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Employer dismissed me, now wants to hear grievance. Please help!

305 replies

Tootiredtosleep · 18/12/2024 16:46

So, I raised a grievance with my employer back in July this year, and a further grievance re a protected characteristic.

They acknowledged the first grievance and invited me to a meeting with the Director (who the grievance was about - it's a small company - no HR). I asked for a reasonable adjustment, could it be held in written form and this was not acknowledged.

The further grievance re the protected characteristic (race), was never acknowledged by the company.

However, they invited me to a disciplinary whilst I was on sick leave, for gross misconduct/fraud. I was subsequently sacked. They were wrong on all counts of what they accused me of. However, for one small thing I had no evidence, and it was upheld as 'reasonable belief'.

The last correspondence from them re my grievances was 27th July 2024.

I have now filed a case at the tribunal for race discrimination, sex discrimination (they contacted my ex husband to find out information) victimisation (raising disciplinary after I done a protected act) and failure to provide an employment contract.

All negotiations with ACAS have failed. They won't communicate.

However, some 5 months since they acknowledged my grievance, they have now written to me to say they would like to hear these grievances and want me to attend a meeting. This is one month after I have been dismissed. It wasn't mentioned in my dismissal letter.

I know I need to show the tribunal that I have exhausted the grievance procedure, but surely contacting me after all this time, when I am no longer an employee is wrong? Can anyone advise?

I have tried to keep it brief, but can provide further details.

OP posts:
PrizedPickledPopcorn · 24/11/2025 07:26

Good luck! Nearly there, now.

Codlingmoths · 24/11/2025 07:37

Good luck!

BigBoots67 · 24/11/2025 07:49

All the best!!!

letshavetea · 24/11/2025 08:02

Good luck for today!

Needapadlockonmyfridge · 24/11/2025 08:04

I have just read your thread, OP, and wanted to wish you good luck x

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 24/11/2025 08:55

Wishing you luck!!

JustAn0therUsername · 24/11/2025 08:59

I just saw your thread today and have read through. Wishing you the best! These things are stressful but it’s always possible they’ll settle at the doors of court. If not, you’ve got this!

Rubinia · 24/11/2025 09:06

All the best!! You can do this!

Sheggsie · 24/11/2025 09:25

Good luck.

GirlsInGreen · 24/11/2025 10:03

Good luck @Tootiredtosleep 🍀

Spirallingdownwards · 24/11/2025 10:22

Good luck for today.

I too suspect they have failed to pay their solicitor or pay upfront for the next phase of proceedings, almost certainly because they have been advised they are likely to lose in court.

Currentquandry · 24/11/2025 10:27

Good luck and fingers crossed for a great outcome for you. I really admire you for sticking with this and waiting for the justice you deserve.

Milliemoo1908 · 24/11/2025 11:01

Good luck!!!!

Scampuss · 24/11/2025 11:02

Sending lots of luck 🍀

Lndnmummy · 24/11/2025 13:39

You have an entire invisible army with you today OP. I have a good feeling for you, but that does not take away the stress. Breathe in through your nose on 4, hold your breath for two, out through your mouth on six. Then go again. Press feet to the floor and focus on your breathing when anxiety spikes. Then listen to your counsel and tell the truth. Then what will be will be.
Steady as you go. Head held high. Shoulders back.

Kimura · 24/11/2025 16:41

Oh I hope this has gone well ❤️‍🩹

WhamBamThankU · 24/11/2025 17:04

Hope it went well Flowers

Tootiredtosleep · 24/11/2025 18:45

Oh my. It was brutal.

They represented themselves. So I had to see my ex employer for the first time in two years.

My counsel was great.

Giving evidence was extremely difficult, and everything was bogged down in legal speak.

The judge seemed to question me so harshly, I wasn’t expecting that.

I feel so drained, upset, teary, and just downright worn down I don’t think I can face it. I don’t have to go back tomorrow as my evidence is over. I’m debating what to do. Maybe see how I feel in the morning.

Totally drained. Not eaten, not slept. Somehow doesn’t feel worth it.

OP posts:
TheThingsYouDoForLurve · 24/11/2025 18:47

The worst is over. You’ve done all you can and what you’re feeling is the culmination of a huge amount of stress. Well done for getting through today.

Hot bath, easy supper (soup? pasta?) and an early night. See how you feel in the morning.

CandidOP · 24/11/2025 18:49

Keep going if you feel able. Show them you are undefeated. You have done really well.

JustAn0therUsername · 24/11/2025 19:01

I’m with @CandidOP. Rest tonight and turn up tomorrow at your most confident. Fake it if you have to. Giving evidence is tough. You’ve done the hardest part.

Whyherewego · 24/11/2025 19:03

Remember the judge seems harsh because they are trying to explore every angle. I am sure you did great. Good luck

Scampuss · 24/11/2025 20:14

Well done @Tootiredtosleep you've done the hard part now.

If you can, do try and go tomorrow, but it's ok to not go.

Flowers
dcadmamagain · 24/11/2025 20:14

the hard part is over - I’d go tomoro if you feel up to it to see rhem
buckle Nader pressure. The truth was on your side today which helped you cope - they won’t have that advantage

gotthearse · 24/11/2025 20:44

Oh my @Tootiredtosleep I'm in awe of your perseverance and rooting for you. I hope you get a just and fair result considering what you have been through. You are very brave and should feel very proud of yourself for what you did today 💐💐💐