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social service.

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thesunshinesbrightly · 04/10/2010 01:37

Hi there quick post if their is anyone that can help.

SS went to see my child 2 teachers and 2 of them, anyway, he came out with some thing that is not true and i questioned him about it and why he said it, said it was a joke but ss wrote this down and it is on record, will be going to see a soliciter to get this taking off the records as it's not true.

Does anyone know where i stand and if a soliciter will take this up.

Thank you.

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LucindaCarlisle · 04/10/2010 07:44

How old is your child who allegedly said this?

LucindaCarlisle · 04/10/2010 08:20

Find out which team the social workers belong to. Where do they want the meeting to take place?

LucindaCarlisle · 04/10/2010 08:22

Also, Take a relative or a friend with you, your partner if possible. And try not to lose your temper with them, it is easy to do, because SS are so incompetent and nasty.

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thesunshinesbrightly · 04/10/2010 16:55

My Ds is 7 and going through a stage of lieing about everything and anything.

No i won't lose my temper cause that is what they want me to do.

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DanceInTheDark · 04/10/2010 16:57

SOrry i am not quite following. You have 2 children and social services went to see the teachers and 2 of your children said something that is a lie?

LucindaCarlisle · 04/10/2010 17:12

What do SS want to do next?

They may close the file with no further action required.

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thesunshinesbrightly · 04/10/2010 18:23

No 2 ss workers went to see my 7 year old child in school on his own just 2 other teachers he told them something which is not true and when i questioned him why he would say that he said 'it was a joke'.

I missed one meeting with the school so the Education officer phoned SS so the result is my children being questioned.

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LucindaCarlisle · 04/10/2010 18:52

It is normal practice for one of the parents to be present when a child is questioned by SS.

What do you think is going to happen next?

Have SS written to you or phoned you up?

scurryfunge · 04/10/2010 18:55

Did they visit as a result of what he said or did he say it whilst they were visiting?

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thesunshinesbrightly · 04/10/2010 19:02

They said it whilst visting not sure if thats what the came round for.
I have a meeting tomorrow so they can put in place some support for my older son as he has a medical problem so they say but to be honest i wouldn't trust them as far as i could throw them.

No i was not present 2 ss workers and 2 teachers and my 7 year old little boy.

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scurryfunge · 04/10/2010 19:06

Sorry, still confused.

Did you child make this disclosure when they visited him or has he mentioned it to someone else first and the school have called in SS?

What I am getting at is did they have cause to visit him?

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thesunshinesbrightly · 04/10/2010 19:13

No..They came to vist me spoke to me and my children at home. Following day they went to see my other Ds at school,i said that was fine as i have nothing to hide. When he came out with this,which is not true,they came round a week later and told me what my DS had said.

I missed One meeting at a school and a appointment for my older son at hospital as he was ill that day so education said they was calling ss as they were concerned i had missed one appointment,now ss are saying it is endless appointments i have missed which is a lie.

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scurryfunge · 04/10/2010 19:36

Ok. What do you want removed? Surely the fact he made the comment was true and that no action has been taken because it was unsubstantiated.

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thesunshinesbrightly · 04/10/2010 19:42

I want it removed off their records what he said it is not true and i won't have people thinking that of me.

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scurryfunge · 04/10/2010 19:43

I doubt they will remove it. If it is not true and they know it is not true, then it shouldn't be a problem.

SixtyFootDoll · 04/10/2010 19:45

But if it is also put on record that you say it is not true then that is the end of it surely?

Speak to a family law solictir, but once something is said its difucult to not be said, unless your DS tels them its not true?
Still confused sorry.

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thesunshinesbrightly · 04/10/2010 19:48

It is a problem(am consulting a soliciter) she hasn't said she believes me oh my god i have been looking after my children for 14 years with no help from anyone surely SS should be chasing people that need help and are abusive, no wonder they leave kids in homes being abused and battered when all they do is go after innocent people.

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thesunshinesbrightly · 04/10/2010 19:51

No it hasn't been put on record i said it wasn't true.
They haven't spoke to my DS again just that once, what a mess, i would never hurt anyones children let alone my own.

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scurryfunge · 04/10/2010 19:55

If everything was removed from records because parents complained, it would not really protect children would it?

If it is not true and they are taking no action anyway, then that is the end of it.

lisad123isgoingcrazy · 04/10/2010 19:58

Im sorry to say but they are unlikely to remove a conversation that they had with a child, only after a parent has spoken to the child.
Why are they questioning him? Seems very odd.

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thesunshinesbrightly · 04/10/2010 20:00

how ridulous it's not a complaint it's a lie.

I have a Social worker now because of one missed appointment these people are a joke.

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LucindaCarlisle · 04/10/2010 20:02

And they wonder why no one trusts Social Workers. They seem incapable of giving people effective help and support.
Public service cuts will give local authorities the opportunity to get rid of the incompetent social workers.

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thesunshinesbrightly · 04/10/2010 20:03

Nothing odd about it.

Ss were called by education welfare because of missed appointment.

Spoke to my two children at home.

Went to school to see my youngest.

You tell me why they are questioning him? i would love to know why they think they can question and indimadate a 7 year old child.

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thesunshinesbrightly · 04/10/2010 20:05

LucindaCarlisle - exactly the thing that gets me is they are so nice to your face..they make my skin crawl.

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LucindaCarlisle · 04/10/2010 20:07

The education welfare officers in my county would not get involved in missed appointments.
Education welfare officers in my area are totally useless.

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