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My DH has just been diagnosed with AIDS

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Thisorthatwhoknows · 19/02/2019 22:18

I need some hand holding. It's been a really tough few years as a family. My DH was raped by 2 men on a stag do just before our 2nd DC was born. He didn't tell me for sometime but did and we've been trying to work through it together. But after 2 years of feeling ill he was admitted to hospital with pneumonia and subsequently diagnosed with AIDS. This is devastating. The form of pneumonia is also very serious. I'm scared he's going to die...

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Aridane · 19/02/2019 22:35

HIV or AIDS?

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Thisorthatwhoknows · 19/02/2019 22:37

Stage 4 HIV positive and now he's contracted an 'opportunistic infection' it's classed as AIDS.

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BedraggledBlitz · 19/02/2019 22:38

I'm so sorry, what an awful time for you. Sending love x

Haggisfish · 19/02/2019 22:39

Oh god how awful. Can they start treatment with the anti retrovirals? Sending hugs and virtual support.

Rtmhwales · 19/02/2019 22:41

This is one of the saddest threads I've read. I'm so sorry you're both going through this, OP. Your DH must be in shock, to go through something so traumatic and to now experience this as well. Have the doctors said what kind of prognosis or treatment options he has?

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Thisorthatwhoknows · 19/02/2019 22:42

Yes, once the PCP is under control they will start the drugs. His CD4 count is so low (64) that it's whether they can recover some of the damage done to his immune system.

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Nephilim1964 · 19/02/2019 22:44

God, I'm so sorry OP. I remember reading your post when you told us about your husband's rape. I have a couple of HIV positive friends, and they're living normal lives because of their medication. I really hope you both can get through this. Sending a massive virtual hug x

bonzo77 · 19/02/2019 22:46

I remember your thread. So shocked and sad for you and your family. Very much hoping that 21st medicine has something to offer your family.

shecamefromgreece · 19/02/2019 22:46

Oh my god I'm so very very sorry xx

bonzo77 · 19/02/2019 22:46

*21st century FFS.

SpanielEars070 · 19/02/2019 22:47

That's horrifying OP, and what a shock for you both Flowers

GirlRaisedInTheSouth · 19/02/2019 22:47

We have many family friends living with HIV. They all lead normal lives with medication.

So sorry this is happening to you OP. I hope your DH recovers soon and you can get your lives back on track.

Sleepyquest · 19/02/2019 22:47

This is awful and I hope your DH recovers well. Make sure you get some help and support too, whether it be counselling or equivalent. It is not going to be easy but i hope you can get through this and DH can start on the medication

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Thisorthatwhoknows · 19/02/2019 22:48

Thank you everyone. It's helping knowing I have a safe place to come and get support.

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flitwit99 · 19/02/2019 22:48

I'm so sorry. What a rotten, horrible thing to happen to your dh and to you and your family.

burntdinner · 19/02/2019 22:51

Don't know what to say other than awful news , tragic , hope your DH is ok and feeling better on new drugs soon , Thanks stay strong

PeachesPlumsPears · 19/02/2019 22:51

I'm sorry OP Sending you a huge virtual hug too. xx
Flowers

Windgate · 19/02/2019 22:53

I remember your original posts. Just offering my support.

SirVixofVixHall · 19/02/2019 22:53

Op my good friend, twelve years ago was admitted to hospital with a very nasty pneumonia. He also found out that he has AIDS. He is a gay man, who had been reckless with protection, and had stuck his head in the sand about being tested.
He was horribly thin by the time he found out, and seriously ill.
Now he is robust, well, and looks great. He has been told recently that the virus is now undetectable in his blood.
The wonder of AIDS treatment. Only a few years earlier he would have been dead within weeks.
He is not the only person I know with HIV. All are well. Your husband is in good hands now. This is a huge shock for you, but I was convinced my friend would die, he looked so ill, and yet once treated he turned around quickly.

ViserionTheDragon · 19/02/2019 22:56

You will get through this. Stay strong Flowers

PointlessUsername · 19/02/2019 22:58

So very sorry op Flowers

NotAFuckingYummyMummy · 19/02/2019 22:59

Oh I'm so sorry you're both going through this ThanksThanksThanks

buckingfrolicks · 19/02/2019 23:01

I'm so terribly sorry OP. That is a truly awful hand to have been dealt. I have a friend with AIDS and he's remarkably well. I hope that becomes the same for you and your DH. All good wishes.

Aridane · 19/02/2019 23:03

The PCP is treatable and then he can start medication to address his CD4 count. Flowers to you and DH

Whoops75 · 19/02/2019 23:03

What vile creatures to inflict this pain on ye.

Use every resource available to help ye through this, it take courage to ask for help.

Be sad
Be angry
Be brave

I wish ye well x