December 2025 FET

[CoolSummer89]

Is anyone going to have a FET in December?

I was expecting to have one in January but when I went to the clinic yesterday they are going to try and squeeze a natural FET cycle in before the Christmas break!

I am 36, had my first egg collection last month but wasn't suitable for a fresh transfer. If my cycle plays ball my transfer will be 15th-17th December.

Hopeful for a lovely Christmas present but also being realistic given age and first transfer etc.

Sadly I think we are out this cycle, the results from yesterdays HCG just came through (very odd timings) and its 11.3 IU/L

Two days ago the number we were told was 50 but without a unit.

A bit bummed out to receive this news today, would have been better to be blissfully unaware, my wife is having a lovely Christmas so I think i'm going to keep it from her until tomorrow.

I am very relieved our timeline showed that we implanted well and that the food poisoning is extremely unlikely to have played a part. I am hoping we get another implant next time around as it seems like the odds of a chemical after that point with a PGTA is low, such a shame we consistently seem to be on the wrong side of odds but I guess its very good we got an implantation at all.

Wishing you all the very best of luck everyone else here. I am hoping we will be back to try another Embryo as soon we we can depending on meds and cycles and things. Praying that we all have a lovely xmas next year either heavily pregnant or celebrating our little ones first Xmases.

Thanks all for being a place I could get things off my shoulders.

EDIT: I am not sure how to get rid of the quote above this apologies!

@CollsR @BlueSkyWinterSun i really hope this is the case but so stressed about it all, it’s just so hard not being able to have any answers from anyone! Just having to wait so long seems so hard! I’m crossing everything that this is the case though 🤞🤞

Hi @AnxiousHopeful so sorry about this bad news.
I do want to say that i think you should let your wife know asap. I would feel so betrayed and angry if my partner hid something so important from me, even if the intentions were good. I don’t think it’s a decision you have a right to make. Hope you don’t mind my forwardness on this.

@Peonies94 oh I’m so sorry this is happening! I’ve read so much about bleeding being totally normal and it might be one of those subcutaneous haematomas or whatever they’re called. Gutted you can’t know anything until Monday, that’s by far the worst part, but try to remain calm as these things do happen a lot more often than you’d think and still result in healthy pregnancies. The worst I’ve read is someone had to be in bed rest for a bit but it was still ok. As someone mentioned it might be a result of the scan? Did they (pardon my directness) go in or was it just over your stomach?

We tested early today on 26th (OTD 29th). I’m not pregnant. We are a bit sad but okay. We’ve had one son from this process.

My partner off today then working every day our official test date. Wanted to do it today when he could cuddle our son and take it easy.

@CollsR in sorry! Sending love!

@zirafica ive also read so much stuff about this! I’m still bleeding but it has calmed slightly!
it was internal! The worse part is definitely the waiting! Finding it so hard having to just wait for a call with no plan for an appointment! So nervous but after a really hectic day yesterday we’re taking it easy today!

@collsR so sorry to read this. Sending you lots of love and strength ♡

@peonies94 hope you are doing ok. As with all this, it's the uncertainty and waiting that's the worst isn't it. As others have said, and after I had a small bleed earlier in the week, I have read an awful lot about how common bleeding can be, but I know that doesn't help when you're in it and and when you just don't know. So sending lots of love and hope you are doing ok until you can get some answers ♡

@BellaTink647 thsnk you! I too have also read so many stories of it being good news for people, but also so many stories of bad news! I guess there’s so way to tell and just need to just wait! It is the worse part though!

been busy but think I’ve run myself down so having a lazy day today as so full of flu now and I think the stress of all of this really hasn’t helped!

Sorry that you didn’t get the outcome that you were hoping for @CollsR , I’m glad that you could be with your husband and son and take it easy. ❤️

I’m just now testing positive on a urine test! First faint positive was yesterday, 9 days after the transfer. Going to get beta to check levels this morning! Wish me luck!

Thanks for the advice @zirafica, we couldn't get into it until it was just us two but my wife handled the news really well and were both hopeful about doing another FET in the new year, after we take some time to process everything of course.

Our clinic will do one more confirmation blood themselves and so I wont entirely close out this chapter until we see that result but its beyond extremely unlikely to change anything.

Need to figure out how to support her over the next few weeks which wont be easy but thank you all again and again wishing you all the very best of luck.

@AnxiousHopeful im so sorry and wishing you the best of luck for your next transfer! 🤞a failed transfer is always really hard to process but Christmas time really does make it harder!

congratulates @Bees28 ! That’s great news, let us know how the beta goes

@CoolSummer89beta was low at 17…possible chemical but she said she has seen it happen to where levels can sometimes be low like that and still end up successful (late implantation) so, still not completely out until my next Beta on Monday!
Anyone have anything like that happen before?

Thanks for the kind words. Doing okay with the reality of our last attempt not working and our family being just one child. We know we are blessed to have one.

This process is so hard. Sending love to all my fellow warriors going through this. Big congratulations to all those with positive tests and wishing you a healthy pregnancy and baby.

Condolences and love to those who also had it not work for his time. We are on the cutting edge of science & doing our best. May you all be blessed with success in the future xxx

Hello,

How is everyone doing? Hope you all had a lovely Christmas?

Anybody started getting any symptoms yet? I’m 5.5 weeks now and only symptom I have (and have had the whole time) is really sore boobs. No nausea, sickness or major fatigue yet (I would say I feel very “lazy” as if I have a hangover but not huuugely tired). It’s making me a bit nervous but I have a feeling I will regret saying that 😂 I’ve been doing a test every 4/5 days just to keep an eye and they are sooooo dark now so clearly everything is rising but maybe just not high enough for me to get sick yet? X

Hi @AnonTTC first of all you know the science on symptoms - some of us have all of them, some have none, and some have some. None of it is reason to worry. The only thing that should worry you is sharp pains, very heavy bleeding that won’t stop or (in case you had symptoms) all of them disappearing at once. My mum never had morning sickness, not even a tiny bit, neither with me nor with my brother so don’t stress and think something’s wrong just because it’s not there.
That being said, I have been absolutely EXHAUSTED. I think in the last two weeks there hasn’t been one day that I haven’t had at least a 20 minute nap. The fatigue is insane, I stand up for 5 minutes and then need to rest for like an hour. I’ve never been more horizontal in my life.
my morning sickness started about a week ago (I’m 6w4d today), it was awful the first day, calmed down a bit for two days, thankfully almost completely disappeared for Christmas, was mild yesterday and has come back with a vengeance today.
boobs have been sore literally for weeks now, so I don’t even count that any more 😂
I’ve not tested since my positive on my OTD two weeks ago, not really sure what the purpose would be as my beta hcg was high so it would take my body weeks to clear it out even if something did go wrong, and the tests would be dark for weeks probably. I think anything past 1000 the at home tests don’t get any darker as they’ve reached their max but I might be wrong?
excited for the scan though, it’s next Tuesday and and very much looking forward to hopefully crossing that milestone!

Hey Transfer Twin!

I've woke up feeling really worried, for no real reason but then I did a another clear blue to put my mind at ease but it made me worse as still showing 2-3 weeks and its now 7 days since my last tests which said the same so I was expecting a 3+. My clinic doesn't offer bloods and my viability scan isn't until the 19th Jan when I'd be 8 weeks + 3 so I've booked a blood test with a local clinic on Wed and hopefully not too long a wait for results.

@CollsR so sorry to read about your negative test.

@Bees28 good luck for your beta test tomorrow!

@Peonies94 is it tomorrow you have an appointment for checks? I hope all goes well

@BlueSkyWinterSun another perfect example of why people should lay off tests. There have been a lot of posts saying how unreliable the tests showing weeks are, and how stressed out people get for not crossing the 3+ mark when they should, when in reality these are often nowhere near accurate enough. I’ve seen a few people say they’ve had a 3+ and then retested and it went down 2-3, caused tears, drama, the whole lot, only to go to the clinic and things are absolutely fine. Please ladies stay away from tests, they bring nothing but anxiety and as I mentioned there might even be something wrong but it will take your body so long to get rid of the hcg the tests wouldn’t clock it for weeks. Good job booking a blood test, that’s 100% the right thing to do. Wishing you both peace and stop testing!

Heyyyy! Yes funnily enough my mum had no symptoms throughout her pregnancy with me either, so there is a chance I’ll be “lucky”
if I take after her. However, I know it’s a stupid thing to wish for but they’d deffo give me some reassurance that everything was going correctly. To be fair, I’ve been quite good with anxiety so far and very much enjoying being “pregnant”. I think it’s just natural that anxiety creeps in the further along we get because naturally we want to get excited but without knowing if there’s a little heartbeat in there it’s hard, especially with the statistics so early on! I keep reminding myself that statistics are on my side though and no matter what happens, worrying won’t change the outcome. I definitely think telling people adds to the anxiety (for me) because I feel like I can’t celebrate properly without the “obviously it’s still early” caveat so we’ve only told parents really and going to try and leave it there until we at least see a heartbeat. Also, totally hear you on tests.. I do have to say though that so far they have helped me because I’ve clearly seen the HCG getting twice as dark every couple of days. However, my test line is so dark now though that I think I’ve probably maxed the tests out and will likely stop now because I don’t think they’ll tell me much. I’m only 5 weeks 3 days so a little bit behind you and chances are I’ll be back on this thread in a week or so wondering why I was wishing for symptoms 😂 exciting that your scan is on Tuesday. Mine is 2 weeks on Tuesday so a fair bit after yours. My clinic don’t offer hcg testing so I guess I could book privately in the meantime but not sure if that would really tell
me much in the absence of an ultrasound because like you said if anything were to happen it would likely still be high.

Oh heyyyy!

Oh interesting.. I wonder if it’s the stage we’re at where anxiety naturally creeps in because we’re over a week past our test but feels like aaaaages until our scan? Such limbo 😂

If it makes you feel any better, I had a clearblue weeks lying around and did it yesterday (5 weeks 2 days) and it was still 2-3 weeks as well, but on my line pregnancy test the line was WAY darker than when I got 2-3 weeks on Tuesday so I’m not worried.. my hcg is clearly doubling as it should but maybe just not got to the 3 week threshold yet (there’s quite a big jump between 2-3 and 3+ from what I understand so you could be juiuuust under it and still getting 2-3). Like zira has said I don’t think they’re super reliable from a “weeks” perspective and doctors are just looking for the fact your levels are doubling rather than the number necessarily, so sounds like your private bloods will hopefully ease your mind 🤞🏼

My viability scan is 13th Jan and I briefly considered booking a private one but the likelihood is that we potentially wouldn’t see anything until at least 6.5 weeks and feels silly to pay £100+ for the sake of a few days. However, if mine was a week later like yours I’d maybe be tempted?

I think its having time on my hands in the weird period between xmas and new year 😂. Too much time for the brain to think isn't always the best.

My anxiety is soooo much better this time round. My last pregnancy I was physically shaking any time I had to drive as was suddenly terrified of being in an accident but yeah the wait for a viability scan seems so long. I've booked a private one for the 8th Jan which will be one day shy of 7 weeks. It was £75 but saves 11 days of worry 😂. Plus I have a spa weekend away with 5 of my girlfriends the following weekend to celebrate 2x40ths & 1x50th so I really wanted to have a viability scan before then so I can tell them as I have no other reason I could give for skipping the sauna, steam room, massage & wine 😅.

@AnonTTC @BlueSkyWinterSun hi sorry passed out for a nap!
totally get the anxiety, when my morning sickness went away on Christmas I was sure something was wrong, it’s just the way it is in early pregnancy cause you have nothing to offer reassurance so you’re clinging on to straws. Sadly this causes a lot of anxiety and I’m sad to see how badly some people take it! I have a friend who is completely healthy, both her and partner super athletic, got pregnant at first try, everything is going super smoothly and she’s still paying privately for a scan a week cause she drives herself insane with symptom spotting. Every week she says she’s not gonna have a scan until her next nhs one and every week she ends up having one 😂
@AnonTTC i think if you did a blood test the level would be able to tell them something as they know what level you should be at at 5w+, but agree, they’d probably book you in for 2 blood tests at least + I think they’re more precise in early pregnancy (like before 5 weeks than now), so best you can do is wait for a scan. Mine should’ve been this week as I’m 6.5w today, however due to the holidays it’s gonna be next week so at 7.5w which on one hand I’m like yay I’ll be able to see more, but on the other have I thought about booking a private scan this week? I definitely have.
what calms my anxiety is knowing there’s nothing I can do at this point - even if things were to go wrong and I found out before my scan there’s not much good it would do me. If I ended up needing to have a clearing out after a miscarriage they probably wouldn’t be able to schedule that until next week and if I found out this week I’m not sure how I’d handle knowing I’m walking around with a dead embryo inside me, so it makes it a lot easier to trust the timelines set already. But I agree, the wait from hcg test to scan has been the worst part (especially since mine will be 3 weeks as opposed to the usual 2)!

Hello all, today was my official test day so I emailed the clinic. They emailed back which I was surprised about given that it’s a Sunday between Christmas. I’ll find out my viability scan date tomorrow.

Only ‘symptom’ I have had is my heart rate is 5bpm faster and my breasts are fuller but not tender at all. Oh and I am more hungry throughout the day. However I am only 4 weeks 3 days. But yes was very encouraged when I tested again this morning how much darker it was.

I have decided to go all in on enjoying the pregnancy and not have any fear. I can’t control the outcome anyway. Have downloaded the Pregnancy+ app and laughing at how small the pregnancy is now - the size of a chia seed! Only person who we have told is my mum and she can be a bit of a Debbie downer on these things, so I am just trying to bring my own joy.

@BlueSkyWinterSun. Thank you!!