Legal amount to drink with children in the house?

[MBRE]

Just that really. Once the kids are in bed, asleep, if I want a G&T or a glass of wine is that legal whilst still "in charge" of the children if their DF is out? What's the limits etc if the police were turn up and breathalyse me? Are they even allowed to do that? So all kids asleep, over the age of three but two under five, two older ones over ten. What's the actual law around this? Anyone know?

@WalkingonWheels

FFS why don't you drive ?? http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/amiibeingunreasonable/5143034-ffs-why-dont-you-drive

Cool. I'm disabled but I can drive so will if I ever need to. Are you consuming alcohol while having your children alone though? Because that's what the thread is about.

I do drive and fully agree with the OP 😁 I find that unless people can't drive for medical reasons, not being able to drive is a bit pathetic.

You’re assuming a lot of things that are incorrect.

the children had zero trauma. They were babies. They had just been left and were about 2 months old. No trauma at that age. They don’t even remember it

@Cerealkiller4U actually trauma can begin from when a child is in the womb. Whether they remember it or not it can have a significant impact. Abandonment is trauma.

So car drivers/owners that have children can not ever have a drink of alcohol is this what some pp are saying now? Oh hail ye on your holy throne

Nope, I'm saying anyone in sole care of children shouldn't be consuming a level of alcohol that can affect judgement and/or reflexes and perception. Below the drink driving limit is a good indicator as that's the reason that exists. Even if you don't drive, you don't want to be calling taxi/ambulance and turning up at the hospital drunk when you need to be able to make decisions about the child's care. Or to not seek medical attention for a child because in your impaired judgement you think not as big a problem. Or fall heavily asleep and the children find it difficult to wake you or you not hear a child as soon in an emergency.

I'm in Scotland- the drink drive limit is about half a small glass of wine. I'm also a single parent and would basically never be able to drink alcohol if I followed that rule

And? You presumably managed 9 months of no drinking when pregnant for the health of the baby? Why can't you manage on an occasional small glass of wine for a few years for them also?

@SaveMeFromMyBoobs define "a few" years.

I don't drink and I agree with what you say to a point, however even if a parent goes out drinking and has a babysitter for the night they could still end up in a situation where their child was brought to hospital and the parent then has to arrive drunk and making decisions.

That's just not true.
Trauma is trauma.
In fact pre verbal trauma is often harder to process. Your body remembers even if you don't.

The younger you are when you experience trauma the bigger the effect as you are now growing from a place that's been damaged so to speak. It's very hard to heal.

I'm adopted and an adoptive parent. I deal with the effects of trauma in my ds every single day.

Probably because she doesn't want to.
Frankly, that's valid.
I smoke weed. I'm not waiting until ds has moved out.
I'm quite capable of functioning, and it helps with my migraines and endometriosis.