December 2025 FET

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Is anyone going to have a FET in December?

I was expecting to have one in January but when I went to the clinic yesterday they are going to try and squeeze a natural FET cycle in before the Christmas break!

I am 36, had my first egg collection last month but wasn't suitable for a fresh transfer. If my cycle plays ball my transfer will be 15th-17th December.

Hopeful for a lovely Christmas present but also being realistic given age and first transfer etc.

@BlueSkyWinterSun definitely sounds like caffeine withdrawal 100% ha!
I feel knackered too currently logged off work and in bed with a book. Although have a hygienist appointment and can’t be bothered to go out now…

@AnonTTC oh i struggled with caffeine withdrawal A LOT. I cut coffee out about 3 months ago, when we started stims but kept my morning matcha. It’s such a treat and such a cozy start to the day for me that I decided giving it up would bring more harm than good. Glucose goddess (who I swear on for nutrition) said she cut out caffeine completely and that both times she did that she got pregnant, despite there being clear guidance that it’s ok in moderation. I don’t think an instant coffee will do much harm at all so I wouldn’t worry. As someone said (fortunately or unfortunately), a failed transfer can’t be blamed on one decision you made, it’s a lot more complex than that. So a coffee or a glass of wine or a chocolate bar or whatever won’t make any difference ♥️

Hey girls thanks for the mentions and for not forgetting me despite my lack of posting! I am still trying to follow along but also feeling super busy ATM so haven't really been very on it....but it's wonderful to see a few positives already! 😍 congrats!!! I will try and follow along better after tomorrow when I start 9 days off work!

I had my transfer yesterday. It went smoothly. I've been quite chill today as I guess the following day you don't expect to feel anything different... I'm sure tomorrow or the day after I'll start over analysing my symptoms or lack of them!!

@Blueskycat sorry to hear about your two failed transfers, I am crossing everything that it's third time lucky for you!
If this one fails (it will be my second) I can't decide whether to do a third or have a hysteroscopy to look at my fibroids. It seems silly (and expensive) to rush that procedure when I think statistically three transfers is quite normal and not a sign that anything is 'wrong'. My partner thinks we should do another one after this but I don't want to waste all our embryos if the fibroid is stopping them!

Anyway, I would recommend buying a house as good distraction from IVF! 😝 and massive 'sort your life out' style decluttering mission in prep for moving! It's definitely helping me to not think about it!

@AnonTTC I switched to de-caf post transfer. I often drink that anyway as I can't taste a difference! But as others have said, I am sure the odd coffee isn't going to have a huge impact!

I was so adamant I wouldn't test early but seeing so many talk about testing earlier than the 13 days my clinic advised is definitely making me a bit tempted 😅

@BlueSkyWinterSun I think it's definitely caffeine withdrawal, I had brutal withdrawal when I quit like that. Headaches etc.

@zirafica I've kept my morning matcha too. I actually quit caffeine for three years just before and during TTC and I didn't get pregnant once so I figured that wasn't my particular problem 😂. I also hate winter so I have a carefully crafted routine with sauna, a SAD lamp and matcha to get me through, and as I've had to quit sauna I need something to perk me up!

Hi @Klmno I like the house-buying advice 😂All-consuming in my experience too!

Headache has cleared today. Oooft that was rough. I'm just going to stick to decalf, the caffeine had stopped working for me a while back anyway, could easily have slept straight after a coffee 😂

@Klmno glad your transfer went well & here's to the days passing quickly before testing.

I'm still planning to hold out until OTD to test but I ordered one yesterday to get organised & it was from amazon so its coming today 😅. 3dp5td today so thinking I'll tell my husband to hide it from me but then he'd probably cave if I asked for it early anyway.

House move sounds a great way to keep busy and distracted!

I did some baking yesterday but then ended up eating them all 😂. A new distraction needed!

Thanks for all the reassurance guys. To be honest I too cut caffeine out aaaaages ago and only really have decaf coffee/tea but yesterday was a struggle 🤣 the progesterone is catching up with me!

Oh how funny @Klmno we are moving house at the moment too! Our whole journey from the start sounds SO similar, it’s really spooky that even the house move is the same. I have to agree though that it is a great distraction. It was particularly great when we were waiting between egg collection and FET. And I’d say the same vice versa, I’ve been soooo chill about the whole selling process because we have much bigger things going on with the IVF.

Ahhh how are you feeling today @BlueSkyWinterSun ? I have to say I’m really struggling with the ups and downs of “has it worked or not”, way more than I thought I would. I’m also getting anxious because I feel like I have 0 symptoms bar the odd twinge, even though I know that’s totally normal! I’m still going to hold out testing until next weekend but think my anxiety will get worse as the days go on. It’s also hard to not over analyse every single thing you do/did in the days after the transfer which again is silly. I didn’t think I’d be like this at all 🤣 I’ve been soooo chill in the run up!

@AnonTTC ah the waiting is so so difficult! No symptoms here either but when we were trying naturally, I was convinced I was pregnant and felt like I had loads of symptoms which made the negative tests so upsetting, but when I was pregnant will my little boy, I had no symptoms until I was around 4/5 weeks and even then is was just extreme tiredness so not thinking too much about that. Funnily enough i was moving house when i was pregnant with him. The day before my test i was literally taking a sledgehammer to the bathroom walls and dragged a bath down a staircase and into a skip 😂. It was only because I realised my period was late I bought a test.

I'm going to test on the 20th so 1 week today! I can't hold out to the 21st 😂

@BlueSkyWinterSun you sound like me, I love a bit of major DIY😂. I've been so careful this week but I do think 'well if it happened naturally I wouldn't know and I'd be doing all this stuff'.

@AnonTTC I'm three days out (Monday is my clinic test date, which I'm waiting till cos I've got a lot to do this weekend) and my anxiety is creeping in massively. I had a vivid dream last night that I tested, my friend was with me and told me it was negative but then I went to check and I couldn't read the test, it had five lines in a star 😂. Then for some reason Mindy Kaling appeared and I was panicking and I told her what was happening and she went and got a doctor who did a test and it was positive. And I was like 'oh I'm so sorry you're not actually a doctor, I know that you're an actress, this is so rude but thanks so much for sorting this out.' I'd been looking on her instagram earlier so maybe it was that? Then I woke up!

@whysohardtogetusername oh Monday isn't far away at all!! Your dream sounds funny! Our brains don't even get a rest while asleep 😅

This dream made me laugh so hard!! haha thanks for this

Yeah i think this is what i need to remind myself.. you could find loads of people who have 0 symptoms and get a positive and then the same amount who got loads of symptoms and a negative so best not to read too much into it. I guess it’s just our natural coping mechanisms coming into action ahead of getting the result.

Funny you say about the test because now we’re a few days in I’m much more like there’s no way I can wait until the 21st 🤣 having said that, I know for a fact I want to wait to test until a day where i’m certain we’d get a positive (if we were going to get one) because I can’t cope with the mental torture of “what if” if it’s negative. I think I’ll likely do 20th too (or 19th if I get super impatient haha)

Haha oh no the vivid dreams @whysohardtogetusername !! I had a few of these pre transfer to do with my lining scan 🤣 not had any yet post transfer but I bet they will creep in the closer it gets.

Monday - not long to wait at all!!! Totally understand your nerves, as much as I want to know the result I’m dreading actually testing. Make it make sense!!

The waiting is hard… best luck all who waiting.

When I was pregnant with my son via FET I had zero symptoms until 6-8 weeks. Certainly nothing before the pregnancy test.

Two more sleeps & then my FET. Night before I’ll just be using soap & deodorant… so last big shower tonight.

Love the Mindy Kaling dream 😂😂

@whysohardtogetusername lolling at your dream! I have had such bizarre 'cant read the test' dreams but I like the idea of there being a star! Mine have never been that quirky...it's more like I've gone blind or something haha

@AnonTTC oh wow we really are similar! And did I see you're also Manchester area or did I make that up?!

@BlueSkyWinterSun you make me feel better about all the stuff I lugged around my garage having a sort out before I remembered they said no heavy lifting 🤦🏻‍♀️

I'm definitely getting more anxious about testing now and reading into every little symptom or non-symptom! I've had some crampings last night and today and can't help thinking it's a bad sign. But I also had a dodgy tummy last night so it may well be just because of that. Such mental torture isn't it! Part of me is like I just wanna know, and the other part doesn't want to risk any false result either way. I know even after official test day I'll find it hard to believe the result and will keep thinking what if.

Ahh not long @CollsR - it will be here before you know it. Do you think you’ll test before Christmas? Thanks for the reassurance re no symptoms too.

@Klmno I am in Manchester yes. Are you!? The spookiness continues!

@BellaTink647 I hear you! On the flip side, I’ve had barely any cramps and reading into the fact that bad too so we can’t win can we? 🤣 I have saved something to refer back to whenever I’m feeling anxious that basically says every single person is different and no symptoms isn’t necessarily a “bad thing”. Also, some people feel progesterone effects more than other etc so with us all on so much medication it’s impossible to know. I also keep reminding myself if we were on a natural TTC cycle and I was 9dpo (equivalent of 4dpt) I wouldn’t be expecting a huge load of symptoms as it’s so early so I’m not sure why I’m expecting them from this process!! I think we’re just looking for any sign it’s worked/not worked aren’t we? I’m trying to remain positive but definitely have moments of “it’s obviously not worked”. It is hard!! My clinic gave me a leaflet when we left and it said “our patients describe the 2 weeks as a rollercoaster” and I thought that really wouldn’t apply to me but here we are 🤣

Thanks @AnonTTC !

I’m planning my first early test Christmas Day as that’s the first day it seems the early pregnancy tests could work. I’m not telling my partner so there is no pressure. My official test date is 29 Dec and he knows this. Christmas Day is just my partner, toddler and me… but hopefully will be enough of a distraction if I’m negative.

@AnonTTC ah I know, I'd be feeling the exact same if I wasn't feeling any symptoms so definitely cannot win! I find when I'm busy it's not too bad, but as soon as I have time to think it's all I can think about!

Well I also thought cramps were meant to be a good sign and feel disappointed I've had none, so I agree you really can't win can you?! I also had spotting two days after my last transfer, and got excited it was implantation, but that transfer failed, but I'm still disappointed that I've not had any this time?! Even though last time it turned out to not be a good sign after all?!

It's a mind-mess for sure!

@AnonTTC yep I'm Manchester! Well I work in Manchester at the MRI but I live more Stockport kind of way.

@zirafica thank you so much for your comment “As someone said (fortunately or unfortunately), a failed transfer can’t be blamed on one decision you made, it’s a lot more complex than that.”

You’ve saved me winding myself up over little choices at least five times today & yesterday. In the next 14 days this is going to be a very healthy mantra for me xxx

@CollsR sounds like a good plan! And I think with it being just you and your husband/son on Christmas Day at least there’s nobody to have to pretend to whatever the result is. What a lovely Christmas present it would be though ❤️

Exactly @BellaTink647 .. I think via my trawling of the internet I’ve found people who had cramps and it was a good thing, had cramps and it meant nothing or had no cramps and they were still pregnant etc!! Proves the point that everybody is different and also I guess everybody’s tolerance is subjective too isn’t it. Some may feel things much more than others. Then on the flip side, I’ve had what I would call mild cramps this afternoon (probably wouldn’t even notice them if I wasn’t hyper alert) and I’m like “well it’s probably just the progesterone anyway” so really cannot win, ha! Like you say @Klmno I think we’re just looking for signs somethings happening but even if/when we get them we can’t be sure they’re what we think.

Under a week to go for us now - we can do this!!!

@whysohardtogetusername wishing you the best of luck with your test tomorrow! Sending lots of positive thoughts your way!

@CollsR best of luck for your transfer tomorrow!

I'm starting to get really nervous. There is zero temptation to test early atm because I'm too scared 😬. This day next week I turn 40 so will either be on champagne or nosecco! Praying for nosecco!

@AnonTTC haha thanks for trawling the internet about cramps so that I don't have to! I trawled it regarding spotting and came to the same conclusion.

@BlueSkyWinterSun completely know what you mean. I am also so scared. I want this more than anything ever. I am terrified of how disappointed I'll be if it hasn't worked.

Glad some of you enjoyed my Mindy Kaling dream 😂😂 Thanks @BlueSkyWinterSun, I've successfully distracted myself most of today by working and doing a lunch with friends, but I don't know if I'll sleep tonight. Lined up several brands of pregnancy test because I need to be sure 😅

I do think symptom-guessing is a dangerous game. I had cramps first few days but basically I assumed that was my uterus violently objecting to the whole procedure because I've had the same experience whenever I've had anything done before its kicked off (hysteroscopy, coil insertion etc)!! So I wonder if its more about that actually. Like some people are just more prone to cramps in general, it doesn't really mean much?

@CollsR hope everything goes smoothly tomorrow! Exciting!