Why do people have a third child?

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Today at toddler group I was talking about how broody I am feeling at the moment. One of the other mums piped up "everyone I know who has had three wishes they had stuck at two". I can't believe this is universally true!
But what motivates people to have a third child? What are the pros and cons??

Weirdly i said, and do say, no more we are stopping at 3.I have been giving away all maternity stuff and baby stuff dd (no 3) is 12 mths on Sun and i feel broody at the talk of baby's again

Glad it's not just me then FAQ

lilyloo DD3 is now 22weeks and I've just popped the matty clothes back into storage

you never know

DS2 is just a month old and I am already planning when we are going ttc DC3, not until October 2010 but still we are thinking.

I really really want 4 but have promised dh we'll stop at 3 if DC3 is a girl.

Actually, a friend of mine had a very frank discussion with me one night after a few white wines Ribenas about having three. She said it has completely changed the harmonious dynamic of their family, she is permanently sleep deprived due to them all being light sleepers, and that no one should even consider going for three unless they are completely sure of what they're doing!

So some people do question themselves afterwards. My friend is clearly a very loving and devoted mother, but is completely upfront in that she finds it bloody hard work!

(I however am in a complete dilemma about going for a third...)

think I'll have to start looking for a sperm donor, can't see myself in a relationship (quite happy single thank you very much ) any time in the future...........but do want at least 1 (or 2) more children........

We felt like there was someone missing, hence, DS was born 3 November of last year.

But instead of putting my maternity clothes in storage, I gave them all away and scheduled my sterilisation op.

FAQ what have I missed, what happened to the new man?!

dizzy - I ditched him at the start of September last year - he was too clingy and needy for my liking.

I am the "needy" one in my relationships and he was doing my head in

Expat, does it ever worry you that if in a few years you might change your mind?

hahahahahaha to those who gave away baby stuff etc..I gave all mine and a whole 3wks later found out was expecting no.4
Ds is 5,dd1 just turned 3 and ddd2 just turned 2..lol

actually I think I'm going to keep the cot regardless, bought it from a little independent baby shop for DS1 (who is heading to wards 8 1/2yrs old) and I've never seen one quite like it since........think I'll keep it for one of the grandchildren

no, kay, because next month, i'm going to be 38. and i feel every day of it.

FAQ you need to accept my apologies and make sure I pay more attention in future - am awful these days can I at least ask how the move is going?!?

expat, you don't look a day over 31!!!!

I guess it is probably the best form of cont-something(I can't spell it to save my life)

yeah, right, in a few years, i'm gonna be well into my 40s. no way i want to have a kid at that age.

i'm sure it's for some people, but i can say 100% unequivocally that it ain't for me!

You never regret the children you have, only the one you didn't!

I had 3 because someone was missing, and now he's here and it's fantastic!

Iam hoping that by giving everything away means that in my moments of insanity/broodiness i will come to my senses when i think about replacing all these things
That's the theory anyway!!!!

Because tonight as I was sitting playing with DD3 who is 6 months and she looked at me with those lovely big blues eyes with that look of sheer wonder that babies have when they stare at you and that I am her whole and utter entire world.

It was as if someone was missing from round the dinner table at night.

She is a a complete and utter joy and is adored by her big sisters who fight over her.

My maternity clothes and moses basket are up the loft

Move is going ok - I have finially tidied up downstairs today, so tomorrow I can start packing.

Still waiting to here back from my Vicar as to whether she's prepared to be my guarantor or not, but there's not a massive rush for that as the refencing agency hasn't yet sent the form/link to me to get the information put in (Robert - the lovely agent is chasing it for me though - and as he reassures me every time he's rung about it so far "don't worry the house is yours, no-one else has viewed it/will view it, start getting all the other stuff out you need to do before you move and we'll sort the guarnator form out when it arrives).

The lovely MaryBS has very kindly offered to come and help me move - as she can drive a Luton van apparenlty (and I can't drive at all) - so I need to reply to her email to dicuss which day of the weekend I want/need her

Lilyloo my DS is one next Monday, so I think it must be the time for it...
I have given away/sold everything - and I did the same first time around. I seem to get to 11 months adamant that I won't be having another, and then the hormones kick in! It doesn't help that I am teacing antenatal classes so am surrounded by excited pregnant women.
I really enjoy pregnancy, birth and children - but I really don't like the first ten months or so (both of mine have been VERY high needs). Anyone else have two tricky ones and then an easy one (hope, hope).

Many of the people I know with 3 are one of 3 themselves, I am one of 2 and am happy to be stopping at 2, may be we lean towards what we know and what feels right as a 'family'? (cant count my husband as he is one of 5 and wouldnt have taken much encouragement before we had kids to be father of none). Does this theory it hold up with you lot?

as usual I only wish I was closer to help I hope it all goes well

that's ok.

Actually I'm planning on (hopefully) coming back up your way this year. Thinking of seeing if I can find some cheap(ish) self catering acommodation and taking the DS's up for some of the Festival