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October FET

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InfertilitySWS · 25/08/2025 03:27

Hi! I’m starting the process of a FET in September, transferring a 4AB early October. Trying for baby number two. Anyone else? Would be great to have people to talk to amongst the symptom spotting, line eyes and general freak outs ☺️

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Miraclemuma03 · 09/10/2025 11:29

Ok so because my clinic does not open over the weekend and I need a scan and bloods day 10 which lands on a saturday, I need to go in on friday instead which will be day 9 and then we are going to make a plan from there depending on how everything looks on the scan and what my hormones are doing. So best case will be I need to go back on the monday for more scans and bloods or I can trigger on day 9. The absolutely worst case is that I have to transfer next cycle and start medications to get on to the clinics time line and to be honest I dont want to do that, my transfer has been pushed out bow for 3 months because of one thing or another and at this point really want to get it done, if that makes sense.

waitingforourmiracle · 09/10/2025 11:33

@Miraclemuma03 the consultant is going to call me this afternoon so hopefully get a plan going forward, it's just the disappointment of the build up to go back to waiting, I find the waiting the hardest part!

@sunflower1906 I've been on 3 patches called everol 100 and I've been taking 75mg aspirin too this time, I wonder if they suggest oral tablets, I had them for my first FET at a different clinic and my lining was 7mm so still on the low side but not as bad as this.

Sorry I haven't caught up on everyone messages xx

sunflower1906 · 09/10/2025 11:42

@SarahAndQuack i think we did cross post 🤣 im sorry to hear about your clinic issues and if your not happy definitely within your rights to make a complaint, nothing will ever change otherwise! Glad im not the only one that thinks like that I guess this whole process robs you of the joy and excitement of starting or expanding your family.

I really do hate how the meds mimic early pregnancy symptoms it really does keep you guessing and the paranoia is real! I’m pretty sure the lack of bloating doesn’t mean anything and I bet by the evening the bloat will have crept back in. I’m so bloated these last 2 days and not even started the progesterone yet 🙈

@Miraclemuma03 glad the fertility nurse nurse really put your mind to rest about your little embryo, I’ve always tried to go with the idea that they wouldn’t freeze it if there was no chance of it working but oh how we like to google and ask chat GPT everything hoping to get so sort positivity back , this is bloody hard going! Although I do remember reading somewhere that slower developing embryos are more likely to be girls? This is most likely anecdotal but still the random things we come across 🤣🤣 isn’t it so annoying how you have to fit into the clinics schedule, that’s not ideal they close at the weekends 🙈 but it sounds like u have a good plan to work around it so hoping it all goes well 🤞🏼🤞🏼

@waitingforourmiracle that’s good news the consultant will ring you later today maybe the patches don’t agree with you? Hopefully you can come up with a plan for the next cycle, although I understand your frustration at starting the waiting game again xx

Miraclemuma03 · 09/10/2025 11:43

waitingforourmiracle · 09/10/2025 11:33

@Miraclemuma03 the consultant is going to call me this afternoon so hopefully get a plan going forward, it's just the disappointment of the build up to go back to waiting, I find the waiting the hardest part!

@sunflower1906 I've been on 3 patches called everol 100 and I've been taking 75mg aspirin too this time, I wonder if they suggest oral tablets, I had them for my first FET at a different clinic and my lining was 7mm so still on the low side but not as bad as this.

Sorry I haven't caught up on everyone messages xx

The waiting and then the build up just to be let down is the hardest part about ivf, all the hoops you Have to jump through and the shit that just doesnt play ball is frustrating and all the costs involved for it to not work can make anyone go crazy. The yoyoing of emotions, the drugs and the bad news sometimes is hard to process. We have been waiting 3 months now to transfer our last embryo because of one thing or another and all I can think about in the lead up to this transfer is im going to get a phone call on my drive to the clinic which by the way is a 2hr one way trip, that my embryo didnt survive thaw. Or I can transfer this cycle because my body didnt work naturally around the clinics time table as they dont do weekends.

waitingforourmiracle · 09/10/2025 12:35

@sunflower1906 @Miraclemuma03 the clinic have just called and said they're going to add in oral tablets 3 times a day as well as patches, I have to take progesterone pessaries for 5 days then can start on my bleed, better than I thought, was thinking it was going to be another wait for a full cycle! @Miraclemuma03 I really hope things go smoothly for you and you have your transfer and it's successful! X

Miraclemuma03 · 09/10/2025 12:48

waitingforourmiracle · 09/10/2025 12:35

@sunflower1906 @Miraclemuma03 the clinic have just called and said they're going to add in oral tablets 3 times a day as well as patches, I have to take progesterone pessaries for 5 days then can start on my bleed, better than I thought, was thinking it was going to be another wait for a full cycle! @Miraclemuma03 I really hope things go smoothly for you and you have your transfer and it's successful! X

Thats great news. I really hope that works out and you can move forward with a transfer.

SarahAndQuack · 09/10/2025 13:03

waitingforourmiracle · 09/10/2025 09:55

Hey everyone, rubbish update from me, went for my second lining scan today and it's gone from 6.3mm last Friday to 5.2mm today so transfer has been cancelled, cried my whole way to work, gutted😢has anyone else had an issue with this in the past?
Best of luck to everyone in the 2ww x

Oh, no, I am so sorry. How gutting. I hope they give you some good answers about what they will do next time. It's horrible.

Oh - just seen your update. That's really good, if they can carry on with this cycle. Fingers very crossed for you.

SarahAndQuack · 09/10/2025 13:16

@Miraclemuma03 - That anxiety is horrible, isn't it! I find it especially hard when you know it's something to do with the clinic's opening hours - I know they have to staff it how they can, but it can be so frustrating!

As to my clinic not being up to scratch - I won't go into the worst bit as it genuinely is something pretty awful that I need to make a formal complaint about. But it's been a few things - they keep prescribing medicine they can't dispense, which pharmacies don't stock, and putting me down to start it the same day (or a few days after) they prescribe it, so I have no time to track it down. I find that stressful and really annoying.

And they were shit both times about aneuploid embryos. I know to them it's just medical waste. But the first time, they didn't even give us 24 hours before they started sending multiple emails insisting we sign forms to have them destroyed, so we had no opportunity to discuss the results. I did complain then, and just got this formulaic reply saying they 'didn't realise' these were PGT-A embryos (not sure why that made any difference!) and to 'have a lovely Christmas!' This second time, they said I could talk to the embryologist about the PGT-A stuff before embryo transfer, but he actually chose to talk to me about it when I was lying on the table in a gown, with my legs open and a speculum up there. I didn't know if my only euploid embryo had survived thawing (I didn't know if they did it in advance of the scan for FET or not), and he just asked if I wanted to destroy them. Obviously no time to ask questions there either, but it also really upset me going into the transfer.

It's really silly, but they'd said at the first meeting we'd have opportunities to discuss it all, and I really wanted to ask questions before we destroyed them.

SarahAndQuack · 09/10/2025 13:23

(I sort of wouldn't mind, or wouldn't mind as much, if they were just very clinical and unemotional about the whole thing, but they also did this weird celebratory thing after the embryo transfer - handing out a box of chocolates - and I got the very strong sense they felt I was being a spoilsport by not being all giggly and joyful. But I can't jump from feeling sad about the aneuploid ones to being all hopeful about a transfer that, honestly, we all know is a long shot.)

Sara237 · 09/10/2025 19:39

@waitingforourmiracle Sorry to hear you've had such a stressful day, glad you can continue this cycle rather than starting all over.
@sunflower1906 I completely relate to that detachment and the hope/fear dichotomy. It's so draining. I've been going through so many emotions in past few days. Better today. What you're feeling is our brain's way of managing all this hideous uncertainty imo.
@SarahAndQuack That clinic... horrendous. It's a money making production line first and foremost but it'd be reasonable to expect some actual empathy. I'm so shocked about their crass insensitivity. Dreadful. Pottering around the garden is my idea of heaven. I'm stuck indoors next two days but will be doing some pottering this weekend too.
I'm crampy, headachy, shoulder ache, all my usual PMT signs but I had the decapeptyl injection so don't think period is coming. Like everyone else, the prospect of starting all over again is just hideous. But not feeling too positive.

SarahAndQuack · 09/10/2025 20:56

Oh, that sounds rough. But does also sound very like the side-effects of meds? It's such a bloody pain. I would marry the person who can invent IVF meds that don't have side effects that overlap with pregnancy/PMT, wouldn't you?! We could all be like 'yeah, the meds are turning my tongue blue and I have a little whistling sound in my ear, but I feel sick as a dog so I reckon this is it.' Wouldn't that be nice!

I hope you get through tomorrow ok, and when the time comes I hope the weather is beautiful for that garden pottering.

Mamafromtheblock · 09/10/2025 21:03

I’m so sorry to hear about your clinic @SarahAndQuack. This process is stressful and emotionally exhausting already without anyone adding to it! I don’t think my clinic have been anywhere near as bad but they do also like to make prescribing/actually getting your hands on meds as difficult as possible! Had issues with previous cycles and now this time round if positive on OTD then I need more medication the following day but they won’t sign the script until results are confirmed, they then post the prescription which usually takes a couple of days and my pharmacy need 2 working days to order in so I think I’m looking at 4 days with no meds 😐I know I should be more worried about it but I’m so convinced it hasn’t worked so won’t be an issue!
@Miraclemuma03 completely get where you’re coming from. It’s very unfair to expect your body to fit into office hours! Really hope all aligns for you
My TWW is 2 days later than with last transfer, im guessing because it would fall on a Saturday. I’m currently 9dp5dt and probably going to test on either Saturday or Sunday. Anyone else thinking of testing early?
@waitingforourmiracle such good news! Fingers crossed your lining improves and it’s smooth sailing from here

Sara237 · 09/10/2025 22:07

Out of interest , do you all have a test date 14 days after transfer? I find it weird that mine is only 9 days after...I mean I'm glad in one way as a shorter wait!

cakeislife1234 · 09/10/2025 22:08

Mine is 13 but I know full well I prob won’t make it past the weekend before testing! I’m only 2dp5dt today!

SarahAndQuack · 09/10/2025 23:03

Mine is 11 - FET was last Thursday and they want me to test Monday. Different again!

Mamafromtheblock · 10/10/2025 03:20

Mines 13 too but as I said was 11 last time! Feels like they just draw a day at random 😂

Miraclemuma03 · 10/10/2025 04:23

@Mamafromtheblock your nearly at the end of your 2ww. I hope you get your positive.

My clinic havnt ordered my meds as yet, usually on day 1 they are ordered and you pay for them but I rang both the chemist and ivf clinic this morning and they had not been ordered yet. Waiting still to hear back from someone. This is unlike my clinic to not have things organised and in place.

Mamafromtheblock · 10/10/2025 06:22

@Miraclemuma03 thank you! Hope you hear back today and it’s all under control. Trying to be as least stressed as possible this transfer but there’s always something round the corner!

SarahAndQuack · 10/10/2025 07:44

Well, I'd convinced myself I was out and so I cracked and tested, and it looks as if actually I'm in. I know it's a long road and might not stick, but it's a milestone just to get a positive. Whew. I hope there's lots more to come.

Miraclemuma03 · 10/10/2025 09:09

SarahAndQuack · 10/10/2025 07:44

Well, I'd convinced myself I was out and so I cracked and tested, and it looks as if actually I'm in. I know it's a long road and might not stick, but it's a milestone just to get a positive. Whew. I hope there's lots more to come.

Thats great news you got a positive test. Take a breather and go from there. Take one step at a time and allow yourself to feel happy. All that matters at this particular moment is that you are pregnant, try not to worry about anything else and take in the moment.

SarahAndQuack · 10/10/2025 09:12

Thanks @Miraclemuma03. That's good advice.

Hope you and everyone else is doing well this morning. I'm going to go weed someone's garden for three hours, so I hope it warms up soon!

Miraclemuma03 · 10/10/2025 09:15

SarahAndQuack · 10/10/2025 09:12

Thanks @Miraclemuma03. That's good advice.

Hope you and everyone else is doing well this morning. I'm going to go weed someone's garden for three hours, so I hope it warms up soon!

Its 6.15pm here in qld australia so its that time were we are settling in for the night. I didnt hear back from my clinic or the chemist so now I have to wait until monday.

SarahAndQuack · 10/10/2025 09:22

Miraclemuma03 · 10/10/2025 09:15

Its 6.15pm here in qld australia so its that time were we are settling in for the night. I didnt hear back from my clinic or the chemist so now I have to wait until monday.

Oh, I didn't realise you were in Australia. How frustrating! It makes me really angry they haven't got back to you. It seems so cruel when they must know it can be really stressful. I hope you're able to distract yourself through the weekend.

InfertilitySWS · 10/10/2025 15:09

@SarahAndQuack congrats!!

I got my BFP today too, shocked is an understatement!

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sunflower1906 · 10/10/2025 15:13

@SarahAndQuack and @InfertilitySWS thats such amazing news on your positive tests so happy for u both. Lovely to hear some positive news on this thread let’s hope it continues with more positives to come 🤞🏼🤞🏼

@Miraclemuma03 sorry to hear that you haven’t heard back from anyone yet that sounds so frustrating and stressful! When do u need your medication for? Hoping it won’t be too late for you when they open on Monday xx