Husband now terminal

[Nifflerbowtruckle]

My 31 year old husband has been today diagnosed as terminal. His cancer which had gone in July has come back rapidly and now there is nothing they can do . How do you move on from here? We had his sperm frozen to hopefully try ivf but he won't even be alive to try that.

I'm so utterly heartbroken

Oh Niffler

I've been following your posts since the beginning and I just want to let you know how very sorry I am.

You've sounded so calm and strong throughout everything. Please please look after yourself tonight.

Very sorry for you loss! You have been so brave, so strong... May God help you through this difficult time x

I'm so sorry to read this @Nifflerbowtruckle - and if I may say, If there's any part of you that's relieved he's free from that horrific thing, that gripped him and took him away, way too soon, then please feel no guilt.

You are amazing. You were the one who made sure some of his last wishes were followed, when he could no longer say those things himself.

Your love for your Husband shone through your posts and now you need to give yourself some time to take it all in and react however you feel.

I would also love to hear your onward journey, and about your Husband, as and when you're ready to talk about it.

In the meantime, please take care of yourself, enjoy sleeping in your bed and maybe even curling up with DDog there too?

Sending you lots of strength xXx

I am so sorry Niffler, I am crying reading what has happened, you must be devastated. You have my deepest sympathy.

So sorry sweetheart, and so impressed by your love and courage. may you dear DH rest in peace, and may you also find peace.

Lovely ddog has pretty much always shared a bed with us. Early hours of this morning when we all decided to get some sleep she was on the double bed with me and DH. She slept on my pillow and it was almost like old times. She gave him a good ear lick yesterday too which he always liked.

ahh lovely ddog -how is she? Much love to you, to DH & your families and friends

God bless you and your family and may your wonderful husband RIP.
🙏🏽x

I am so sorry that you lost your lovely husband far, far too soon. But you looked after him so, so well. In the end he was surrounded by love, in his own bed, at home, which is exactly what most would choose and not many get. Take good care of yourself now, and keep talking here if it helps xxx

Deepest sympathies OP, so sorry for your loss xx

I’m so very sorry for your loss 😘

Ddog is okay. She was really good today spending most of the time on the bed. She was downstairs at the end though. I took her up to see him after he had passed but she just laid at the end of the bed. I'm not sure if she was more aware of this happening than she showed but she's been fine today.

Hi, I commented this morning, and have just caught up.
I'm so sorry.
I also think your dear dog was not herself as you were describing because she picked up on your dh's illness. It sounds as though she also enjoyed that ear lick.
I'm sure you'll be a comfort to each other, please sleep ok, x

I'm so sorry

I've come up to bed. It's strange, during his treatment we often slept in different rooms so sleeping alone (excluding ddog) isn't unusual I enjoy star fishing but now the other side of the bed seems huge.

So very sorry - I have been following your thread and you have given your DH the very best of love and care that you could.
You are both in the thoughts of so many of us.

Niffler - hope you manage to get some sleep or if not peaceful thoughts and some rest.

I'm so sorry for your loss OP and can only reiterate what PP's have said

So sorry Niffler . Try to get some sleep tonight. I'm glad you have your dog with you - they never judge when you cry and can take endless hugs.

So sorry Niffler, you are in my thoughts

Sorry your DH has passed but he no longer has to suffer, now it's time to look after yourself. Cry if you want, scream if you want...don't worry about anyone else and what they may think.

In regards to your MIL holding DH's hand and stroking all the time, when my DH was at the same stage, his sister (a nurse) did the same and I could see it was annoying him, asked her to stop but she glared at me and continued. Some people just don't get it!~

Thinking of you as you will have a few rough days ahead but it does get better. Look after yourself and your little dog.

I have been so impressed with the grace and bravery you have shown through your posts . I am glad your DH is nor suffering anymore and incredibly sorry that your suffering is continuing. You remain in my thoughts.

My thoughts are with you Niffler xx

I’m so sorry he’s gone. I’m glad you were with him and I am thinking of you and your dog. 💐

Niffler, there are no words, I am so sorry for your loss