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Legal to film me without consent?

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JayJayy · 26/08/2025 09:27

My controlling ex husband has set up an entire new camera system in a property I still currently own half of. He refuses to give me access to these cameras. I visit the home several times a week as my dog is still at the property temporarily. I have told him I do not consent to being filmed and was told I need to ‘familiarise myself with the law’. As far as I can see I have a right to not be recorded in what is still my home.

this is a pattern of control and abuse tbh and I’m at the stage where I’m fed up with his behaviour.
anyone advise?

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Gwenhwyfar · 27/08/2025 15:27

BabyCatFace · 26/08/2025 10:24

This is nonsense

I don't know about in the case of divorce, but I can tell you that my flat is NOT my landlord's home because he's not registered as living here and is registered as living elsewhere. Where does OP spend most of her time and pay council tax?

BigBirdOfPrey · 27/08/2025 15:30

Change the WiFi code. Or provider

Velmy · 27/08/2025 17:04

JayJayy · 27/08/2025 14:49

Most of my belongings remain in what is still my house. Whilst my ex husband is happily living in the large 4 bed detached I have a tiny flat that simply cannot accommodate anywhere near all of my things.

The cupboards and drawers I go into contain my items and mine alone. I do not and have not gone into his bedroom (we had separate rooms), his wardrobes or drawers. His 'property' is tamper free. As is anything joint in the marriage. For example there are three Denby dinner services and two sets of Denby cutlery in the kitchen, a reasonable person would split these now as there is more than enough to share but these are a 'marital asset' according to him. If I was being unreasonable I could just take my half, but I have not. The only things I take from the house are bits of clothing, shoes and my handbags. His feelings on marital assets do not stretch to his expensive watch collection so dont for a moment be fooled that this is anything to do with protecting property or feeling uncomfortable.

I am still firmly of the belief that there are hidden cameras or recording devices, probably hoping to catch phone conversations when I sit with the dog in the lounge for a while.

Most of my belongings remain in what is still my house. Whilst my ex husband is happily living in the large 4 bed detached I have a tiny flat that simply cannot accommodate anywhere near all of my things.

I don't think anybody is suggesting that you move everything you own into a tiny flat, but surely you can manage without having to go back multiple times per week for - as you say - clothes, shoes and handbags? I think any reasonable person would see this as excessive. If you take as much as you can manage, even if its only enough to last you for a few weeks at a time, you're limiting the time you need to be in the house to however long it takes to do what you need to do for the dog.

I am still firmly of the belief that there are hidden cameras or recording devices, probably hoping to catch phone conversations when I sit with the dog in the lounge for a while.

If you're 'firmly of the belief', then don't have telephone conversations when you're sat with the dog. Take the dog out and have those conversations, or have them at literally any other time.

You're not taking anything you shouldn't, there's no conversation for him to 'catch', he's literally wasting his time. You shouldn't have to do this of course, but given there's nothing you can legally do about any cameras, what other outcome are you hoping for?

You say that he's doing this purely for vindictive reasons, yet you're willingly, repeatedly putting yourself in positions for him to exert his influence on you because...why?

You need to figure out what's more important to you. Finding excuses to visit the house every other day 'just because I can', or him not having the satisfaction of spying on you. You're in a tremendously difficult situation, but there are some very easy short term steps you can take.

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