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Husband now terminal

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Nifflerbowtruckle · 03/10/2017 19:19

My 31 year old husband has been today diagnosed as terminal. His cancer which had gone in July has come back rapidly and now there is nothing they can do Sad. How do you move on from here? We had his sperm frozen to hopefully try ivf but he won't even be alive to try that.

I'm so utterly heartbroken Sad

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BellMcEnd · 09/12/2017 20:34

Sending you light and love, niffler.

You’re amazing.

Eenymeeny123 · 09/12/2017 20:34

I am so so sorry, I remember going through this with my mother so many years ago, she died at the age of 40. Even now I can still remember those painful week's before her passing, I felt in total automatic mode and watching others going through the normality of life when I was going through the most painful time imaginable was just surreal. Sending you love and thinking of you and your husband xx

Horsemad · 09/12/2017 20:38

Thinking of you. Flowers

Melonsonic · 09/12/2017 20:39

I'm so sad... my sister died after an awful illness and it was dreadful.

It sounds like his mum is struggling, but you are the one who needs to manage the last stage... If she is ignoring his wishes, then that must be so difficult...

ClondawWarrior · 09/12/2017 20:41

@Nifflerbowtruckle I'm thinking of you, stay strong my love your the toughest person. You really are amazing. sending love, wishes and peace to you, dh and families.
I'm on duty tonight at work so i will be awake, and here if you post more.

buttwingsham · 09/12/2017 20:47

I'm so sorry x I will be thinking of you both tonight, you are being so brave and strongFlowersFlowers

Jamon · 09/12/2017 20:54

Thinking of you and sending you love and strength. Make sure you have plenty of calm and loving time with him - just the two of you - and the dog of course. This time is very precious. I hope he is as comfortable as he can possibly be xxx

SnuffleBadger · 09/12/2017 20:57

Thoughts are with you and your DH tonight. I hope you both have a peaceful night. Your strength and dignity are truly inspiring xx

drinkswineoutofamug · 09/12/2017 21:03

I have followed this thread for a while now. I echo what other people have been saying. Your love for you husband shines through. You are a wonderful lady and I hope I could have your strength. Love to you and your family xx

doowapwap · 09/12/2017 21:08

I'm so sorry and want to send my support, such as it is. Your strength is incredible and I can understand what you mean about wanting him to be out of pain now.

Thinking of you and your DH

GiGiraffe · 09/12/2017 21:08

Thinking of you both. Hoping that tonight brings your DH peace. You are in my prayers

MadisonAvenue · 09/12/2017 21:12

Sending lots of love to you both Flowers

ElephantsandTigers · 09/12/2017 21:14

I'm so sorry Niffler. I hope your dog is able to be on the bed. My friend told me when her dh was dying her dog didn't leave from by the bed and then as the end became near he jumped up on to the bed and snuggled in to friends dh. He stayed there until he'd passed away.

TheMamaYo · 09/12/2017 21:15

Just sending you buckets full of love. My heart goes out to you and his mum and other family. No parent should have to go through that, and I am sure difficult as it is for you, it will always be appreciated. Lots of heightened emotions now as well.

My thoughts are with you, and I hope your husband will be peaceful and painfree tonight.

PiggyPlumPie · 09/12/2017 21:16

Thinking of you both and sending love and light. Flowers

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Mummychoochoo3 · 09/12/2017 21:20

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ScotsLamb · 09/12/2017 21:25

Glad the dog is there to offer both of you some comfort.

Barbie1 · 09/12/2017 21:29

Thinking of you all at this time x

leccybill · 09/12/2017 21:34

Saying a prayer for you both. How strong and brave you both are. x

millimat · 09/12/2017 21:34

Gosh you have been brilliant by the sounds of this. What you put earlier doesn't sound heartless at all.
I am thinking of you Thanks

feska5 · 09/12/2017 21:38

Can’t stop thinking of you and the heartache you are going through. You are so brave and so is your DH. I hope you both find solace soon.

Yellowpokadotbikini · 09/12/2017 21:40

Am so sorry, hope he finds peace soon Flowers

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Nifflerbowtruckle · 09/12/2017 21:52

We are all upstairs now. The dog is laid at the end of the bed. His mum keeps staring quite intently at him. He used to tell me off if he thought I was watching him sleep. I don't think the dog is that sensitive. She's already been whinging a bit. DH keeps making gasp breaths every now and again.

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PosiePootlePerkins · 09/12/2017 21:53

I just wanted to say that I am thinking of you and your family at such a difficult time.Thanks

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