Husband now terminal

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My 31 year old husband has been today diagnosed as terminal. His cancer which had gone in July has come back rapidly and now there is nothing they can do . How do you move on from here? We had his sperm frozen to hopefully try ivf but he won't even be alive to try that.

I'm so utterly heartbroken

Thinking of you both.

Thinking of you xx

I'm sorry I don't have any wise words to pass on, but I am thinking of you all tonight. Huge hugs to you, and all of your family and in-laws xx

Thinking of you xx

Yes I hope it goes the way that's best for him, Niffler, as peaceful and gentle as it can be.

For you and dh.

Thinking of you, niffler. This must be so tough for you, but it sounds like you have made everything so comfortable for your husband and surrounded him with love.

Niffler, you’re amazing. I know you probably don’t think you are but it’s tru. Your love and compassion is evident. I hope that this last previous time with your DH is peaceful and that you can all be released, gently, from this pain x

This is so sad. I’m so terribly sorry.

Wishing you all peace.

We are all thinking of your little house tonight.

'Good night sweet prince: And flights of angels sing thee to thy rest'

sending you all love and prayers

Thinking of you Niffler and your family. May peace and light surround you all. May the Lord let him go gently to his final rest and be released from his pain.

Sending love Niffler.
My DH has a life limiting illness and I will be in your situation at some stage. I have been completely overwhelmed by the courage and strength you have shown throughout this thread.
Also wanted to say that I completely get the introvert thing. I am the same and I really do worry how I will cope with all the extended family etc when the time comes. I hope I can follow your example x

Also sitting quietly here for you xxx.

Death leaves a heartache no one can heal,
love leaves a memory no one can steal.

Just thinking of you and your family. I fully appreciate your need to be alone with DH. When my mum was dying I wanted her to myself. I do feel for his mum though as you never imagine your child will die before you.

Oh Niff, thinking of you and your family. I pray he goes gently.

Thinking of you. And especially your poor DH. It's so hard and horrific.

Hand holding here

Thinking of you, and sending love and hugs.

Hugs for you Niffler. Peaceful thoughts to your DH.

Oh lovely I'm so sorry it has come to this so soon but understand why you want him free from pain and in peace.

You truly are an inspiration and have well and truly stuck to the " in sickness and in health" vow. It takes a special kind of person to deal with all you have, to take on the majority of the care even when you could of had help.
I hope your little pooch keeps you comforted in the hours/days/weeks/months ahead.

I feel incredibly humbled after reading this thread. My brother is 31. It's fucking unfair. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Huge hugs to you, unmumsnetty but who cares? xx