Husband now terminal

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My 31 year old husband has been today diagnosed as terminal. His cancer which had gone in July has come back rapidly and now there is nothing they can do . How do you move on from here? We had his sperm frozen to hopefully try ivf but he won't even be alive to try that.

I'm so utterly heartbroken

I just took the dog out for a short walk as she hadn't been to the toilet all day (other than a wee) and she had a small but normal bowel movement. I'm hoping her resting and not really eating is her way of healing herself. She could well have stress induced illness as she is very sensitive to change.

That's encouraging. I hope it's a peaceful night for all.

Life can be utterly shit to good people. It makes me mad. So so sorry to read this. Been in this situation with my daughter. Take it one day at a time. Don't worry about offending anyone if they want to visit and you're not up to it. Take any practical help offered.

31 is no age. So sorry.

I’ve just read your whole thread and just want to give you my heartfelt sympathies for what you and your husband are going through. You poor souls.

My dad has had a relapse after leukaemia & a bone marrow transplant last year. The reality is, we’re probably going o lose him to this bastard of a disease. So while I can’t quite put myself in your shoes, I can empathise a lot with your situation.

Sending lots of love and hugs too you both

Just popping in to say I'm still thinking about you.

I've just read your thread. I'm so sorry for what you're going through. It must be very hard.

Thinking of you both. How is the dog doing?

She was ill again today. I've just realised though that her yumega itchy dog has gone out of date by a fair bit . I feel awful. If that hasn't caused it all I think it hasn't helped. My in laws dog came yesterday too as they couldn't get the usual dog sitter so I think it stressed her a little too.

Oh dear OP, not what you need. I hope she gets back to normal soon. How was the in laws visit? Hopefully not too stressful for you and DH?

It was okay, we are having Christmas on Saturday. We have all put in and bought a photo blanket for him.

Lovely present very thoughtful, does he know or is it a suprise? Are you having a meal on Saturday?

I had to Google "photo blanket". How lovely. It's given me an idea for DD , with pics of her late dad. I hope your early Christmas goes well.
Thinking of you.

The blanket is a surprise for him. I've ordered from Bags of Love.

He's started throwing up green bile which I know is not good. I'm trying to get through to the doctors but the line is busy at the minute.

I don't know about meal I think we will probably just have turkey sandwiches or something. My bil and I will decorate the house but mainly the bedroom so it looks festive.

Oh Gosh, have you managed to get through to the drs yet?

The decorations will look nice. Is your bil bringing them or do you have some?

I got through and they sent a nurse out with a stronger anti emetic injection. I told them all about the colour and the nurse asked about his eating which isn't very often. I think it's bad but there isn't anything they can do because he's so weak and he's terminal so his body will be starting to shut down.

I have plenty of decorations . It will just be logistics getting it sorted.

That's good, hope the medication helps. Must be awful for you having to watch him go downhill. How is your dog today? Is she at her day care? Mine just had her nails done and is out walking with her walker now. I can't walk at the moment as am having a hip replacement later this week. Awww will look nice with all the decorations. I bet you can't wait to see his face when he sees the blanket!

OP I'm sorry you and DH are both suffering for this bastard disease. (my pedantic grammar checker wants to change that to suffering from - I guess suffering for and from would be appropriate ). Anyway, Would DH be able to tolerate anything like ice-lollies? or even ice cubes of frozen squash. Not so much to "eat" them, but just to have something in his mouth that tastes vaguely pleasant.

I hope your plans for some Christmas spirit bring you some lighter moments.

She's home with me today. Her daycare is a 20 minute drive away with 5 minutes on the motorway and I'm just not comfortable getting her there. I hope your recovery is smooth Amber.

He has at least 1 ice lolly a day buttered. He's struggling with most drinks other than water. I put a lot of ice in it so it will stay fresh longer.

That is quite far. Has her tummy settled down now? Thank you for the good wishes I have never had an operation before so a bit nervous. How are you coping looking after yourself? Do you cook in the evening? I know it is hard when it is just for one.

She was unwell in the night with loose bowels but she is perfectly happy in herself. She was playing with her ball this morning running around. My BIL is staying so I'm cooking for us both. We had a lasagna last night.

That's nice having him to stay, is it until the weekend? Yum love lasagna. Might just be stress with your dog, good she seems happy. Is DH still being sick or did the medication help?

No he's staying indefinitely. He's been here about 4 weeks already and was here another two weeks with 1 week at home in between. My DH wants myself, BIL and dog in the room with him when he passes and he wanted his brother around before to spend time with him.

The medication seemed to help he's sleeping now. It took a while for him to get comfortable but he seems a bit more settled now.

I'm sorry to read your dh and DDog are both feeling more poorly. It is very fortunate that your BIL is able to spend this time with you.