IVF babies due 2026?

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Hi - I couldn’t find a thread but just wondered if anyone else was expecting in 2026 post ivf? I’m due end of Feb so just wanting any similar ladies to chat with!

I’ve been to one baby shower where it was high tea at the ivy and it was £75, this was a good friend of mind so I didn’t mind splashing out. Other baby showers I’ve been to the host has paid so i think it’s bizarre organising a baby shower and have your guests pay? I wouldn’t dare host and expect others to pay. I’m the same I don’t want to tempt fate so we’re not having a baby shower either. We are having a “sip and see” 6 weeks after the baby’s born. That way it’s our way of saying to people “bugger off and leave us to our baby bubble” and also it stops us having to entertain multiple people at different times when I’m more than likely going to want to slob out and look like a tramp for a weeks whilst in the newborn trenches 😂

@lemonwrighty @Orangewillow yep i was the same with "tempting fate" but i did have something small at my -mum's house and they put on a little spread of food for everyone. was quite nice :)

@lemonwrighty Baby showers trigger me too but it's probably all the years of infertility talking. I find them incredibly self indulgent, boring, and expecting people to pay towards the event or expensive gifts is unacceptable to me. I used to be so bitter about people wanting me to contribute despite getting a free baby meanwhile I've spent >£70k on IVF and get nothing at all. Also, again my bitterness talking, don't have a kid if you can't afford a pram...

I think after the baby is here, maybe a few months old, we will have a dinner that we will pay for and request no gifts. Having a baby is enough of a gift and we want to celebrate it with our friends and family - not ask others to pay to celebrate us especially as we don't know what everyone's situation is and whether they are struggling with infertility or finding a partner.

Yep
4 grew fast
2 didnt
But 3 of super fast ones were abnornal in pgta testing due to age / pcos

@Timetotryagain I think having something small and intimate at your mums is lovely because they’re memories you’ll treasure and it’s more than likely they were friends and family you are seriously close to.

@SamVan I completely understand where your feelings are with baby showers being triggering. It’s not for me.

Hope everyone is doing well on their journey. Im 18+4 and my goodness i’m so uncomfortable, back ache and under the boob rib pain, the only way for me to be comfortable is if I'm laying down. Not ideal when you work in an office so might request to wfh until it goes away.

@SamVanI’ve just re-read what I wrote to you and i made it sound like baby showers are not triggering for me, I didn’t mean that. I meant to say having a baby shower are not for me. sorry if I came across insensitive, that wasn’t my intention.

@lemonwrighty Oh don't worry! I understood you the first time and it didn't come across insensitive at all.

I think what @Timetotryagain had sounds lovely though. That's such a nice way to do it.

@lemonwrightyi think that is so so cheeky to expect guests to pay for it ! 😱😱

I’m another one who is not a big baby shower fan. I won’t be having one but I don’t think I would have had one anyway regardless of all the IVF.

I’m having my worst hormone day so far. Not sure how other people are coping with their hormones. Mine have been fine until today where they are all of a sudden RAGING. I went to cook dinner and realised my broccoli had turned bad and honestly it almost pushed me over the edge 🤦🏻‍♀️😮‍💨 SO MUCH ANGER. OVER BROCCOLI.

@lemons44 Omg my broccoli has gone bad when I was supposed to having it for dinner too 😂. It’s all floppy. This is NOT OK from the broccolis

I've had rage the last couple of days too at work, everything breaking, deliveries not showing up and its made me enraged, not doing a very good job if hiding it either...

haha bad broccoli is very upsetting!

Haha so much rage for bad broccoli 😂

@magpie234 how funny we both had the same thing! 🤣

@lemonwrighty I’m fine with baby showers generally but expecting everyone to fork out £90 is nuts! In my friendship group people have done more of a pre-baby lunch which has been really nice as it’s hard to get everyone together as a group now that lots have children. And with a newborn life can get very busy for a while!

For me it’s more about showing love and support to the mum (the baby gets all that once it’s actually born!)
I had a baby shower with my first. After years of infertility it was felt special to do something happy and normal that at one point I thought I’d never get to do. (But also it was hosted by family and my guests weren’t charged to attend!)

Is anyone else huge? I’m only 11w but my belly is the size of my friends who are 20w. I’m really concerned! I assume it’s just bloat but the books and websites suggest I shouldn’t be showing yet so I’m concerned.

@SamVan i am huge but its my 2nd so think my body knows what to do (i also did have quite a big bump with my first but theres less room for baby due to being shorter ahha! Probably some of it is bloat but think some people hust show earlier

I'm 19+4 and bunp is varying a lot! Often in mornings it doesn't look much and later in thr day it pops out... keep thinking it should be bigger but I'm fairly tall and have a long torso, so it can take longer to really show I think. I'm feeling a bit more movement, still sporadic and not every day, but I've felt a few little flutters since late last week

@Orangewillow thats exciting you are feeling movement 💕💕 i maybe have felt some flutters/ butterflies but until it gets more distinguishable i wont reslly consider it feeling them yet haha

Can be bloat / can be due to ivf

Im nearly 16w now & look preg

I think this can vary @SamVanand can depend on people’s frame etc. I’m 20 weeks on Sunday and I’m in the ‘fat or pregnant’ stage. Everyone’s bump will be different so try not worry x

@SamVan I have suffered terribly with bloat and I had a very big bloated belly from quite early on. Are u still on progesterone? As that may be contributing to it.

Having said that I think it was about 11 weeks I started to notice a swelling in my uterus. So basically just behind where my knickers sit it had swollen out and I believe (in my limited pregnancy knowledge!) that is the start of a bump that then pushes everything else up and out.

I was huge in the early stages and still am, a lot of people actually thought I may be carrying twins until my 12 week scan when they told me baby it’s only a single pregnancy and is measuring as it should, I was still convinced I was carrying twins because of how big I was until my 16 weeks scan when it showed again a single baby. When you have your 12 week scan it’ll be reassuring to know how the baby is measuring. Bump sizes vary between women anyway, I don’t even look pregnant in the morning but by the evening I look like I’m about to give birth.

Sitting in hospital car park waiting for the big scan and so nervous I feel like I might throw up. Hope everyone is doing ok

Good luck @confused2025 xx

Thanks @lemons44.it took ages but the sonographer was v patient. With the position of the baby though they couldn’t tell gender but the important thing was everything was measuring how it should be and where it should be. The relief x

What a relief @confused2025! So glad all is fine for you.
Were you debating whether or not to find out the gender? If so maybe it’s your sign to have a surprise 😀 if not, maybe you can book a private scan for a few days time? then hopefully they will see 🤞🏼

Interestingly as we were finding out through NIPT we had a scan 2 days before we got our NIPT result when I was 11weeks and about 3 days. I said to the sonographer we were finding out in a few days anyway so happy for her to have a stab at a guess and she did say boy, which obviously turned out to be correct. The sonographer at our NHS scan at 13 weeks also said she could see the boy parts very obviously. I think it comes down to luck with how baby is behaving on the scan! Our 13 weeks scan baby is actually facing upside down like he’s swimming front stroke 🏊🏼 so although we could see his gender clearly the scan picture looks really bizarre 🤣

hope you are able to have a nice, relaxed weekend knowing everything looked fine
xx