are able at all, to do it. We are all behind you! Thinking of you all the time and sending you courage and strength and healing prayers 🙏

Wishing you all the luck and love in the world for the next part of your journey Pamela, I hope your flight goes as well as it possibly can and that you will be well looked after in London xxx

I’ve been reading but not commented before. Pamela you are brave, courageous and I am so glad that you are going to London and taking the chance. It might not seem like an easy option, goodness knows the journey must seem daunting when you are incredibly fatigued but I genuinely think it’s the right one because all along you have wanted to fight and for as long as you’ve got that, then every chance is worth going for.
I wish you and your family the safest and most comfortable journey to London and know that you have touched many people who are rooting for you.

Another lurker coming on to wish you so much love and best wishes for a safe trip and good outcome tomorrow xx

I've been following your post from the very beginning Pamela, and wanted to add my voice to the hundreds of others who are sending love and luck.

There are some people in life who are so inspiring that you know that you'll remember them forever. You are absolutely one of those people. Never before have I said this to a stranger, but truthfully you've touched so many people, showing a level of courage that many of us simply cannot imagine.

I live in York, so tomorrow I will head to the Minster to light a candle. I'll sit a while and send positive thoughts and prayers. While you're making your journey so many of us will be holding you in our hearts, and we will continue to do so for as long as you need us to.

Lots of love, you've got this 💕

I’m so glad your mum got that time. We would literally have killed for that for my mum. We got 4 months (and at the end she was in hospital and unable to communicate so not even that!) from the day the bastard liver specialist brought her in on her own, having travelled 70+ miles by ambulance as a hospital inpatient, early for her appointment but he didn’t even wait for my sister and I to get there for her appointment time! He said bluntly, “You have 3/6/9 months” to my mum who had been widowed mere weeks before!

Like you Pamela, she was treated so badly, and I am so sorry that upwards of 20 years later, it’s no better!

So glad you are taking control! Go to London, take your chances. You are not lying down and accepting this crap treatment! We didn’t have the knowledge or resources and we trusted the NHS. My dad died suddenly 9 days after mum’s diagnosis and we were all left reeling.

Go speed xx

We’re all rooting for you, much love xx