Husband now terminal

[Nifflerbowtruckle]

My 31 year old husband has been today diagnosed as terminal. His cancer which had gone in July has come back rapidly and now there is nothing they can do . How do you move on from here? We had his sperm frozen to hopefully try ivf but he won't even be alive to try that.

I'm so utterly heartbroken

The dog is still looking after me though.

Can you get a nurse to come today? For pain relief/comfort.
You are doing so well. Your dog looks adorable.

Any time I offer he refuses so I’m just taking advantage of the fact the nurse is already coming on Tuesday. He just wants to be left alone really. He’s quite introverted and hates a fuss being made of him.

Sending massive hugs niffler. I lost my sister to cancer last year age 33. At the end one we were taking it in turns to sit with her and one of the things she liked was having her feet rubbed. It was a nice thing to do and feel connected without her feeling like she needed to talk/ reply which was difficult for her at the end. I also echo what pp said about dry mouth/ lips. I hope you can get some pain relief sorted today. Thinking of you and Mr niffler. He is lucky to have you.

Sending love and hugs to you and your beautiful pooch

You're both in my thoughts

Thinking of you and your DH today

DH has had a fairly good day today. He’s been taking regular anti sickness (twice a day) and it seems to have made a difference with his drinking. He’s drunk a lot more today than he has in a few days. He spent around 5 hours downstairs watching tv and asked me to order him a game for the Xbox. I’m hoping with it just being the two of us for the next week (barring my dsis for one night) he can really relax and just be. He’s still not eating and hasn’t managed a complan in around 3 days but keeping hydrated is much more important and I’ll keep offering food/complan.

Nice to hear he's a bit brighter.

You're doing so well, I can't imagine how difficult this must be.

niffler just been catching up on things, and so sorry things seem to have progressed so quickly
I hope the pain can be managed and that the nurse can offer some support and suggestions for symptom relief....Palliative care teams are usually brilliant with their advice
...complementary therapy/aromatherapy is used a lot in the unit where I work with cancer patients and they all say how relaxing it is..sorry,.has your dh been able to access this?
I also hope you have support for yourself irl.....look after yourself

Stop I have a number to book complementary therapy.* They only do a few days a week though and last week he wasn’t well enough. He had aromatherapy, massage and meditation/visualisation when he was first getting chemo and he really enjoyed it.*

Sorry I have no idea why it came up bold

Thinking of you and your DH, Niffler.

Op, I'm so sorry. Be there with him as much as you can, cherish these moments, and I love that he wanted an Xbox game. I hope it arrives soon.
My thoughts are with you both.

I hope the therapies help xx

Thank you all.

His Xbox game came on Monday some. He spent a few hours on it yesterday. He thought he was annoying me by being on it I kept having to tell him it was fine. If he was well and just spending hours on it all the time with no thought to me it would annoy me but he’s not going to be able to ever go on it again soon so I’m happy he’s enjoying himself.

No advice but I am thinking of you both xx

Thinking of you both Niffler xx

Thinking of you today Niffler, hoping you are both enjoying some time together. X

You are doing an amazing job, he is lucky to have you and your gorgeous dog

Thinking of you both

Glad the game arrived and he's enjoying it.

Very happy he is enjoying his Xbox game and I'm sure you are happy to see him happy.