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Life-limiting illness

Not long now. .

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Ludoole · 01/12/2015 11:28

Had paramedics out to dh this morning as he fell and i couldnt get him up safely. Hes now completely bedbound and slurring his words. I think he will be gone within the next week... im completely devastated as it is now sinking in that hes actually going to leave me. My head understood the terminal diagnosis but my heart never truly believed it.

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echt · 02/12/2015 06:32

Ah, Ludoole, I was drafting a pm to you in my head, wondering how you and your DH were getting on when I clicked on this. So very sorry. So true that knowing it your head isn't believing it in your heart.

Many many

Hellenbach · 02/12/2015 23:57

Ludoole I imagine you are running on adrenaline, I know how I was when my father died. This is going to feel like the hardest thing you have ever had to cope with.

My heart goes out to you, wherever you may be tonight, I am thinking of you.

Pobspits · 03/12/2015 00:13

I'm thinking of you all. I wish I could do more.

Themodernuriahheep · 03/12/2015 00:21

Ludoole, thoughts with you both, lighting a candle in my mind.

Hearing lasts quite a long time, touch longer as far as they know. Holding his hand will be comforting. I didn't get the pain control quite right at the end for my DM, but I tried. There's nothing more you can do but be there, try your best and provide love.

Thinking of you.

SpellBookandCandle · 03/12/2015 00:24

You are in my heart and thoughts. What a gift you are giving to your dh. Should there come a time that I must do something with love, I will think of you and your dh.

I do hope you are managing to look after yourself a bit. Eat and drink when you can spare a minute. ((Hugs))

LeaLeander · 03/12/2015 00:32

Thinking of you with admiration and empathy. Take care of yourself. Be proud of what you are doing for your husband.

Klaptout · 03/12/2015 00:48

It's so so hard, I feel for you all.
Does he have a syringe driver?
I hope that the medical staff are able to ensure he is pain free.
I hope you have people to support you and the boys too.

Ludoole · 03/12/2015 02:23

My beautiful amazing husband left us forever a few short hours ago.
The boys and i are devastated. We are lost without him already. Our world has changed and will never be the same again

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LeaLeander · 03/12/2015 02:37

So sorry. What a remarkable man to inspire such love and devotion. You sound like a very wonderful family. I'm sorry your time with him was cut short. He will remain alive in your memories and love. It's not the same but it's something.

Please take care of yourselves.

Moomazoo · 03/12/2015 02:50

Lu.... Just carry on in your robotic state!!!!
Get the CNT totally involved now!!! Jump up and down and stamp your feet! Mum was still sat in her chair on Saturday morning but died Sunday afternoon because she was so stoic stubborn. Until the end god she made me proud she didn't have a driver because she didn't present ( really strong and stoic) in so much pain And she passed quicker than imagined. She saw oncology on Thursday who decided palliative route and died on the Sunday!!!
Lu you're doing amazing job and will make him and your boys proud!!!! Always a lifeline if you need it hunny bum xxxxxx

crabb · 03/12/2015 02:53

So sorry Ludoole

Iwasbornin1993 · 03/12/2015 03:13

So sorry for your loss Ludoole

SpellBookandCandle · 03/12/2015 03:26

So sorry for the loss of your husband. You and your children will be in my prayers. I am sending thoughts of peace, strength and love to you..xx

Elliecherry · 03/12/2015 03:32

So sorry ludoole

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 03/12/2015 03:40

So sorry Ludoole - so hard to take, especially at this time of year. :(
(((Hugs))), love and strength to you and your darling sons - hold tight to each other in the coming days, grieve together, let them see it's ok to be sad.
for you all. xx

Jenijena · 03/12/2015 03:41

Another one checking in in the night. I'm so sorry.

MummaGiles · 03/12/2015 03:55

So sorry

Ludoole · 03/12/2015 04:23

My 12yo ds is asleep in my bed. I can hear my 15yo in his room. Im wide awake in the kitchen. I feel like i need to DO something but i dont know what it is. My husbands things are all around me. His medication is waiting for me to give it him but i cant because hes not here. I should put them away i suppose but none of this feels real. I want to keep everything as it is incase he comes back but i know hes not coming back ever again. I just want to believe hes not gone.

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MADEinLONDON · 03/12/2015 04:47

I'm so sorry for your loss Ludoole. Much love to you and your beautiful boys at this awful time...x

sparechange · 03/12/2015 05:05

So sorry for your loss

AmandaTanen · 03/12/2015 05:28

So sorry for your loss.

Lolly86 · 03/12/2015 05:53

So sorry for your loss x

Shakerlackerboomboom · 03/12/2015 05:58

I'm so sorry for your loss

SerendipityDooDah · 03/12/2015 05:59

Oh, ludoole, I am so so sorry to hear your news. What a terrible loss for you and your sons. Wishing you strength as you carry on through the next few days and beyond. (((((hugs))))) to you and your boys and to your DH, who lives on in your memory and your extraordinary love.

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