Contact - father has failed to return my DS today

[mumofthreesweeties]

Dear All,

I urgently need some help please. My DS was supposed to be returned today from two weeks at his fathers but I have tried ringing him, texting him but no reply. I have been waiting all day for him to return him or contact me to say things had changed. There is some history to this but surely he cant just decide to do this. I know my son will be upset about this as he has football practise tomorrow and he was eager to join the league which he will now miss so I know he will be upset about that too. We were married and are now divorced. Please can you let me know what I can do about this, can I call the police at all or have to go to court. Are there any open over the weekend. God I am so stressed.

Thank you for reading

Hurrah for the police and tipstaff. Very pleased to read you got your son back. Make sure the school knows the siutation and does not release your DS to your exDH.

I don't have advice to offer just support and admiration that you kept your head in a terrible situation. Keep going (and hugs to your DS).

Good grief. I'm exhausted just reading about this.

mumof, you've been amazing. And babybarrister and mathanxiety, too (and others).

I've ben lurking and have to say I'm very impressed with you. Hope your son gets some help - its no fun gradually realising that your father is an arse as I know. But not insurmountable.

Another lurker here. YHou've been great, well done. I do hope your ds recovers. CAMHS are very good for that; ask your gp.

Good luck on Friday.

Thank you all, tomorrow is another battle so I better start preparing... Jux thanks for the tip, will ask GP to refer to CAMHS. Babybarrister I am in awe at your knowledge, thank you once again. I have prepared my statement and will be filling out the forms for tomorrow. SolidGold thank you too for the info on non molestation orders. You have all been fab, another update tomorrow...So nerve wrecking

so glad you got your son back

Good luck for today. (Another lurker here)

Mumof, you've been astounding. I'm sure you will present very well today. Just think of all of us behind you if you get nervous.

Good luck!

good luck today mumofthree, we're all rooting for you

Good luck mumofthree, I'm sure the judge will see him for what he really is, the low life.

Have been watching this with everything crossed for you. Best of luck today, it's threads like this that make you realise what an amazing forum MN is for those that need help!

Hope it all went well today. Have been wondering how you got on :)

I have been lurking but I hope today went well for you and you and your DS1 are home having cuddles

Hello everyone, well today went by very quickly = it was only a 30 minute hearing and seeing my ex and his partner just really annoyed me so when we went in I was very clear that no contact at all until CAFCASS have spoken with our DC. He tried to character assassinate me but the judge was not having it. Residence was confirmed. To say his partner and him left with their tails tucked firmly between their legs is an understatement. Babybarrister, today I was on top form due to all your expertise = thank you...

Once the hearing was over and we were on our way out he whispered to me that I was drama queen and I just completely ignored him like he hadnt spoken at all. While waiting for the lift his partner made a comment that I was terribly short sighted and again I just completely ignored their silly attempts to rile me. I just held my head up high. Thanks you all your support I was able to show him that if he messes with my son he messes with me and I will fight for my son until the end.

I also handed in the application for the non molestation order as that could not be heard today as the judge had a heavy case load today

DC started school well yesterday and he seems to be putting all behind him although he has stressed that there is no way he will be going to his fathers ever again. There are bound to be more hearings re contact once the CAFCASS report has been done but so far we are happy with the outcome of today

Thank you all so much

So pleased for you.

What a difference a week makes!

MN can be irritating, exasperating, but it's threads like this where people get the help they need that makes such it such a great resource and dare I say community.

Great result. Everything else is detail now that you have residence order.

Just a lurker but wanted to say excellent news & well done today

mumof, ruddy well done! Glad ds has started school OK.

Well done. x

They are a brazen pair to try to intimidate you in the very courthouse .

Well done Mumof3, and good for you for proceeding with the non-molestation order.

xxxxx

well done mumof3, particuarly for not rising to them after the hearing. You should be very proud of yourselves.
Three cheers too for Babybarrister. Hip hip

That's great news :) And brilliant for ignoring them - so hard to do but the best thing in the circumstances. I'm glad your DS went to school too.

well done