Husband now terminal

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My 31 year old husband has been today diagnosed as terminal. His cancer which had gone in July has come back rapidly and now there is nothing they can do . How do you move on from here? We had his sperm frozen to hopefully try ivf but he won't even be alive to try that.

I'm so utterly heartbroken

I'm sorry, Niffler. I'm glad it didn't drag out too much, the past week must have been terribly difficult for you. But I'm so, so sorry for your loss. Rest in peace, Raziel.

Long time lurker come to pay my respects and my best wishes.

I'm really sorry for your loss

Just realised I spelt DH username wrong it's Raizel. Raziel is the angel in mortal instruments series.

Thinking of you today Niffler and in the days ahead. What a wonderful wife you are! Hope that the fact your DH was able to pass as he wished will give you some comfort in the days ahead.

Take care of yourself. x

I'm so so sorry Niffler. Big hugs to you. Take care xx

I don't know what to do without my DH. I keep wanting to tell him things but I can never do that. I can never hear his response to things now. I can never have one of those make it all better hugs. I just don't know what I will do now.

I'm sorry niffler, all you can do is feel it. It's painful, and hard but if you don't allow yourself to feel these things then you cant grieve.

Saying that, grief is an immensely personal thing and every one handles it differently. When my fiance was killed, it was like a part of me was taken too and that has never really gone away. I still talk to him now, still tell him things, he just can't answer me back.

I'm probably saying all the wrong things. There's no rule or set path for your grief. We all feel things in a different way and order to the next person.

Thinking of you so much

Oh niffler, I've been following your thread and I can't begin to imagine how you are feeling today but j couldn't read your last thread and not reply.

My father died in similar circumstances a few years ago just before Xmas and it is a shocking time to loose someone.

It still talk to him very day. Just about the small stuff and I can still hear his voice saying 'hello love' and I cling to that.

Take as much time as you need and take each day as it comes.

He will always be with you and always be a part of your life.

We are all with you holding your hand and sending many many hugs.

Awww no, are you in your PIL's house?
That must be tough. I am sure you want to just get back home and close the door to
The world for a wee while.
Make sure you do have people around you tho, too much alone time at this time won't be good for you.
Thinking of you often.
Keep your spirits up, you are doing great xx

Its going to take time to work out what to do now. I am wishing that the memories of him and his hugs gives a tiny bit of something to cling on to. Xx

Morning Niffler, just to say I'm thinking of you. I hope you managed to get a bit of rest. x

Oh sweetie. It's beyond shit. Take little steps in all things and be kind to yourself xxx

It's very painful and raw, talk to him, hug his pillow, brought me comfort in the early days. Have a look at the Bereavement thread wish I'd found it five years ago.

There is nothing anyone can say that will make things as they were but take comfort, if you can, from all us bunch of strangers who are thinking of you, even when we don't know what to say.

Oh my word, yes, I remember Raizel for the "neutropenis" episode!! Made me chuckle. He must have had a great sense of humour Niffler.

Thinking of you today.

Yep he was neutrpenis guy . He was so annoying at times and we argued about whether I thought he was right in what he posted but he was a good guy (just an annoying one).

I took his meds to be destroyed, the pharmacist was looking all over for some gloves and said in front of me to another staff member she didn't want to catch anything . I knew why she needed gloves and that it was protocol but I didn't need to hear her say it.

I've got an appointment today to register his death so we can hopefully get the ball rolling.

God that was insensitive of the pharmacist. I'm sorry you had to hear that.
Thinking of you. I wish there were words to lighten what you're going through. xx

Niffler I am so sorry for your loss.
I lost my 27 year old son last year and the bereavement board saved my sanity.

Hope you are bearing up. 🙏🏽❤️

So sorry you had to hear that from the pharmacist. Unbelievable insensitivity. Hope you had a decent night’s sleep last night. Thinking of you. Xx

Niffler - I can't believe the pharmacist said that! Jesus Christ, what a bitch. You did well not to pick up the entire box of lipsalves that chemists always seem to have on the counter and chuck them at her.

Thinking of you.

Really on your behalf at what that pharmacist said Niffler; that is utterly insensitive.

So cross on your behalf. You should have retorted "as far as I'm aware, you can't 'catch' cancer" but I know that's childish and doesn't help in the grand scheme of things.

Thinking of you x

Thinking of you

Thinking of you, hope you manage to get some sleep tonight