Pamela - Bile Duct Cancer (last thread pancreatic and liver)

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Hi everyone, I’ve created a new thread as I am overwhelmed to see that the last one is full. You have all filled me up with your hope and encouragement. I’m keeping going as long as I possibly can!!

I’m so pleased you have decided to go. We are all right behind you! You are so courageous and amazing!

Have just seen your update …100% go and make sure you get pain relief for the journey. Absolutely everything crossed for you .Hopefully Jacob can travel with you .Xx💕🙏Xx

Wishing you all the best and at least Professor Bridgewater is offering you some hope no matter what. The other shameful doctors in your health trust just seem to be giving up which is awful considering they have left you so long without treatment. I hope you manage your pain while travelling. Can you be prescribed stronger painkillers? I know this must be so scary but you must be strong to have got this far and still have some fight in you.

Pamela! We are behind YOU. GO.

all you other mumsnetters can we start a Pamela's Army? add your first name and your location. Lets sum up where we all live and show our pamela support from all over the world!
I will start.. please copy and add your name everyone!!

--Love from Lynn and her family including 2 crazy standard poodles in Punta Cana Dominican Republic

"I’d like to think I could be seen as brave and that I did everything I could - I would FAR rather be remembered that way."

You ARE brave. You are really fucking brave.

Sending you so much love and courage.

You are really so amazing. So glad you have decided to go. Please if you need it, let some of us donate to accommodation costs for Jacob and your mum. Sending you lots of strength for tomorrows flight x

So glad you’ve decided to go. Take warm blankets for the plane as it can get very cold, warm, thick socks. Praying for a good outcome, sending good vibes.

Will be thinking of you and hoping all goes well.

I know it's easy for us to say go but go.

I think the professor you've spoken to is correct i really hope i don't sound harsh but it seems to me they've given up without actually having giving you a chance.

Theres a chance take it. Again, easy for me to say whatever you decide we're all with you. Xx

RAGING at the state of the doctors who have failed you, but thrilled you’ve found hope in London and are grabbing it with both hands.

You are utterly amazing and are in my thoughts all day. I’ll be willing you on….

Sarah, York.

Didn't see your last update. Just wanted to say i agree with everything you said and you're bloody amazing!

I’m so glad you’ve decided to go to London, you are incredible and I wish you all the luck in the world 🍀 We will all be thinking of you on your journey tomorrow.

I am so glad you are taking this chance Pamela. I absolutely think it is the right decision. Best wishes for the journey and the treatment ahead - we are all standing with you. Love from Alex in Gloucestershire x

Pamela you’re such an inspiration! We’re all going to be thinking of you as you travel to London and also on Friday. Sending strength and warm wishes to you and your lovely family. You’ve got this! xx

Good luck Pamela, I wish you all the best for the next few days and hope the journey to London goes smoothly x

I'm glad you have a plan, Pamela. I hope the journey is swift.

Wishing you all the best. You're giving yourself the best chance.

Good luck for the journey! xx

Sending lots of positive vibes, strength and hope for your journey in London 🙏 you absolute warrior woman!

And, you know, everything else. But the journey comes first.

You are so brave Pamela, I’ll be thinking of you on your journey tomorrow. X

I’d go too. Nhs failings bumped my dh off last year but we fought every step of the way and I don’t regret it even though it didn’t work.

They don’t even try now. Straight to palliative care.

Good luck for Friday and I hope it works for you.

Wishing you all the luck in the world Pamela 🌎🍀You really are incredible & I'm so hoping for a good outcome for you and your lovely family ❤Love from Kimberley, West Midlands xX

I have been following your story and think you are making the right decision - I know the journey will be awful but I feel that the glimmer of hope will lift your heart more than being left to die at home.

I know the end outcome is uncertain but you have to throw absolutely everything at it.

Thinking of you xx

I am so pleased you have decided to go, we are all behind you and I believe there is still hope!

A hospital in NI really failed my dad earlier this year, I didn't realise just how ill he was (there was COVID on the ward so I wasn't allowed in, my mum was allowed in but she just believed what the doctors told her and didn't question anything). Eventually they admitted he needed more expert care and he was blue lighted to the Royal, and I got a phone call in the middle of the night from an ICU doctor telling me that he might not pull through. Thankfully he did pull through but unfortunately he had to undergo life changing surgery, leaving him housebound and my mum plunged into a new role as carer. Although we are very grateful that he is still here, I know that this all could have been avoided if the hospital had acted sooner and not been so complacent with other people's lives.

So please go to London where it sounds like they will actually do their best for you, that is what you deserve.