Husband now terminal

[Nifflerbowtruckle]

My 31 year old husband has been today diagnosed as terminal. His cancer which had gone in July has come back rapidly and now there is nothing they can do . How do you move on from here? We had his sperm frozen to hopefully try ivf but he won't even be alive to try that.

I'm so utterly heartbroken

So sorry for your loss x

I went through this with my dad on New Year's Eve. I'm so sorry for your loss and hug your doggy tight. I have two I would take to the nursing home and they were there when he died, they both knew and were very quiet while there was people in and out (very unlike them). His love will help so much and you can cry as much as you need with him xxx

I'm so sorry Niffler

Just seen this - I am so sorry for your loss.

Morning niffler. I hope you managed to get some sleep. Please look after yourself and remember to eat and drink especially over the next few days. Thinking of you all and sending hugs. X

Morning Niffler. Hope you managed to get some sleep. Must have felt very strange glad you have ddog to hug

So sorry for the loss of your darling husband. There are no words to comfort you but just know there are many many strangers thinking of you and wishing you strength to get through the days /weeks ahead. Please look after yourself

Morning Niffler. I will be thinking of you today.

I'm so sorry Niffler I hope you've managed to sleep ok

We're very much the same with our ddog too @Nifflerbowtruckle

I hope you managed a peaceful night. You were in my thoughts as soon as I woke up this morning.

Sending you and

((Big hugs))

I’m so sorry 💐

31 is so very young, life can be so, so unfair.

Bastard cancer.

You have coped incredibly well, especially considering you had people staying when you really wanted to be alone with DH, that’s stressful on its own. You need to put yourself first now & look after yourself, even if that means being a bit blunt with others x

So sorry for your loss Niffler.

I hope you can get some small comfort from the fact he's now at peace and that he was able to pass away at home with loved ones. The strength you have shown is amazing, you're a wonderful wife and I think you were lucky to have each other. 💕

I managed to sleep okay last night. I kept the tv on all night so I had some background noise. I think everything is just a little numb at the minute. His last week was awful. He had lost so much weight he was barely recognisable and his voice had turned to a croak.
He left me a video to watch and I'm not sure when I should watch it. He left gifts for his parents and brother too which I will give them in a few days. I think everyone needs to be home when I do so there isn't the long drive afterwards.

Good you managed to sleep. It will feel surreal at the moment especially after the past week, with a feeling of relief that he's no longer suffering, sometimes guilt hits for feeling that relief, that's normal. Having him at home with you lovingly caring for him would have meant so much to him. Will you have someone with you or will they all be going home?

My PIL have just left but my BIL has stayed with me. I am hoping we can get everything sorted soon so I can go back to our home town.

Niffler do you have friends around to love and support you. Please look after yourself. You are one amazing woman but too young to be widowed! 🙏🏽❤️

Niffler, I am so very sorry for your loss.

You and your DH clearly found each other and had so much mutual love - few couples really share that. It is so utterly cruel that this has been taken away so young. Much love to you and your family.

I have a friend who I will see once I get back to home town.

I'm glad you managed to get some rest Niffler, I think numb is normal, you've been so strong and cared for your husband with such love for so long. My thoughts are with you and your family x

Thinking of you. I'm sorry for your loss. It must be so hard.

Thinking of you

You have been on my mind over the past few days Niffler.
I went through something similar with my dad earlier this year.
Sending peace & love to you at this most difficult time x

Am thinking of you and hoping you are as well as you can be. Don't be afraid to ask family to give you some space if you are feeling a bit overwhelmed (think you mentioned upthread that you are an introvert) and take the time you need to grieve in your own way. It does feel really surreal, too much to process and just so hard

I'm so sorry for your loss.
I am relieved however that he is at peace.

So sorry OP. I’m glad that he managed to pass in the way he wanted though, at home and with you. Thinking of you.