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Contact - father has failed to return my DS today

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mumofthreesweeties · 27/08/2010 17:30

Dear All,

I urgently need some help please. My DS was supposed to be returned today from two weeks at his fathers but I have tried ringing him, texting him but no reply. I have been waiting all day for him to return him or contact me to say things had changed. There is some history to this but surely he cant just decide to do this. I know my son will be upset about this as he has football practise tomorrow and he was eager to join the league which he will now miss so I know he will be upset about that too. We were married and are now divorced. Please can you let me know what I can do about this, can I call the police at all or have to go to court. Are there any open over the weekend. God I am so stressed.

Thank you for reading

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SolidGoldBrass · 30/08/2010 00:11

Hope it's all sorted out on Tuesday, your poor little boy and poor you.

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mumofthreesweeties · 30/08/2010 00:38

Dear All who have posted. I have requested that this thread be deleted by MNHQ for security reasons, but I shall certainly update on Tuesday or Wednesday. Thank you all so much

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StewieGriffinsMom · 30/08/2010 00:40

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tortoiseonthehalfshell · 30/08/2010 00:56

Sorry to hear this - and will look for your update later. In the meantime, I hope you manage to get some sleep.

superdragonmama · 30/08/2010 01:02

Also wishing everything goes well for you on Tuesday, and that you are ok til then. Hope you get some decent sleep before. x

Honeydragon · 30/08/2010 01:06

Hope everything isresolved for you son on Tuesday keep being brave and strong

mathanxiety · 30/08/2010 01:17

Thinking of you. This has got to be everyone's worst nightmare.

mumoverseas · 30/08/2010 07:40

well done mumofthreesweeties, I know going to Court is daunting enough sometimes when you have a lawyer representing you let alone acting in person. I know you will be very nervous but please try to remain concise, precise and to the point and avoid too much unecessary mud slinging no matter how tempting it may be. You have come across on here very well with all your posts and I'm sure you will do brilliantly well on Tuesday and your DS will be back with you very soon.

Good luck x

mumoverseas · 30/08/2010 07:40

well done mumofthreesweeties, I know going to Court is daunting enough sometimes when you have a lawyer representing you let alone acting in person. I know you will be very nervous but please try to remain concise, precise and to the point and avoid too much unecessary mud slinging no matter how tempting it may be. You have come across on here very well with all your posts and I'm sure you will do brilliantly well on Tuesday and your DS will be back with you very soon.

Good luck x

invisibleink · 30/08/2010 10:43

Hi - Just checking in to see how you are today.
Hope you are ok.

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mumofthreesweeties · 30/08/2010 11:23

Hi All, thank you once again for checking up on me. I am coping as best as I can and feeling better because I know the courts are open tomorrow. My DC has been texting saying cant my father see that I dont want to live with him and no one can help him now, he is stuck there. My poor boy, I have to remember to be levelheaded as you have suggested mumoverseas. I have all the evidence needed so I am quietly confident one minute and a hopeless wreck the next minute, thanks to years of emotional and verbal abuse from the ex. What a disaster eh?

I shall certainly keep you posted, you dont know how much you all helped me to get the confidence to go through this. I would have certainly been worse had it not been for you all supporting me and sharing your experiences with me. It's an awful thing to go through and to those who have experienced the same thank you for sharing and to those who havent, thank you for supporting.

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tortoiseonthehalfshell · 30/08/2010 12:09

Glad to hear from you, mumof.

Not long to go now. You're saving the texts i hope? Your son will be fine - it's not fun on anyone, and I'm not minimising this, but he's safe and he's got his phone and can text/phone you so he's not cut off, and he's in the country. You'll sort this out.

LadyBiscuit · 30/08/2010 12:37

Thanks for the update. God it must break your heart getting the texts but tortoise is right, definitely save the texts.

Can't believe this has happened to two MNers this weekend Angry

IsItMeOr · 30/08/2010 12:59

You are doing so well mumofthree.

Fingers crossed for tomorrow. I'm sure you'll find that the judge really wants to just understand the situation so that they can make a fair decision.

It's pretty obvious that your DS wants to live with you and that your ex is being a total loser less than perfect parent right now. Hopefully all will be well after tomorrow.

Alouiseg · 30/08/2010 13:04

Wishing you all the luck in the world. Keep calm and be dignified, I really fell for you.

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mathanxiety · 30/08/2010 18:28

I believe bailiffs exist to serve orders, among other things? There are process servers too, like contracted-out bailiffs.

Ask if there's a McKenzie Friend available in the courthouse. www.familycourtsupport.co.uk/mckenzie.htm

Hulababy · 30/08/2010 18:33

Good luck for tomorrow

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lowrib · 30/08/2010 19:21

What a dreadful situation, what a selfish twunt. Good luck for tomorrow, I hope you get your son back quickly.

AmazingBouncingFerret · 30/08/2010 19:36

Im actually close to tears at the thought of this!
Good luck tomorrow. Will be thinking of you.

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JustGettingByMum · 30/08/2010 21:54

Just wanted to add my good wishes for you tomorrow. I hope you get this horrible situation sorted very quickly.

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Honeydragon · 31/08/2010 08:38

Good luck today hope all goes smoothly, will be thinking of you and your son today. X