OK so 15 year old son just came out as trans to me what now?

[Judgejudyandexecutioner]

I found 3 skirts in my sons room when tidying. So I asked him about them. He told me he bought them for himself and he thinks he is trans. He doesn't want his brothers to know or people at his school.

He is still in the unsure phase and wants to stay using the he pronoun and be called by his current name.

I told him that his dad and I love him and that he can be what he wants.

I said that his brothers may need to know because he should at least be able to he himself at home.

Not really sure what to do from here feel a bit lost tbh.

[quote singlemom832]@Shelddd Maybe start caring about your children more than about your own feelings, this seems like a problem on your end. If your child would come out as trans the most important thing is to support them in whatever they feel is right. Moving away isn't going to help a trans child, it'll ruin their life and make them feel even worse about themselves. There is a very high suicide rate among trans kids that aren't accepted by their family, especially their parents.[/quote]
Trans rates have increased exponentially.. is it something in the water? probably not.. so obviously there is a heavy societal influence. I would do whatever I needed to do to remove that influence just as I would with several other situations. Friends, teachers, etc have such a strong influence on kids. That's why there will be vastly different rates of this type of thing depending what country or even part of country/city/school someone goes to. Remove them from that situation and you'll soon find out if they are truly trans... or just being pushed in that direction as many kids are right now (especially those with ASD which are being manipulated in very high numbers and are very susceptible). If after a move like that and being removed from that influence they still decide they are trans and that's who they truly are then yeah of course I would support them.

@Nettleskeins

If your child said at 15 they wanted to leave school and become a Wimbledon champion, having only ever been moderately sporty, but finding school particularly stressful....would you A) enrol them in a top tennis academy and spend loads of time and money training them and driving them to tournaments B) ask them why they didn't feel happy at school and have a chat about their hopes and dreams in general, and leaving the door open on the tennis "enthusiasm" but very much appreciate it might be one of many "masks" or proposed "solutions" to general discomfort. Tell story about your own dream to be a deep-sea diver at that age and run your own aquarium with tame dolphins

C) scream at them that they are crap at tennis

The OP needs to make a space to listen rather rush in to guide or transition. I am gender critical

Excellent post.