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My neighbour's lawyer friend helps him to harass me, advice needed.

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Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 08:54

I have a neighbour where there are various harassment tactics (started when I refused to write him a letter against his neighbour). As an example, his false allegation was removed from police record due to my obtaining of public CCTV verifying I did nothing wrong. (NCHI took 18 months of my time to prove his perception as not reasonable.) His high profile lawyer friend, who is his ex boyfriend, gives him legal advice and represents him in person, on some matters. Both of them flew a drone over the roof of my flat where I grow plants, with the lawyer operating the remote control and the neighbour instructing him on its direction. I then received a threatening legal letter to remove my pots, a copy or record of which can no longer be found on the system of the solicitors who sent it. I feel the lawyer friend is mixing his career with my neighbour's pursual of me but it feels weird, why would someone do this as a high profile professional? Is this right and what can I do to expose it, if it is not right? (Afraid of legal threats as do not have money to pay a lawyer.)

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BeNiceWhenItsFinished · 12/05/2025 14:16

Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 13:55

I did not say I think it came from the lawyer friend. I said it came from a solicitor without a connection to the lawyer friend. However this solicitor has no record of it. I said lawyer friend advises and sometimes represents my neighbour in any matters my neighbour has. I questioned the conduct of this lawyer, which is in my original opening thread message.

Well if that bona-fide law firm has no record of it, then I might be inclined to think that the letter you received is bogus and not from that solicitor at all.

Anyone can cobble together a genuine-looking letterhead and type up an official-looking letter on it.

If they can't find you on their system anywhere, it probably didn't come from them.

prh47bridge · 12/05/2025 14:20

Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 13:48

No, the letter was sent on headed paper from a solicitor who could not provide me with any information under SAR as even my name and surname returns nothing when their compliance department searches for it.

I find this story confusing. However, if the solicitor who allegedly sent the letter has no record of it and is not the lawyer who you allege is helping your neighbour, the letter is almost certainly fake and didn't come from a solicitor at all.

Elektra1 · 12/05/2025 14:20

I’m another person struggling to understand the relevance of a letter sent from a different law firm to the one the “harassing” solicitor friend works for. If he didn’t send it, what is the nature of his harassment of you?

I’m a solicitor. If I went round to a friend’s house outside of my work time and flew a drone over your property, I’m not doing that as a solicitor. To the extent that doing that involves an invasion of your privacy, you may have a complaint there but I don’t imagine the SRA would be remotely interested in it. They have serious issues of professional misconduct to investigate, like solicitors misappropriating client monies.

FrodoBiggins · 12/05/2025 14:27

What if any evidence do you have that your "neighbour's lawyer friend helps him to harass" you?

BeepBoopBop · 12/05/2025 14:29

Why do you think he is a solicitor at all? If he were, he would use his own office address surely. Why is your neighbour so interested in your lobelia? Just ignore the daft pair of them and as reassurance, make sure you have legal cover included on your insurance.

Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 14:29

FishDancer · 12/05/2025 13:58

But if the solicitors who supposedly wrote the letter have no record of it, surely it can't constitute any form of 'legal threat' whatsoever, which is surely key? What was the false allegation about? And what does any of it have to do with your plant pots on the roof?

Correct, there does not seem to be any legal threat. False allegation alleged I invaded the neighbour's personal space on a public train. However, the CCTV showed he arrived to the platform after me, waited for the train at close distance at which he boarded the train into the next set of doors from me, looking back to see me before boarding. In answer to your question, although this is deduced if the thread is read in its entirety, he has a lawyer friend, who brought drone equipment to his private garden and operated it under his instructions to survey my roof, further to complain to the landlord, who has now closed the complaint. I am questioning the lawyer's conduct.

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MissMoneyFairy · 12/05/2025 14:36

So the letter is just fake nonsense, if you ghve proof that the neighbour and his ex deliberately flew a drone over your private property to effectively spy on you and harass you then report them to the police, him being a solicitor is irrelevant, if they have broken any law then the police and the sra will deal with it. What was the letter about.

SuperTrooper14 · 12/05/2025 14:43

So you're saying the flash lawyer used the details and address of a little-known firm in a dodgy part of London rather than his own firm to threaten you on behalf of his ex boyfriend, your neighbour? Was there a logo on the letter that matched the firm's, or was it just a plain piece of paper? Did it mention your neighbour by name in relation to whatever complaint he was making? You haven't actually told us what his complaint was.

Unless you can prove the flash lawyer wrote the fraudulent letter I don't think there's anything you can do. In fact, I think you should let it go, because if you accuse the lawyer of sending a fraudulent letter without having any proof he was behind it, you could be on very dodgy ground.

FishDancer · 12/05/2025 14:45

Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 14:29

Correct, there does not seem to be any legal threat. False allegation alleged I invaded the neighbour's personal space on a public train. However, the CCTV showed he arrived to the platform after me, waited for the train at close distance at which he boarded the train into the next set of doors from me, looking back to see me before boarding. In answer to your question, although this is deduced if the thread is read in its entirety, he has a lawyer friend, who brought drone equipment to his private garden and operated it under his instructions to survey my roof, further to complain to the landlord, who has now closed the complaint. I am questioning the lawyer's conduct.

Are you saying your neighbour reported you to the police for 'invading his personal space on a train'??? In what universe is that anything that constitutes illegal behaviour?

Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 14:49

Elektra1 · 12/05/2025 14:20

I’m another person struggling to understand the relevance of a letter sent from a different law firm to the one the “harassing” solicitor friend works for. If he didn’t send it, what is the nature of his harassment of you?

I’m a solicitor. If I went round to a friend’s house outside of my work time and flew a drone over your property, I’m not doing that as a solicitor. To the extent that doing that involves an invasion of your privacy, you may have a complaint there but I don’t imagine the SRA would be remotely interested in it. They have serious issues of professional misconduct to investigate, like solicitors misappropriating client monies.

This is relevant. This is the kind of understanding I am after. I have valued every single response I have received. I am still replying to others.

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Elektra1 · 12/05/2025 14:55

A solicitor being involved on a single occasion in flying a drone over your property - as that is the only alleged harassment you’ve identified relating to the solicitor friend - is not harassment and will not be something the SRA or his employer (if he has an employer) would be interested in, even if you could prove he definitely did so. I think you’re focusing your attention on the wrong person here: your problem is with your neighbour.

dick27 · 12/05/2025 14:57

This thread is like a magic eye

Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 15:01

MissMoneyFairy · 12/05/2025 14:36

So the letter is just fake nonsense, if you ghve proof that the neighbour and his ex deliberately flew a drone over your private property to effectively spy on you and harass you then report them to the police, him being a solicitor is irrelevant, if they have broken any law then the police and the sra will deal with it. What was the letter about.

The letter accused me of invading my neighbour's personal space on the train asking me to cease immediately, and accused me of health and safety for having plants on the roof. As mentioned, public CCTV shows clearly my neighbour arrived to the platform after me, waited for the train close enough to board the train into the next set of doors from me, and the landlord requested me to send photographs of the plants to them, which I did, and the case was closed. This quote is also helpful, because you have made me realise that I should consider the lawyer as a citizen. My concern was that this citizen is advising my neighbour in legal matters which are threatening me.

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BigDeepBreaths · 12/05/2025 15:02

OK so it is apparent that you are annoyed with this mans conduct and are wondering if there is some way of calling him out on this or exposing him…given he is an apparent lawyer and a “high flyer”.

Firstly, I think how he presents himself/how you view him (top lawyer driving an expensive car) irks you. You just need to get over that.

Secondly, you’ve done what you can to establish the authenticity of the letter and it seems to hold no weight as the apparent firm has no record of it. I’d let this go and move on comfortable that the letter is meaningless and was in fact a waste of the writers time.

Thirdly, the Police complaint is very annoying but is now closed (unbelievable it got anywhere) so I suggest you put that behind you. If he continues to harrass you or complain to the landlord then address each incident as appropriate. But dont get dragged into their petty ways by digging for a means to catch out “high flying lawyer in classic red car”. This is just dragging yourself down to their level and prolonging the misery of neighbour dispute.

MissMoneyFairy · 12/05/2025 15:05

The train situation was closed, the plants situation was closed, the lawyer is just a citizen, report ant threats intimidation or harassment to the police. How does your neighbour and his ex even know about your plants, it's fuck all to do with them.

Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 15:12

BigDeepBreaths · 12/05/2025 15:02

OK so it is apparent that you are annoyed with this mans conduct and are wondering if there is some way of calling him out on this or exposing him…given he is an apparent lawyer and a “high flyer”.

Firstly, I think how he presents himself/how you view him (top lawyer driving an expensive car) irks you. You just need to get over that.

Secondly, you’ve done what you can to establish the authenticity of the letter and it seems to hold no weight as the apparent firm has no record of it. I’d let this go and move on comfortable that the letter is meaningless and was in fact a waste of the writers time.

Thirdly, the Police complaint is very annoying but is now closed (unbelievable it got anywhere) so I suggest you put that behind you. If he continues to harrass you or complain to the landlord then address each incident as appropriate. But dont get dragged into their petty ways by digging for a means to catch out “high flying lawyer in classic red car”. This is just dragging yourself down to their level and prolonging the misery of neighbour dispute.

I would just like to point out, it has to be apparent in my address on Page 1 of this thread, the designation I have given to the lawyer was purely for the purpose of answering a question posted on here which was asking about how it was known he was a high fly individual and also a lawyer. I am also from a wealthy background and live comfortably though not having enough money to spend on a lawyer, not desiring any one's better lifestyle. The description was an answer to a question to determine why it is thought the lawyer is high fly.

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FishDancer · 12/05/2025 15:19

Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 15:01

The letter accused me of invading my neighbour's personal space on the train asking me to cease immediately, and accused me of health and safety for having plants on the roof. As mentioned, public CCTV shows clearly my neighbour arrived to the platform after me, waited for the train close enough to board the train into the next set of doors from me, and the landlord requested me to send photographs of the plants to them, which I did, and the case was closed. This quote is also helpful, because you have made me realise that I should consider the lawyer as a citizen. My concern was that this citizen is advising my neighbour in legal matters which are threatening me.

Hang on, OP, you're being very unclear. Are you saying that the 'fake' solicitor's letter, which the firm it purports to be from has no record of sending, complains, not only about your plants on the roof but also about you 'invading your neighbour's space on a train'? The letter that is clearly total nonsense and has no legal heft whatsoever, if the firm whose letterhead is used has no record of it being sent by them?

Why did you then spend 18 months trying to get access to CCTV to prove that your neighbour got onto a train after you did? Are you saying that the neighbour separately went to the police about you crowding him on a train? And also wrote to your landlord about your roof plants, separately to the fake solicitor's letter to you?

None of this makes sense, even leaving aside the apparently irrelevant stuff about the high-flying lawyer being the neighbour's ex and the drone.

BobbyBiscuits · 12/05/2025 15:22

Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 11:58

It is a very well known 'information' from neighbours, verifiable from my neighbour's own conversations from his garden, which can be heard by us from within our own properties. Also, 'the lawyer' visits in a classical bright red collection car, worth the price of a house.

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Having access to a posh car doesn't mean you're a 'high profile lawyer'. Either he's sent you something from his legal practice or he hasn't. If he hasn't then he's just a private individual who may give his friend advice at will, surely?

Thendeliver · 12/05/2025 15:23

Ask your LL to be one they communicate with

Thendeliver · 12/05/2025 15:23

BobbyBiscuits · 12/05/2025 15:22

Having access to a posh car doesn't mean you're a 'high profile lawyer'. Either he's sent you something from his legal practice or he hasn't. If he hasn't then he's just a private individual who may give his friend advice at will, surely?

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This

Thendeliver · 12/05/2025 15:24

Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 15:12

I would just like to point out, it has to be apparent in my address on Page 1 of this thread, the designation I have given to the lawyer was purely for the purpose of answering a question posted on here which was asking about how it was known he was a high fly individual and also a lawyer. I am also from a wealthy background and live comfortably though not having enough money to spend on a lawyer, not desiring any one's better lifestyle. The description was an answer to a question to determine why it is thought the lawyer is high fly.

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This makes very little sense

Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 15:28

I appreciate everyone's input. I have read everyone's comments. Would like to thank you. A short note to say the reason for my concerns is that harassment keeps on happening. This neighbour has installed a CCTV system which the Council asked the landlord and the Police to reposition following their ASB Review. They at the same time asked the landlord to advise residents that any domestic CCTV cannot encroach on communal areas. Shortly after my neighbour's camera was enforced to be repositioned to face within his property's boundary, he went to my other neighbour's flat and installed on the outside of her bedroom window highly technical CCTV, audio capture 16 meters. The original reason for enforcement on his cameras was his mocking of our footages out loud. This is ongoing hence my considerations of all the details.

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Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 15:32

FishDancer · 12/05/2025 15:19

Hang on, OP, you're being very unclear. Are you saying that the 'fake' solicitor's letter, which the firm it purports to be from has no record of sending, complains, not only about your plants on the roof but also about you 'invading your neighbour's space on a train'? The letter that is clearly total nonsense and has no legal heft whatsoever, if the firm whose letterhead is used has no record of it being sent by them?

Why did you then spend 18 months trying to get access to CCTV to prove that your neighbour got onto a train after you did? Are you saying that the neighbour separately went to the police about you crowding him on a train? And also wrote to your landlord about your roof plants, separately to the fake solicitor's letter to you?

None of this makes sense, even leaving aside the apparently irrelevant stuff about the high-flying lawyer being the neighbour's ex and the drone.

A full YES to your first paragraph.
A full yes to the second paragraph, and 18 months because that is how long it took to obtain a copy of my CCTV footage from the train operator and to get the Police to look at it.

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FrodoBiggins · 12/05/2025 15:37

You missed the point about para 2. She wasn't asking why it took so long to disprove she was asking why you bothered to try to disprove it at all?

The police (CPS) would have had to prove it basically beyond reasonable doubt if there was any intention of prosecution- which I'm guessing is very unlikely anyway.

I would advise you to forget about the neighbour and his friends, contact your LL if anything comes up. You're all wasting police time by the sounds of it.

Elektra1 · 12/05/2025 15:38

A lawyer (not the friend but a different one) sending you a letter on their client’s instructions is not a threat. Lawyers must act on their client’s instructions and they are not bound or required to fact check the nature of the instructions. I repeat: your issue is with your neighbour, not with either the mysterious firm of solicitors who sent the letter, or with the solicitor friend. Why are you so keen to involve third parties in a dispute between you and your neighbour?

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