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My neighbour's lawyer friend helps him to harass me, advice needed.

151 replies

Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 08:54

I have a neighbour where there are various harassment tactics (started when I refused to write him a letter against his neighbour). As an example, his false allegation was removed from police record due to my obtaining of public CCTV verifying I did nothing wrong. (NCHI took 18 months of my time to prove his perception as not reasonable.) His high profile lawyer friend, who is his ex boyfriend, gives him legal advice and represents him in person, on some matters. Both of them flew a drone over the roof of my flat where I grow plants, with the lawyer operating the remote control and the neighbour instructing him on its direction. I then received a threatening legal letter to remove my pots, a copy or record of which can no longer be found on the system of the solicitors who sent it. I feel the lawyer friend is mixing his career with my neighbour's pursual of me but it feels weird, why would someone do this as a high profile professional? Is this right and what can I do to expose it, if it is not right? (Afraid of legal threats as do not have money to pay a lawyer.)

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MissMoneyFairy · 12/05/2025 11:07

If it's a legit letter from a solicitor then it will be on headed paper with the firms name, contact numbers and list of partners. What does the letter actually say and how is it signed. Who is it addressed to, the only people who should get involved in your plants, the roof, communal area are the landlord, residents and committee. How do you know there's no record of the letter on the solicitors file if you don't know who they are.

Nominative · 12/05/2025 11:12

MissMoneyFairy · 12/05/2025 11:07

If it's a legit letter from a solicitor then it will be on headed paper with the firms name, contact numbers and list of partners. What does the letter actually say and how is it signed. Who is it addressed to, the only people who should get involved in your plants, the roof, communal area are the landlord, residents and committee. How do you know there's no record of the letter on the solicitors file if you don't know who they are.

Also there will be a reference which ought to point the firm towards the person who drafted the letter. If it was done using their IT system, they should be able to trace it.

HiddenInCubeOfCheese · 12/05/2025 11:18

Nominative · 12/05/2025 11:12

Also there will be a reference which ought to point the firm towards the person who drafted the letter. If it was done using their IT system, they should be able to trace it.

Not necessarily - you can remove the doc/file number from the footer.

If the letter is signed “[name of the firm]” and it’s not legit, ooooooh boy is someone in big twubble.

Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 11:45

Nominative · 12/05/2025 10:25

How do you know all that detail about the drone?

If your neighbour has previously made a criminal allegation against you which has been wholly disproved, are the police looking at taking any action against him for wasting police time?

You should send a copy of the solicitors' letter you received to the managing partner and ask for a full explanation of how it came to be sent out, pointing out that neighbour's ex is a likely starting point for their investigations.

The Sergeant stated that what happened is a baseline for them. AVI was submitted by me (I obtained a public CCTV footage). Additional Verifiable Information, to cancel a crime, must totally disprove the allegation. The crime was cancelled. No one said sorry. I spent 18 months trying to get the CCTV and chasing the police.

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Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 11:50

JohnMajorsChicken · 12/05/2025 10:52

His complaint followed a change of locks to stop him entering our communal area.
If it's communal why is he prevented from entering?

The entrance to his property is separate from our communal area.

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Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 11:58

Verite1 · 12/05/2025 11:03

If you only know his first name, how do you know he is high profile? Do you even know if he is a solicitor or a barrister.

It is a very well known 'information' from neighbours, verifiable from my neighbour's own conversations from his garden, which can be heard by us from within our own properties. Also, 'the lawyer' visits in a classical bright red collection car, worth the price of a house.

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BarneyRonson · 12/05/2025 12:01

Why is he doing this? Could you explain his motivation?

Silvers11 · 12/05/2025 12:01

SingWithMeJustForToday · 12/05/2025 09:25

Are they the type of plants people might need a lot of electricity for; and police helicopters may look for?

That's the only way this makes sense in my head 😅

That is my first thought too @SingWithMeJustForToday 😂😂😂

Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 12:02

WellINeverrr · 12/05/2025 11:06

Wouldn't the practice he works for be on the legal letter you received?

No. The practice my neighbour used is a tiny office in a rough area of London.

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Hoppinggreen · 12/05/2025 12:05

Few questions
How is the neighbours friends car relevant?
Have you had letters from a lawyer on headed paper?
Does the neighbour live in your building?

Verite1 · 12/05/2025 12:10

Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 12:02

No. The practice my neighbour used is a tiny office in a rough area of London.

I’m afraid I’m finding this very difficult to follow. I thought the letter was sent by the high profile lawyer?

FalseSpring · 12/05/2025 12:12

This thead is bizzare! Does your freeholder/landlord not allow pot plants? Any legal letter should be from them not some random neighbour/solicitor. None of this makes any sense!

MissMoneyFairy · 12/05/2025 12:13

Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 12:02

No. The practice my neighbour used is a tiny office in a rough area of London.

Doesn't matter, it will be on headed paper and his name would be on it, he could be anyone without proof, neighbours gossip isn't relevant nor is his car. What does this letter say and how is it signed. Not sure how you and the landlord and police settled a complaint

WellINeverrr · 12/05/2025 12:17

Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 12:02

No. The practice my neighbour used is a tiny office in a rough area of London.

But regardless of where the office is, it's a solicitor office, no? If it's not representing a solicitors office, then.....I don't know, I'm lost.

Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 12:57

I do know who the solicitors who sent me the letter are. I rang them and asked them for a copy under SAR. I could not find anyone from their Team page who has the first name of the lawyer friend.

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Verite1 · 12/05/2025 13:02

This is very confusing. Who signed the letter? If it wasn’t the lawyer friend, why do you think it came from him as opposed to the small solicitor firm? Is the fact that he has a friend who is a lawyer a red herring perhaps as I can’t see how it links together.

Verite1 · 12/05/2025 13:05

Just re-reading your OP. Was the letter in fact nothing to do with the lawyer friend? You said the lawyer friend sometimes represents him in person. What do you mean by this?

Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 13:32

HiddenInCubeOfCheese · 12/05/2025 11:18

Not necessarily - you can remove the doc/file number from the footer.

If the letter is signed “[name of the firm]” and it’s not legit, ooooooh boy is someone in big twubble.

With the help of your input I am now investigating this. I will report back.

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Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 13:38

BarneyRonson · 12/05/2025 12:01

Why is he doing this? Could you explain his motivation?

The 'lawyer friend' and my neighbour are ex-boyfriends. The former visits the latter a few times a year. The latter, my neighbour, has a habbit of talking non-stop about neighbours (gossip). I presume when the lawyer visits, his ears enlarge and he becomes led after ideas of my neighbour to trouble me.

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Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 13:48

Verite1 · 12/05/2025 12:10

I’m afraid I’m finding this very difficult to follow. I thought the letter was sent by the high profile lawyer?

No, the letter was sent on headed paper from a solicitor who could not provide me with any information under SAR as even my name and surname returns nothing when their compliance department searches for it.

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FishDancer · 12/05/2025 13:51

Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 13:48

No, the letter was sent on headed paper from a solicitor who could not provide me with any information under SAR as even my name and surname returns nothing when their compliance department searches for it.

So the letter is nothing to do with the high-profile lawyer ex? But why is your neighbour obsessed with your roof plantpots, anyway? None of this is making sense.

Verite1 · 12/05/2025 13:53

Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 13:48

No, the letter was sent on headed paper from a solicitor who could not provide me with any information under SAR as even my name and surname returns nothing when their compliance department searches for it.

so the lawyer friend is nothing to do with it? I’m struggling to understand what the issue/concern is here.

Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 13:55

Verite1 · 12/05/2025 13:02

This is very confusing. Who signed the letter? If it wasn’t the lawyer friend, why do you think it came from him as opposed to the small solicitor firm? Is the fact that he has a friend who is a lawyer a red herring perhaps as I can’t see how it links together.

I did not say I think it came from the lawyer friend. I said it came from a solicitor without a connection to the lawyer friend. However this solicitor has no record of it. I said lawyer friend advises and sometimes represents my neighbour in any matters my neighbour has. I questioned the conduct of this lawyer, which is in my original opening thread message.

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FishDancer · 12/05/2025 13:58

Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 13:55

I did not say I think it came from the lawyer friend. I said it came from a solicitor without a connection to the lawyer friend. However this solicitor has no record of it. I said lawyer friend advises and sometimes represents my neighbour in any matters my neighbour has. I questioned the conduct of this lawyer, which is in my original opening thread message.

But if the solicitors who supposedly wrote the letter have no record of it, surely it can't constitute any form of 'legal threat' whatsoever, which is surely key? What was the false allegation about? And what does any of it have to do with your plant pots on the roof?

Verite1 · 12/05/2025 14:06

Anotherwomanhere · 12/05/2025 13:55

I did not say I think it came from the lawyer friend. I said it came from a solicitor without a connection to the lawyer friend. However this solicitor has no record of it. I said lawyer friend advises and sometimes represents my neighbour in any matters my neighbour has. I questioned the conduct of this lawyer, which is in my original opening thread message.

What is the connection between the letter and the lawyer friend. Or is there none? And how does the lawyer friend “represent” your neighbour (and how is that relevant) since he clearly isn’t representing him in this situation.

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