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I'm going to die and I'm petrified

152 replies

dewisant2020 · 28/02/2023 21:41

I'm not sure where to start really, I was diagnosed with lung cancer and today I went to see my specialist who's told me my prognosis is terminal.
My heads been all over the place, one minute im crying, the next laughing.
I am so afraid and keep having panic attacks.
Will I ever make peace with this I keep asking myself

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Tulipvase · 28/02/2023 21:43

This must be a frightening time for you. Have the hospital suggested anyone you can talk to?

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Stopsnowing · 28/02/2023 21:45

So sorry to hear this.

TaRaDeBumDeAy · 28/02/2023 21:46
Flowers
Icecreamandapplepie · 28/02/2023 21:46

Bloody hell. All bets are off. Make the most of every minute whichever way you want to. Whether that's a bucket list of adventure or sitting about with a cocktail in bed every day.

Do you have kids?
Treatment options to prolong your life?

I'm so sorry this has happened to you. We are all here if you want to talk.

bellalou1234 · 28/02/2023 21:47

I'm so sorry. This must be such a shock my thoughts are with you.I hope there's treatment you can have. Terminal can be for a long long time and hopefully advances on treatment x

PollyPaintsFlowers · 28/02/2023 21:48

I'm so very sorry Flowers

DorritLittle · 28/02/2023 21:48

I am so sorry this is happening to you OP. Sending hugs 💐

Cityzen74 · 28/02/2023 21:49

So sorry to hear this - what devastating news. I am not surprised your head is all over the place. Is someone with you? Please keep talking here if you would like to 🌸

Sunshineismyfriend · 28/02/2023 21:50

So sorry.

Rockschooldropout · 28/02/2023 21:50

Do you have a partner or children ?
Family support ?
I can imagine you are in shock right now , my father has terminal lung cancer and it took him a good few weeks to process the diagnosis last year . Have you been given a prognosis in terms of time and is maintenance treatment an option ?

TheDogsMother · 28/02/2023 21:51

I'm so very sorry OP Flowers. This must be very overwhelming for you to take in. Perhaps MacMillan would be able to help with your thoughts and questions ?

Its2amimustbelonely · 28/02/2023 21:51

My DM was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer last March. She had a tumour the size of an orange in her lung. She's since had chemo which she sailed through and radiation therapy which has knocked her about a bit but she's coming out the other side. Tumour now the size of a walnut. All treatment is palliative but she is responding well and we're hopeful for another 2-4 years. I'm so sorry you've received this news but a terminal diagnosis doesn't have to mean it will happen this year or next. You could have a good ten years left in you. Sending you love 💕.

FantasticMax · 28/02/2023 21:51

I’m so sorry, what a shock for you. I can’t even imagine how you feel. I hope there’s a treatment that will help give you a good quality of life

ZiggZagg · 28/02/2023 21:52

So sorry 💐

RancidOldHag · 28/02/2023 21:53

Do you have a local cancer support centre (people tend to have heard of Maggies, but they're not the only ones so your nearest might be a completely different charity). They can usually offer all kinds of support

Who do you have to lean on?

And do you have a specialist nurse who you can ask all the questions that come to you just after an appointment has ended?

Dragonsandcats · 28/02/2023 21:54

I’m so sorry, what an awful shock for you. Have you got some support, I hope you can have some treatment.

MichaelFabricantWig · 28/02/2023 21:54

I’m so sorry x what a dreadful shock

biscuiteer · 28/02/2023 21:55

Here for you.

Fourmagpies · 28/02/2023 21:57

I'm so sorry, what awful news. You haven't had time to process the news yet but when you feel up to it, research local charities that support people with a terminal diagnosis. There are a couple of amazing charities near us that provide alternative therapies and support in coming to terms with a such a diagnosis. It really does make such a difference and will help with the the panic attacks. Wishing you all the best xx

Aredlump · 28/02/2023 21:58

OP I am so sorry ♥️😢

backtoitin40s · 28/02/2023 21:58

I'm so sorry. My DM was diagnosed this too recently. The shock, fear & horror is slowly abating. Still get the gut punches most days but it's strange how the unimaginable becomes normal.. & hope is everything. I can only advise to talk as much as you can, take all the counselling offered & listen to mindset related podcasts.. if your head is strong it'll make such a difference. That said, I'm not sure any of us can ever truly come to terms with such news. Life is unfair & cruel.. so all we can do is twist every last drop of joy from it where we can xxx

Disneyvillain · 28/02/2023 22:01

So sorry to hear this, sending you hugs and prayers xx

mumda · 28/02/2023 22:02

Remember every reaction you have to this devastating news is fine. Be angry or scream and cry. Or sit quietly in disbelief.

I hope you have someone close to you to help you process your diagnosis. But you should always find someone here to listen. Mumsnet rarely sleeps.

HikingforScenery · 28/02/2023 22:03

i’m so sorry to hear your news @dewisant2020 💐