Total bowel obstruction and Ovarian Cancer - advice?

[LadyFlumpalot]

Hi all, my Mum is in total bowel obstruction caused by advanced ovarian cancer and has been in a hospice for 3 weeks tomorrow. The last time she ate a proper meal was the beginning of April. Does anyone have any experience of this? Her doctors are being very vague and telling me they can't give a timescale.

She is still in symptom control mode, not end of life care but she is slowing down, getting sleepy, slurring her words and getting a bit confused.

I suppose what I want to know is - can anyone give me even a rough indication of how long? I'm so tired, the hospice is two hours from my house and I'm visiting every day as well as working and doing the childcare. I want to take a couple of days to myself but I'm worried she'll slip away and I won't be with her if I do that

Sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself now, you'll be very tired. Hope you have people around you when you need them.

I've just read this post with a huge lump
In my throat and tears in my eyes. I'm so sorry for your loss. Your mum sounds like she was an absolute gem, and you sound like you're following very much in her footsteps. Lots of gentle love to you xx

I last posted on Thursday with an update. Against all expectations mum woke up again on Friday morning and managed to gather enough breath to tell the nurses (who were talking over her a bit and fussing) to please be quiet, go away and leave her alone to die in peace. It made me chuckle as she wasn't rude but was just.... her.

She was very poorly Saturday and went to sleep Saturday night and passed away peacefully early hours of this morning.

Thank you to everyone for your comments, your wishes and for sharing your stories. For a poisonous nest of vipers you have all really helped me through this shit time. Love and hugs. Xx

Big love to you lady. I hope your Mum had a peaceful ending. I’m sure she felt very very loved and that love between you will always exist.

These next few days and weeks will be strange ones I’m sure. MN is a wonderful place to offload, has helped me loads in the 7 weeks since my dad died, so stay in touch as and when you need to.

Take it easy.

Bless you. Lovely message 🌸🌸🌸

Thinking of you Lady.

I lost my Mum 18 months ago, and the last few weeks were so long and drawn out, although she wasn't in pain. I found it easier when I understood that dying is a process. As a family we will always have some precious memories from those weeks.

Take care of yourself, and know that she loved you and knew that you loved her.

Think of you @LadyFlumpalot xxxx

so sorry @LadyFlumpalot its such a horrid time

Sorry for resurrecting a zombie post (if you'll pardon the expression given the nature of the thread) - it's been nearly 8 months since my darling mum passed away and I came back to read this thread again. I'm so grateful for all of you who posted support, held my hand and just sent love. Thank you all who shared your experiences with me.

If anyone else reads this and is experiencing the same thing or the loss of a loved one, please do hang on in there. I couldn't imagine back in July being able to survive my loss, but I have and you will too.

Massive hugs and much love to this poisonous nest of the most loving vipers.

Thanks for posting. Your thread has helped so many people. Thinking of you LadyFlumpalot.

Lady I just found out today my mum must have chemo from Monday as they found c cells in her ovaries and tubes and in an external growth post hysterectomy. I am just feeling so bereft and live overseas- tickets were already booked for June but I may go earlier for a week.....My mum is nearly 80 and I just cannot imagine the world without her.Her chemo starts on Monday- it is not in her lymph system so that must be a good thing. My dad and brother are with her looking after her.I just feel like I will be too fragile to face the world, if my mum is not somewhere alive in it.I am sorry you lost your mum Lady but your story brought me some comfort. How are you doing?