December 2025 FET

[CoolSummer89]

Is anyone going to have a FET in December?

I was expecting to have one in January but when I went to the clinic yesterday they are going to try and squeeze a natural FET cycle in before the Christmas break!

I am 36, had my first egg collection last month but wasn't suitable for a fresh transfer. If my cycle plays ball my transfer will be 15th-17th December.

Hopeful for a lovely Christmas present but also being realistic given age and first transfer etc.

No I don’t actually have An appointment, but should expect a call back tomorrow for them to book me in! The bleeding stopped a little yesterday turned more to spotting, but then it started bright red again today! Hoping to hear with an appointment soon! I have my next one with my clinic in 10 days time!

@Peonies94 keeping everything crossed for you!

@BlueSkyWinterSun funnily enough I said the same to my husband yesterday. Time is draaaaaging because I’m not in my usual routine. I finished on 18th December and not back until 5th Jan which is such a nice break but I think I’m ready to go back already 😂 maybe because I had some time off around the transfer I’m feeling it more? Just shows how much we actually need routine in our lives doesn’t it!? Glad you’re feeling less anxious than with your first pregnant & don’t blame you at all for booking the private scan. Honestly as time goes on I’m tempted to book one myself because I just want to know it’s not a blighted ovum or something like that. We told our last set of parents last night and it was sooooo lovely telling them but I get so scared about how excited everyone is when I don’t know if everything is developing okay in there.

You are right @zirafica there is nothing we can do about what will happen and stressing about it/knowing any earlier isn’t going to help in any way shape or form. I think I just want to get properly excited knowing it has a heartbeat etc but only 2 weeks to wait 🫠😂

Glad you’re feeling good @CoolSummer89 .. I’m also STARVING. I’ve ended up having an extra small meal in the day and I’m not really a slacker etc usually. It comes out of nowhere though and feels like I need to eat NOW. Also great to hear you're enjoying the pregnancy without any worries.. that’s a fantastic way to be! I downloaded that app too and have you done the thing where you can see the 3D image in “real size” on the phone? That’s funny too because you can actually see how big it is inside then! Like you say, hilarious how small they are but it’s also crazy when you see how much they grow from weeks 4-12!!

Yes that's exactly it @AnonTTC I was showing my husband and we pressed the 'actual size' and just started laughing and laughing. Like how is something that small causing so much havoc.

I am also off until the 5th, we live in a flat (London) so I'm gonna try and use the next few days to do some DIY bits to see if we can sell it and buy a house!! But yes work would probably be a good distraction, although I am in a newish role and worried about symptoms turning up when I'm trying to make a good impression!

Hi everyone! Hope people have enjoyed Christmas time.

It's been so nice catching up on the thread this morning because I'm feeling the same as a lot of you! I've also had no symptoms at all which has naturally made me worry, even though I know it doesn't signal anything. I haven't even had sore boobs which a lot of you have had. I have also been debating keep testing but I know it will make me more anxious if my weeks haven't increased so @zirafica I think you are right and will avoid!
1 week today until my scan at which point I'll be 7 weeks. So desperate for that to come around, but also don't want it to go too quick because that means I'm back at work and I don't want to wish away my last few days off!!

@peonies94 Thinking of you.

@CoolSummer89 that's so funny your write about heart rate too because I had noticed mine has been a slightly higher average the past few weeks!

Yes so funny isn’t it @CoolSummer89 😂 I’ve also had an awful cough/cold since Christmas Day and that has been making me anxious in case having an infection/bad cough/constant sneezing will somehow affect the pregnancy but there’s not much I can do about catching a cold is there!? DIY sounds like a great way to take your mind off things. Unfortunately because of my cold I’ve had to cancel all the plans we had these past couple of days and have been sat at home resting which deffo doesn’t help!

Great news that your scan is only a week away @BellaTink647 . I have read that symptoms can come on randomly out of nowhere or for some people they get them much later/not at all.. but totally understand wanting to feel some to know something is going on!

and yes.. thinking of you today @Peonies94 - hope everything goes okay with your appointment x

Hi everyone

@zirafica I agree on testing. I haven't tested again, I really wanted to at points earlier as I felt I had no symptoms at the 5 week point. My partner persuaded me not too as it wouldn't be helpful.

I have now (6 weeks 2 days) been having some brutal symptoms, particularly nausea which is almost 24/7. Feel like I have a hangover all day every day. I also think I ate something that didn't fully agree with me last night as I woke up at 1am with stomach pains (gastro not cramping), luckily they resolved but I felt so sick all night and this morning. I also have slightly swollen breasts.

Nausea went away for one morning after a good solid meal and a really long sleep, which made me anxious - ha! - but is now back. I even emailed my clinic asking if I could go off the progesterone early as I read it can slow down bowel motility which I think is contributing to the nausea (and the stomach pains situation, food is just moving through me SO slowly).

@CoolSummer89 I think that's a great attitude to go all in. I'm trying to do the same but I'm finding it hard!

@BlueSkyWinterSun @AnonTTC I understand the anxiety and I do think having the week between Xmas and New Year where there's nothing going on really doesn't help. It feels like a looong wait to the first scan on 5th Jan for me. The thing is if it was a missed miscarriage even with all the symptoms you could not be pregnant so I just can't think about it. My mum had - or says she had - no morning sickness, easy pregnancies with minimal symptoms. So I don't think symptoms mean anything!

Joining a bit late. I had my second transfer just before Christmas. My test day is tomorrow and I'm going a bit insane now.

I’ve so far never tested early. This is our second FET after a previous FET failed in October, and many years of chemicals etc.

We were away with family all of last week so a change of scenery definitely helped me to stay distracted, I was back at work today so I have managed to keep myself busy all day. However now, the over thinking has started with almost a two week delay at once!!

Off to the cinema shortly to attempt to fill the evening and stay out of the house as late as possible.

Ive been pretty bloated and my boobs are sore. Had a singe day of nausea last week, but I think those are definitely progesterone related so I can’t assume it will be good news and trying not to read into it.

Fingers crossed for everyone testing this week. Routine is definitely a blessing in my case, I imagine I’ll be awake super early tomorrow 🤭

Big congrats CoolSummer89. I did the same with my son. Lovely to think about. I just decided to not hold back and be happy and enjoy this. Please do!!! And forget any Debbie Downers.

@CoolSummer89@BlueSkyWinterSun

so so excited! My second beta more than doubled and the level is at 75! 3rd beta is on the 5th!
I was so worried it was a chemical pregnancy because it seemed like it implanted late and the first beta was so low…fingers crossed

I was just going about my daily business and sneezed whilst I really needed a wee and felt a load of wet “down there”. Assumed maybe my pelvic floor was already on the blink then went to the toilet and it was bright red blood 😢 it was only that one burst (so far) and a bit more when I wiped so I’ve put a liner on just to keep an eye on it and called my EPU who have put me on triage for a call back to discuss. I’m keeping everything crossed I don’t start getting cramps or heavier bleeding and that it’s nothing but it naturally makes you worry that it could all be over after everything we’ve been through. Can’t even accept that as a possibility in my head!

@AnonTTC aw I’m sorry it’s the last thing you want to see I know! But honestly it’s probably nothing, as mentioned IVF meds make the lining thinner and it’s prone to little tears, must’ve been some sneeze! Please keep us updated. And I know I’m the queen of rational thought here but I think we all need to truly accept our chances of a miscarriage are high. For me I’m like 40% pregnant/60% expecting something to badly go wrong. The first trimester is risky as is for healthy normal pregnancies, but even more so for us - we all came in with different issues so the fact we got pregnant by no means means we’ll get to a live birth. If you transferred an euploid that minimises the risk slightly, but again nowhere near removes it. Try to keep your mind open to this possibility and your heart sheltered. As someone said, all we have is “today I am pregnant”.

@AnonTTC sorry to hear this, I know how worrying this will be. Fingers crossed that was all and I hope you are feeling OK x

@AlmostTime thinking of you on your test day today and wishing you all the luck!

Just updating this for reassurance for anybody else who might experience bleeding and panic.. I ended up having some quite consistent bleeding from 11pm through the night. It had tailed off by this morning but there were some significant clots, although I had no cramping etc and the fact it stopped was reassuring. Naturally I panicked and thought the worst but I did also have a bit of a rational head on that it could have likely been irritation from the pessaries and pressure from coughing/sneezing - and that’s exactly what it was! I called my EPU last night and went in this morning and they’ve checked everything over and confirmed I’m not miscarrying (currently) and they could see where the bleeding came from which was a cervical erosion. Hope this helps if anybody else experiences bleeding and offers some reassurance that even with clots it can be absolutely fine! Thank you for your kind words everybody x

@AnonTTC aw what a relief!! So glad to read your update!! Must have been a worrying 12 hours. Glad you've been checked and all is looking well. I have cervical erosion to and was advised bleeding would be likely. So far it's impacting my husband more cause I'm not letting him anywhere near me incase it aggravates it 😂. That must've been some sneeze 😂😂.

@Bees28 brilliant news on your blood tests! Super reassuring!

@AlmostTime welcome to the group and good luck for your testing today!

@Peonies94 I've been thinking about you. I hope all is okay

Thanks @BlueSkyWinterSun - it was a relief to say the least!! And made me think twice about worrying about everything from now on and realise I have no reason to think there’s anything wrong (until something actually happens like a big bleed!). Interesting you already know you have one, that’s reassuring for you if you get anything similar but 🤞🏼you don’t. I deffo won’t be letting my hubby near there 😂 they’ve told me to try pessaries the back way for a bit too.

Honestly the coughing and sneezing has been SO bad.. I’ve been worrying it would dislodge the pregnancy (I know realistically it can’t) so when the bleeding started I was like omg was I actually right!!?

@AnonTTC excellent, glad to hear everything’s fine!

I can’t believe people are actually doing things with their partners lol I am so NOT in the mood!!!

@AnonTTC she saw my cervical erosion when she was doing the transfer. I'm perimenopausal so likely down to the hormones from that for me.

Ahahaha @zirafica I did nothing with my husband my entire last pregnancy and for a good 8 months or so afterwards 😂 I had stitches down there so it was a hell no. It was so funny in hospital when they asked what we'd be using for contraception, deffo not required 😂.

Just in case it helps anyone else, I use this website daily, I did for my past pregnancy too. The miscarriage risk drops every day which I like to see. As for IVF pregnancy, I actually feel like im less at risk than my last pregnancy which was a natural one as this time they've chosen the best availabile sperm & then blastocyst, not to mention all the drugs to help things along. I appreciate that's not the same for others thought and apologies if its triggering for some, but hopefully helps anyone likeminded.

@AnonTTC So glad and what a relief!! Made me laugh that you managed to sneeze that hard 😂

@Bees28 And what great news about the blood tests!! Really hope all goes well for the next one, how exciting!

@BlueSkyWinterSun I'm sort of in the same camp as you, I'm not convinced there is a huge additional miscarriage risk inherent in doing IVF. I've never been pregnant so there's no reason to believe the actual pregnancy bit is our issue too, which probably makes it easier for me. I read that at my age I have a 49.7 percent chance of making it to live birth with a euploid embryo, so it really is a toss up.

I don't know if anyone else thinks this but one thing I do worry about a little bit is subjecting the embryo to large amounts of medications, progesterone and so on. There is a not very reassuring disclaimer on the pessaries that says something like: 'There is no clear evidence on the effects on children born when using progesterone during pregnancy, including genito-urinary defects'. My clinic didn't mention this to me, and it's not great to read it for the first time when you've already been taking them ages! But I have personally taken against the pessaries because of the horrible side effects they've had for me, if I felt less like I was being poisoned I probably wouldn't worry😅

Sorry if I've just given people even more to worry about, I'm sure it's irrational.

It was positive! Over the moon

For anyone reading back I had exactly the same symptoms during the two week wait this time as my two week wait for the last FET which failed. So it truly is all progesterone, really tells us nothing.

So pleased for you @AlmostTime !! Great news.

And thanks for the update @AnonTTC , what a relief for you! So pleased to hear it. It definitely helps people sharing all their experiences which we just don't otherwise hear about so will always assume the worst.

@whysohardtogetusername see I sit on the opposite end of the fence. If we’re struggling to get pregnant or have recurrent miscarriages, which most of us do and that’s the reason we’re doing IVF, there is obviously something wrong with our or our partners bodies. Unless the clinic specifically zooms in and addresses the cause of the issue (which I think most places don’t do, they seem to have a more or less blanket approach to everyone, just tailoring the strength/duration of meds) our chances of success are inherently lower as there’s obviously something that’s not letting it happen naturally. The only way to try to fix this is taking the prescribed medication. I feel like if you’re not going to take the meds then what’s the point in doing ivf, if you think you know better than the doctors? Idk I feel like they got you to where you wanted to be and then being like no I don’t want this or that is irresponsible. Your body your choice however I am team listen to the doctors until you learn otherwise. They sure as hell know better than I do what they’re doing.