October FET

[InfertilitySWS]

Hi! I’m starting the process of a FET in September, transferring a 4AB early October. Trying for baby number two. Anyone else? Would be great to have people to talk to amongst the symptom spotting, line eyes and general freak outs ☺️

Oh, that's brilliant @ClaireBear101, great news!

I know bleeding can be normal; I'm just doing it all very much by the book - more because I want to know asap if it's a missed miscarriage. I'm taking it all very gently this weekend.

Interesting you and @Miraclemuma03 can't have soft eggs - I'm in the UK and we can (because they're vaccinated), which has been great as I love scrambled eggs for breakfast. What I am really missing is blue cheese, which is a no. It's funny how advice changes - I remember my ex avoiding runny eggs nine years ago and I'm sure they were on the banned list last time I was pregnant.

@Sara237, I'm sorry you're having such a rough time. Hopefully it will start to tail off but it sounds very hard at the moment.

@Miraclemuma03 - oh, your husband sounds like a sweetheart, but a bit anxious! We're all different, aren't we? I guess it's his way of trying to help and show you he cares.

I honestly think he is in overdrive. Hes so scared but wont say it so is playing it super safe, even during my 2ww he played everything super safe. Hes currently mopping floors because I swept which he wasnt impressed with so took over the mopping. Told him no one is home during the day, how else is this stuff meant to get done? I think right now i just have to let him ride it out and i have to be patient with him. I really hope this pregnancy is successful, my husband takes the losses the hardest like he blames himself. Im just trying to feel grateful and happy and trying to be positive and not worry myself stupid.

How are you going @SarahAndQuack im hoping everything is going well for you.

@ClaireBear101 thats amazing news. I stopped testing at 10dpt and got beta 13dpt and have just left it at that. Tuesday is second beta. Do you get a beta blood . Won't be long to wait for a scan now.

Oh, bless him. It must feel very powerless for him. I was lucky that when my ex-partner was pregnant with our daughter, the early stages were easy (she did IUI and fell pregnant straight away, and felt very well until late on, when it did get rougher). But even so, I do remember feeling I was meant to be looking after her and, of course, there isn't much you can really do!

I'm just trying to keep my mind off it until tomorrow. But I'm not feeling sick. I felt really sick on Wednesday/Thursday and not at all now. But, at least if I have to go again, I got a long way through this one so it's actually better than it might have been. One of my issues is I never knew what caused me to miscarry before - at the time my GP was totally uninterested - but I found out more recently it's possible my ex (male ex this time, do keep up! ) carries a balanced translocation, which would account for it. If it's that, then even though I'm older now, it might be I could get through a pregnancy.

@SarahAndQuack Sending a hand hold for your scan tomorrow. Xx

Im sure everything is going to be ok. Thinking of you for your scan

Thinking of you @SarahAndQuack

@ClaireBear101 amazing news! Think we’re on a similar-ish timeline (I’m 5w5d today) and I’ve felt more nauseous over the weekend. It’s like hunger pangs but also being sick? I still want to eat thankfully. Another poster described it as a hungover stomach feeling which nails it I think!

@Miraclemuma03 my DH has been excited but he did let me get on with cleaning upstairs and doing gardening this morning. To be fair I had gone for a run beforehand so I think he’s reluctant to let me off with chores right now 😂

@Limmers14 Hungover stomach is exactly right! Urgh.

@Limmers14 dont get me wrong im still the bloody slave in this house bahahah just not now to the things that need me to use my muscles if that makes sense or strain. The mopping thing he doesnt allow bcos with one of my miscarriages I mopped and scrubbed floors and then started bleeding and 2 days later the heartbeat stopped and ended up with a D&C a week later and now he seems to think that's what might have caused it which isnt, it was just coincidental but that stuck with him so thats where the no mopping, straining and heavy lifting came into play.

I think im nearly on the same time line as you also. Today I am 5+2weeks.

So I havnt had morning sickness but think we have started food aversions and getting sick eating certain foods, so I cant eat pretzels, they made me quite ill that I needed to calm my body down in a warm shower which really helped and today I chose to eat maccas hotcakes where usually I would eat a tomato and cheese toastie but hubby is in the backs of my ears with his no eating salads out so was a bit worried to eat the tomato anyway the hotcakes went straight through me and I was in public, i was absolutely cursing my husband because i dont usually eat the maccas food only the toastie and coffee, hes so lucky he was at work hahaha next time im having the bloody toastie, how ridiculous.

All ok. Thanks so much for the handholds! It really helped.

Anyone had any cravings yet? I had one this evening where I really needed to feel refreshed and asked my husband to bring home 7up. I think it’s nostalgic for me as my mum would give me flat 7up when I felt sick when I was younger.

Unfortunately its not great news for me today. My hcg didnt double enough to make this a viable pregnancy, I had to drive home trying to not break down behind the wheel. Was the longest drive home today, I got the news while I was at the primary schools swimming lessons and just had to hold it together. I have to repeat bloods on monday and if increased I have to book a scan the following friday to see where the embryo possibly implanted. Inevitably its likely I will eventually miscarry or iv had an ectopic pregnancy and thats it, its all over, its very unlikely il do any more rounds of ivf because its getting very hard to keep going through it. Its a very sad day this arvo after what was a great morning and I was feeling very positive. Guess I knew really it was too good t9 be true. Il be holding my current children tight and feel very grateful for them that they came through their fight and made it too the world. I know some people dont have that and I dont take it for granted..

Oh I'm so sorry @Miraclemuma03 😞 thinking of you and still holding that bit of hope for a miracle as per your name

I'm so very sorry, @Miraclemuma03. Lots of love to you. I wish we could come and give you some support - definitely hug your children tight, and look after yourself.

@Miraclemuma03 That must have been so hard to hear and then having to carry on with your day. I'm so sorry and have everything crossed for you. Xx

So my family is as it again. Unfortunately I got a speech from my mum that pretty much went, dont get upset about it, I knew this would happen, why do you do this to yourself, maybe this time it will teach you not to try again, your too old and your body is tired and then she got hurt and upset when I told her she was not being supportive, im most likely going to lose this pregnancy and it is upsetting and then she hung up on me. So its a great family bonding moment as usual.

I'm sorry @Miraclemuma03 that's not what you need to hear is it? Sending you lots of hugs.

That's awful; I'm so sorry.

I think hanging up on your mum was the right thing to do.

People can be absolutely awful about pregnancy loss. I find it so cruel. Don't let her comments sit with you.

@Miraclemuma03 My late mum would have been similarly blunt, they are just not the ones to give comfort or empathy at such times. It's like they're trying to rationalize it and have some control over the script but no, not what is needed at all. This is such a difficult time with yet more uncertainty. Hope you're able to do whatever you need right now. Thinking of you. Xx

@miraclemuma03 Try to ignore the negativity, its not what you need right now and just because someone's blood doesn't mean they're the best person to be there for you. However the main thing is there are people. Like us 😉

I'm praying for just one child here. I'm 37 with years of rotten luck.
Yesterday I had my scan and saw the heartbeat and could not believe it. It feels like this is happening but I know its early days! Measured 6 weeks and 2 days which apparently is very positive!

@ClaireBear101 Congratulations that's great news and once you've seen the heartbeat it's much more likely to be all good. Xx

That's wonderful @ClaireBear101 - such a good sign!

@ClaireBear101 thats great news. Stay positive this could very well be your little one.

Had my first midwife appointment today...so many questions..I also found a couple of things out about my son's birth that I never even knew...8 yrs ago! Still all very surreal for me...but a good experience and so far so good. I'm 9 weeks today. Hopefully 12 weeks scan will be quite soon though not necessarily at 12 weeks.

9 weeks already thats amazing. Come on 12 week scan. Glad your appointment went.

How are you doing, @Miraclemuma03? I'm thinking of you.

Hope everyone else is ok too - and staying warm!