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My neighbour's lawyer friend helps him to harass me, advice needed.

151 replies

Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 08:54

I have a neighbour where there are various harassment tactics (started when I refused to write him a letter against his neighbour). As an example, his false allegation was removed from police record due to my obtaining of public CCTV verifying I did nothing wrong. (NCHI took 18 months of my time to prove his perception as not reasonable.) His high profile lawyer friend, who is his ex boyfriend, gives him legal advice and represents him in person, on some matters. Both of them flew a drone over the roof of my flat where I grow plants, with the lawyer operating the remote control and the neighbour instructing him on its direction. I then received a threatening legal letter to remove my pots, a copy or record of which can no longer be found on the system of the solicitors who sent it. I feel the lawyer friend is mixing his career with my neighbour's pursual of me but it feels weird, why would someone do this as a high profile professional? Is this right and what can I do to expose it, if it is not right? (Afraid of legal threats as do not have money to pay a lawyer.)

OP posts:
Parcelit · 12/05/2025 09:02

This has got to be one of the strangest threads I have read on mumsnet and one where I would particularly love to hear the other side of the story!!

TasWair · 12/05/2025 09:07

Why do they want you to remove your plants from your own property? Or is it shared/not yours?

LivingLaVidaBabyShower · 12/05/2025 09:10

Does he live underneath you?
Ie it's "his" roof?

Or you are top floor and its your now roof?

ApolloandDaphne · 12/05/2025 09:13

Why did they want you to remove your plants? Were they on the actual roof rather than a balcony? If so, whose roof is it?

ImaginedCorners · 12/05/2025 09:14

I don’t understand why plant pots are controversial unless they’re on his property? Or a shared roof?

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 12/05/2025 09:20

@Anotherwomanhere so what is the real backstory here???? no one starts harassment for no reason so there must have been a falling out somewhere along the line.

HiddenInCubeOfCheese · 12/05/2025 09:22

Assuming they’re awful etc etc, you’d write to the SRA and the law firm’s managing partner

SingWithMeJustForToday · 12/05/2025 09:25

Are they the type of plants people might need a lot of electricity for; and police helicopters may look for?

That's the only way this makes sense in my head 😅

Chewbecca · 12/05/2025 09:27

Are the plants allowed on the roof?

MissMoneyFairy · 12/05/2025 09:28

Is there a freeholder or management company, I don't see how an unconnected lawyer would get involved in plant pots

MissMoneyFairy · 12/05/2025 09:38

What did the so called legal letter say, of course it's not on their system if the solicitor is abusing their position

LatteLady · 12/05/2025 09:54

If you wish to complain about him as a lawyer then you need to look at the Law Society - https://www.lawsociety.org.uk/public/for-public-visitors/using-a-solicitor/complain-about-a-solicitor. If you feel he is working on behalf of your neighbour without going through his employer and using their resources then your complaint is with his partnership or chambers, so you will need to look up their complaints procedures. However, you will need to tidy up your accusations to make them more germane to your issue.

Complain about a solicitor | The Law Society

https://www.lawsociety.org.uk/public/for-public-visitors/using-a-solicitor/complain-about-a-solicitor.

Nominative · 12/05/2025 10:25

How do you know all that detail about the drone?

If your neighbour has previously made a criminal allegation against you which has been wholly disproved, are the police looking at taking any action against him for wasting police time?

You should send a copy of the solicitors' letter you received to the managing partner and ask for a full explanation of how it came to be sent out, pointing out that neighbour's ex is a likely starting point for their investigations.

Whatsgoingonherethenagain · 12/05/2025 10:27

MissMoneyFairy · 12/05/2025 09:38

What did the so called legal letter say, of course it's not on their system if the solicitor is abusing their position

Or the neighbour has got hold of the header template and is doing it without the lawyer or legal firm’s knowledge.

suburberphobe · 12/05/2025 10:42

Bizarre thread.

1SillySossij · 12/05/2025 10:46

SingWithMeJustForToday · 12/05/2025 09:25

Are they the type of plants people might need a lot of electricity for; and police helicopters may look for?

That's the only way this makes sense in my head 😅

If you are walking by in a gale, you might think of another reason why loose objects on a high roof may not be desirable!

Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 10:47

SingWithMeJustForToday · 12/05/2025 09:25

Are they the type of plants people might need a lot of electricity for; and police helicopters may look for?

That's the only way this makes sense in my head 😅

This is very funny. I very much appreciate this, an involuntary giggle feels wonderful. I have sole access to a large flat roof above my flat. The landlord asked me to send photographs of the plants to them few years ago. I did. The landlord then closed my neighbour's complaint. His complaint followed a change of locks to stop him entering our communal area. A change of locks happened because I reported him for trespassing. Thank you very much for the SRA and law firm's managing partner advice. I will now read the rest of the comments.

OP posts:
Krest · 12/05/2025 10:47

Are the cannabis plants?

JohnMajorsChicken · 12/05/2025 10:52

His complaint followed a change of locks to stop him entering our communal area.
If it's communal why is he prevented from entering?

Comefromaway · 12/05/2025 10:56

JohnMajorsChicken · 12/05/2025 10:52

His complaint followed a change of locks to stop him entering our communal area.
If it's communal why is he prevented from entering?

Presumably because he lives in a neighbouring property and not the block of flats OP lives in?

JohnMajorsChicken · 12/05/2025 10:58

Comefromaway · 12/05/2025 10:56

Presumably because he lives in a neighbouring property and not the block of flats OP lives in?

Thanks. I misunderstood it and thought he was a neighbour in the same block.

LivingLaVidaBabyShower · 12/05/2025 10:58

a change of locks to stop him entering our communal area. A change of locks happened because I reported him for trespassing.

Is he in a self contained basement flat? Ie has no need to enter ground / first / second floor flats?
And what weirdness was he up to in the communal areas?
If he lives in a different building even more alarming!!!

Most unusual either way...Like others I'd be inclined to report the ex boyfriend

Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 10:59

LatteLady · 12/05/2025 09:54

If you wish to complain about him as a lawyer then you need to look at the Law Society - https://www.lawsociety.org.uk/public/for-public-visitors/using-a-solicitor/complain-about-a-solicitor. If you feel he is working on behalf of your neighbour without going through his employer and using their resources then your complaint is with his partnership or chambers, so you will need to look up their complaints procedures. However, you will need to tidy up your accusations to make them more germane to your issue.

Thank you very much. Given tidying up will have been done, I have an obstacle. I do not know the lawyer's full name or partnership/chambers. I know his first name and my neighbour's full name and address. I would love to hear more. I will now read further comments.

OP posts:
Verite1 · 12/05/2025 11:03

If you only know his first name, how do you know he is high profile? Do you even know if he is a solicitor or a barrister.

WellINeverrr · 12/05/2025 11:06

Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 10:59

Thank you very much. Given tidying up will have been done, I have an obstacle. I do not know the lawyer's full name or partnership/chambers. I know his first name and my neighbour's full name and address. I would love to hear more. I will now read further comments.

Wouldn't the practice he works for be on the legal letter you received?

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