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Husband now terminal

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Nifflerbowtruckle · 03/10/2017 19:19

My 31 year old husband has been today diagnosed as terminal. His cancer which had gone in July has come back rapidly and now there is nothing they can do Sad. How do you move on from here? We had his sperm frozen to hopefully try ivf but he won't even be alive to try that.

I'm so utterly heartbroken Sad

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Ninjakittysmells · 10/12/2017 21:12

Oh Niffler, I am so very sorry. Your love for your husband truly shone out of your posts - I am glad he is no longer suffering, and I hope you can find a peace too. You are very much in my thoughts and prayers darling lady Flowers

Itvdrama · 10/12/2017 21:13

I’m so, so sorry for your loss. Thoughts are with you and your family xx

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Nifflerbowtruckle · 10/12/2017 21:26

Thank you all for your lovely messages. There are too many to individually thank but I appreciate them all. My dh is now in a local funeral home. It still feels a little surreal. We have cried and now are watching Goldbergs which is a comedy. It's just so weird. I feel close to tears but I hate crying in front of people. I think I will end up in the shower later. I will be sleeping in our bed tonight. Sorry for the rambling I know it doesn't make much sense.

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Kevinbaconsrealwife · 10/12/2017 21:35

Thinking of you all with love x

Horsemad · 10/12/2017 21:35

It will feel very strange Niffler, it has been all consuming for you. Rest up and take every offer of help you get. Flowers

ClondawWarrior · 10/12/2017 21:35

Be kind to yourself niffler, you are doing amazing.
I'm glad your dh is at peace now, and free from pain Thanks

LaFlottes · 10/12/2017 21:36

Thinking of you Niffler - this is so sad to hear he has passed but I am glad he is no longer suffering. You are amazing to have cared for him at home, giving him so much love. I hope the days to come are as peaceful as they can be. You and your lovely brave husband are in my thoughts. X

MollyHuaCha · 10/12/2017 21:37

He was so loved and cared for. I hope you have lots of happy memories of your life together.

Take care.Thanks

burntoutmum · 10/12/2017 21:37

Ramble away Niffler, we’re all here to listen xx

Sending you my love x

Kittybelle123 · 10/12/2017 21:44

Sending much love Niffler. More of a lurker but I just want you to know that your love shines through in your posts. I'm so very sorry for your loss. Thanks

sweatylemon · 10/12/2017 21:46

So very sorry.
Sending you love, light & peace.

Polyanthus · 10/12/2017 21:49

I am so sorry. But you have done a wonderful, important thing, caring for your precious dh like this in his last days. You have my total admiration. Be kind to yourself in the coming days, weeks and months.

blueskyinmarch · 10/12/2017 22:03

I am so sorry for your loss he was too young and you had so much life ahead of you. Keep strong. X

Giraffey1 · 10/12/2017 22:07

I am so sorry, Niffler. We don’t don’t know each other from Adam, but I hope you’ll accept a huge virtual hug from on Internet weirdy x

user1471451564 · 10/12/2017 22:08

So sorry for your loss. Flowers

frogsoup · 10/12/2017 22:09

So sorry Niffler. How heartbreaking.

TotallyWingingIt · 10/12/2017 22:10

I am so sorry for your loss Thanks

Thurlow · 10/12/2017 22:21

I'm so sorry for your loss. Your amazing love, strength and dignity has shone through, and your husband will have known this to the end x

FraterculaArctica · 10/12/2017 22:24

So sorry for your loss Niffler. Another stranger thinking of you as you get through this first dreadful night without him x

doowapwap · 10/12/2017 22:24

So sorry niffler. there are no words. I hope you manage some sleep tonight and are able to cry in your own time and space. I am sending you so much love and strength

RosieCockle · 10/12/2017 22:27

So sorry to hear this, but cripes you are ace. Take good care of yourself xxxxxxxx

Eenymeeny123 · 10/12/2017 22:27

Thinking of ye all day, I'm so sorry For your loss but your love is so strong and so loving.xx 💗

ALemonyPea · 10/12/2017 22:29

So skirt for the loss of your DH Nifler 💐

Cherrysherbet · 10/12/2017 22:31

I only just came across your thread tonight. I am so, so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you at this truly awful time xx

DancingOnParsnips · 10/12/2017 22:33

Flowers I'm so sorry.

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